how do i act at a hotel party?

[tongo22]

So im signed up for a swingers party at a hotel as a single guy. Anything i should expect? i know there will likely be more men then women, and i prefer women. I mean i dont want to go home empty handed however.

how do people act at these parties? is it all fucking? or like any party, where i may get laid if i play my cards right?

22m bisexual(sorta)

[N8ture Girl]

Welcome to the board. Single males are a dime a dozen at parties. Be polite, respectful, and don't be pushy. Don't have your hopes of getting laid set too high. Not all couples are seeking a single guy. And do not have any expectations, you will be dissapointed if you have them.

As far has what goes on at swinger parties, depends of the kind of party. Is it a on premise or off premise party? Big differences between the two. There are also hotel parties, house parties, meet and greets, they are all different. Knowing what kind of party it is would help in giving you and idea of what to expect.

Good luck!

[TNT]

Originally Posted by tongo22

So im signed up for a swingers party at a hotel as a single guy. Anything i should expect? i know there will likely be more men then women, and i prefer women. I mean i dont want to go home empty handed however.

how do people act at these parties? is it all fucking? or like any party, where i may get laid if i play my cards right?

22m bisexual(sorta)

to the Board.

The first thing I'd suggest is that you take the time to read over as many post as you can, especially in the Singles & Swinging Forum, they will give you a much better understanding of what is expected from a single man in the swinging world and what swinging is about.

One of the first things you need to understand is that going to a swingers party does NOT guarantee you a night of sex. In fact, chances are you will leave empty handed. Swinger parties are NOT all fucking. Sex does happen but at socials (parties held at hotels) there is usually quite a bit of socializing going on. Since the party you said you are signed up for is at a hotel, I'm going to guess it's being held in a private banquet room and sex won't be allowed to happen in that room.

People act like people at swinger parties...they talk, they laugh, they dance and sometimes, sex happens.

If you think that just because you're going to a swingers party that you're going to walk into a room full of naked people having an orgy, and all you have to do is show up to join in, you're going to be very disappointed.

As a single man, it will be much harder for you to be accepted into the swinging world than if you were half of a couple. It's not impossible, there are a lot of great single men in swinging and although most couples prefer other couples, there are a lot of couples who do enjoy the company of a single man.

Your first job is to prove that you can be one of those great single men and that starts by showing people respect and that you truly do get what swinging is about.


Teresa

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by TNT

. . . People act like people at swinger parties...they talk, they laugh, they dance and sometimes, sex happens. . .

As accurate a description of a swingers' party that I have ever seen.


I too WELCOME you, tongo22, to the Swingersboard. I hope you are liking what you find here.

~Michael

[SecretAsianMan]

Originally Posted by tongo22

So im signed up for a swingers party at a hotel as a single guy. Anything i should expect? i know there will likely be more men then women, and i prefer women. I mean i dont want to go home empty handed however.

how do people act at these parties? is it all fucking? or like any party, where i may get laid if i play my cards right?

22m bisexual(sorta)

Your mileage will vary depending on the type of party that the host/hostess sets ... some parties are simple gatherings of a group of folk in a hotel room specifically for sex. Others will set it up like a "Meat-n-Greet" where you'll gather and mingle for a while and people are free to indulge with whatever willing partners they find there.

Don't walk in EXPECTING to get laid - that's the most sure-fire way you'll end up feeling frustrated and hating your experience.

Go into it like you would any other social event.

- Meet people & mingle.

- Enjoy the time you spend with these folk...

- IF you're invited to play - do so with respect to your partners boundaries (don't stick it anywhere before asking if it's okay - don't cum anywhere they're not comfortable with)

- Bring your own condoms (and/or lube) & WEAR your condom during intercourse (ALWAYS keep it on and throw it away - along with the wrapper - after you're done ... don't make the hosts clean up after you)

- Do NOT sexually touch anyone (not even a casual groping) unless you're invited to

- Don't get sloppy or drunk

- Don't damage the hotel unless you're willing to compensate the hosts for these damages.

Check with your host/hostess ... *most* of the swinger groups I've been to aren't exactly keen on bisexual male activities - so be sure to check with them before you do anything they'd be uncomfortable with.

And thank your hosts for inviting you. Even if you don't play with anyone there (for whatever reason)

[tongo22]

so what if im going to a gang bang earlier in the day?

[TNT]

Originally Posted by tongo22

so what if im going to a gang bang earlier in the day?

So? What if you are? Same rules apply.

A gang-bang may be a hardcore swinging type experience but that doesn't mean that common courtesy and respect are thrown out the window. The host and hostess are the ones who make the rules....FOLLOW THOSE RULES.

A gang-bang is primarily for the woman's pleasure. Yes, her husband/SO and the other men involved are there to have fun too but, it's HER enjoyment that is/should be their primary focus.

SecretAsianMan gave you some very sound advice in his post...follow it no matter what type of swinging experience you find yourself in.


Teresa

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by TNT

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Your first job is to prove that you can be one of those great single men and that starts by showing people respect and that you truly do get what swinging is about.

That about sums up the first thing Mrs Diggs and I would look for in a single guy. Go there with the intention of meeting some new friends and if your lucky, maybe it will turn into friends with benefits.

[tongo22]

it was great. i went to the swing party and got a great bj. well several times.

[Additude]

Any other intimate details you'd care to share? (Say Yes now).

Inquiring minds wanna know....

Don't just throw a little morsel out there and expect us to be satisified. That my friend is nothing more than a tease.

[tongo22]

Group sex was pretty fuckin cool. had my first threesome albeit mmf but the bjs i got were awesome.