Annoying Single Males

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by mojo1921

I AM A MALE FROM OHIO I AGREE CAN YOU INTRO ME TO SO OF YOUR FRIENDS IN OHIO ON LINE I LIVE IN COLUMBUS AND AM NEW TO THE BOARD.

I think mojo needs to buy some commas and periods!!

[dlflorida]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

Ohio is a state has a large number of square miles. It takes a lot of shouting to have your voice heard there.

Having grown up in Columbus, I am aware of the size of Ohio

[Mr.Essex]

"Annoying" is relative. I've been at clubs where men were regulated to one specific area and ordered not to bother the couples and clubs where the men were encouraged to talk to as many couples as possible. If a single male is conditioned to stay in his corner, then he can and will be considered "annoying" for letting loose when he attends a freer environment and he can be considered "annoying" for sitting at the bar and staring at the pretty ladies (yes, I'm talking about myself here.)

In your case, however, it would have been best if you'd talked to one of the bouncers and had him kicked out or "dissuaded" from bothering the two of you.

[rathor]

Originally Posted by exploringRM

So does the lifestyle push single males to be annoying or are there just annoying single males? (and perhaps you can expand that into couples as I read here they can be pushy though we've encoutered any in person).

.. SNIP...

Guys like me get disrespect sometimes because of a**holes like him

[PB&J]

Okay, here's the ultimate single men video, courtesy of Flight of the Conchords:
YouTube - Flight of the Conchords - Too Many Dicks on the Dance Floor.
Perfect!

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by PB&J

Okay, here's the ultimate single men video, courtesy of Flight of the Conchords:
YouTube - Flight of the Conchords - Too Many Dicks on the Dance Floor.
Perfect!

Heh I can't give you rep right now but that was perfect.

[Mr TybeeSwing]

Hello All,

I thought that I would throw my two cents into this since I have been on both sides of the aisle so to speak. I am a fairly new single guy in the Lifestyle but not new to the Lifestyle, my ex and I were in it on and off for about 5 years. I reread my divorce papers and I couldn't find where she got custody of the Lifestyle after we split. Before you ask the Lifestyle had nothing to do with our split and we are still on good terms; just different paths.

I will agree, without restraint, that allot if not most single guys in the Lifestyle are not in the Lifestyle but looking for the "Easy" lay. But there are a few, of which I consider myself, that like the atmosphere, the openness, and the fun that comes from the more uninhibited scene that is that Lifestyle. I live by some simple rules when dealing with couples; I will never contact a couple on a site unless they expressly state that they are looking for single males, I will never approach a lady at an event unless she is with her husband and they BOTH have to approve of me, and as always a NO or No Thank you means that they are shifted into the possible friends only category.

My only gripe/complaint/observation is the none too subtle double standard that is in the Lifestyle. Ask 10 couples in the Lifestyle if single men are in the Lifestyle and you will probably get at least 8 no's, 1 maybe, and 1 "I guess". Ask the same 10 couples if a single woman is in the Lifestyle you will probably get 9 yeses and 1 "God I Hope So". Why is this? We are supposed to be a equal society with men and women, or is that just the politically correct thing to say. Like I said before most single guys are in it for the "Easy" lay, but what are the women in it for?

Now for my last thought..I don't believe that singles of either sex can truly be in the Lifestyle as it is defined today, but if you look at the way the "Swingers Scene" was in 60's and early 70's you are talking more about the Free Love movement, just without the hair.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by PB&J

Okay, here's the ultimate single men video, courtesy of Flight of the Conchords:
YouTube - Flight of the Conchords - Too Many Dicks on the Dance Floor.
Perfect!

Ha ha ha!! Thank you!

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by Mr TybeeSwing

My only gripe/complaint/observation is the none too subtle double standard that is in the Lifestyle. Ask 10 couples in the Lifestyle if single men are in the Lifestyle and you will probably get at least 8 no's, 1 maybe, and 1 "I guess". Ask the same 10 couples if a single woman is in the Lifestyle you will probably get 9 yeses and 1 "God I Hope So". Why is this? We are supposed to be a equal society with men and women, or is that just the politically correct thing to say. Like I said before most single guys are in it for the "Easy" lay, but what are the women in it for?

I had a kinda ugly female friend who lived out of state from me. She and her husband were going splitsville and he gave her a free pass to do whatever. I knew they were going to divorce of course but they didn't know it yet. Anyways she wanted to play poly and hoping that MAYBE they could salvage something and knowing that doesn't work I suggested swinging.

Now as I said, she wasn't attractive on a few levels, but she did try swinging and she was inundated with couples. Her dance card would have never been empty thats for sure. She decided after a few times that swinging wasn't going to be her thing, she decided to go 'poly' and of course ended up with her poly partner and is now divorced (both are much happier).

So whats the long rambling thing about? Basically the rules are always different for women. Even being mostly unattractive, she was able to find a new man (she was a geek, he was a geek, match made in heaven) almost instantly.

We are not an equal society, and never will be in this sort of thing as our genes work otherwise.

I do agree with you about single women not being considered part of the lifestyle though, and while I find most single men desperate I have found most single women insane. I say most because again, its not all but its a large proportion. Lets face it a single woman who wants sex has very little problem getting it if they are remotely attractive, a generally attractive woman could sleep with a new man almost every night without fail if she wanted, if she wanted bi there is that too, they dont' NEED swinging, so there are reasons they swing. Some are going through a phase and maybe swinging is safer, some maybe were part of a swinger couple prior, but we have seen the problems they can cause, which is why we stopped looking for single women.

[BiloxiCouple]

For every annoying single male, I have seen as many annoying married men and couples and maybe more.

It's that they are socially inept. Enough alcohol, sometimes I am socially inept

Seriously, I watched a couple a while back that irritated every couple visiting and the singles. I was warned about them. I managed to avoid them and watch them.

Swinging is a small world and your reputation can precede you. For them it did.