Synchronous?

[Karmickiss]

Hi All,
I just wanted to share a little bit. It might be this is not the proper forum, but I'll give it a go. I just am sitting back, and noticing certain things taking place, at just the right time, in just the right way.

For one thing, I was referring a couple I know to this place....I don't know what happened with it, it's not really my business, just wanted to offer a great resource. As I came on here to see what was going on....still the same unique place...I realized with no room form doubt, that I was ready,now again. I also saw that having had certain life changing experiences in general, has given me a new perspective and I am confident with the kind of thing I'm looking for. I've bought into the theroy that what I want around me, is what I will attract, if I am sincere.

Then I went to check out online the club I once went to forever ago...and they also are doing great, like this place. Tomorrow I am meeting a couple I met through the site connected to the club, and having dinner with them in an area I am familiar and comfortable with. I've got a nice feeling inside.

So, the couple asking got me here...then the desire to go meet locals, and through that met this couple I'm meeting, and then there was one final twist to all that, tonight. I ran into a young man that I've known for years. He's younger and nice looking and nice personality. He was friendly with my late partner. I always thought there was a underlying sexual tension....but usually I was with someone older than me, if it was a man. So often think the younger guys are probably not looking at me in that way..

So, I've known this young man for several years. One or the other was with a SO throughout the friendship, until now, both being single. He took me aside tonight...and he actually brought up the topic of swinging, and how he always had the interest, but never the opportunity. I don't advertize that I swing...so really took me off guard, though of course, my late partner knew that about me..as a part of my history...and ok'd some girls, so they may have talked about it..being friends but I don't know for sure.If that's the case, than it seems incredible that it be brought up now. I was flattered, in his mid 20's, very attractive and charming. He said he liked a slightly older woman, and that he'd always thought about it, with us...etc. I am attracted to him, and we have a nice friendship, but would not be lookng for a relationship out of it, if anything did happen. I take time to think about things especially like this. It did feel nice, though

There is chemistry, but neither one of us ever said anything to each other, b/c neither one of would have done that, if one or the other is in a relationship. He then was talking about tantra and I was just writing about that, yesterday, and was describing this to the couple I'm meeting tomorrow. I haven't made up my mind in either way. I'm taking it a day at a time, literally, and want to trust intuition, and see where it all takes me. It's just amazing to me...how many things lined up as I found myself in a good feeling position.

It's just that I find it interesting, the unspoken things, body language, maybe..and/or just the right "vibe". I feel that as I've matured so has the people that are coming into my life right now. I'll make decisions as I go.....Has anyone here felt that things seem to present themselves if we are only open, with perfect timing? Or does it feel more random?

I'm wishing everyone well......Thanks all for being here, and for "listening"... Best, karmic

[JustAskJulie]

I always say that things happen when they should happen. Sounds like the stars are lining up for you, just know that they are happening the way they are because they are supposed to.

[bbarnsworth]

It's hard to know. These are metaphysical questions with answers beyond our ken. Is it possible? Perhaps. I do feel the hand of God, so to speak, in my life from time to time. Different things happen and I think about the odds being incredibly against such an occurrence, yet it happens. Of course, the odds-against-things have to happen eventually, or there'd be no odds

Who knows?

Personally, I see too much non-randomness in unusual things happening for me to believe there isn't some aspect of it that is being influenced by things we know not.

Many couples have a "this is odd about us in an unusual circumstance way" thing about them, or more than one such things...like both having owned a Ford Escort as their first car, or something like that. My wife and I have these too. But, there's two particular things within that set of things that are astronomically odds against ever happening. Yet, both happened. It's mind bogglingly impossible.

Sometimes random people crashing into people like atoms in the air feel a certain push, rationale, something that has caused the random occurrence. Maybe that has happened here with you.

Counter point; there was a woman in college of whom I thought the world. She and I _clicked_. From the first moment, there was a solid connection between us. It was always there. Yet, we never acted on it. Reason; kind of like you, we were never both single (in the sense of not having a SO of some kind) at the same time. It never panned out. I've lost track of her, and despite quite a bit of searching by me, and an intense amount of searching for her by a mutual friend, we've never been able to find her again. C'est la vie. Not meant to be.

[Karmickiss]

Hi Julie, Hi bbarnsworth,
Oh my gosh...I totally forgot about writing this, but am still feeling like there is, or maybe just more noticing these different series of events that are simply falling into place. It's kind of an interesting thing, to me...b/c of course, there have been times in my life where I felt like everything was random, cold happenstance.

I realize this was kind of vague....for a thread....maybe it's just a part of the ongoing transitions in life, and having some more acceptance is helping me find ryhmes and reasons for all things.

I was just thinking about it tonight, when I went out to do a few errands....that of all the places in the world, I found this board. I have no idea how I found it...probably a random search result a long time ago....but that there was something special here and when I was ready I'm glad that I came back. I feel like the same attitudes and goals I'd have for myself just alone, wouldn't be the same without having the advantage of coming here and learning and sharing.

A good weekend to all.....karmic

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by Karmickiss

I realize this was kind of vague....for a thread....maybe it's just a part of the ongoing transitions in life, and having some more acceptance is helping me find ryhmes and reasons for all things.

Humans beings strive desperately hard to find patterns in things. It's completely unconscious, but we do it. Tkae for exmaple the sutdy taht was done wehre resaecrhers fuond if you jubmled the lettres in wrods but kept the frist and lsat lteters corrcet, reading speed did not diminish by much. Your brain isn't really reading the word. It's matching a previously seen pattern to things it sees. "Ok, it begins with that letter, ends with that letter, is that length, and has those letters in it...that word must be 'researchers' and I won't care if it's not spelled correctly, only report to other areas of that brain that I saw 'researchers'".

The same thing happens in our attempts to apply patterns to random events, random meetings in life. For some, they find magic and external control in random events. For others, it's a random event with a different meaning entirely. For yet others, it's just random.

Is spirituality found only in the matching of patterns to random events? I don't think so. Mainly, I'm noting that one can take it too far. But, also noting that ignoring it can lead you to completely ignore the butterfly sitting on the branch outside for twenty minutes, or the butterfly flitting about in sub-freezing temperatures when no butterfly has business flying around.

Somewhere betwixt the two wisdom is found (among other places). Ascertaining it is a life long endeavor. The ignorance of it is a life of emptiness.

Originally Posted by Karmickiss

I was just thinking about it tonight, when I went out to do a few errands....that of all the places in the world, I found this board. I have no idea how I found it...probably a random search result a long time ago....but that there was something special here and when I was ready I'm glad that I came back. I feel like the same attitudes and goals I'd have for myself just alone, wouldn't be the same without having the advantage of coming here and learning and sharing.

Sharing isn't uniquely human, but it is something that is very important to us as human beings. Being here amongst us on this forum gives you kind of a home base in your swinging activities.

And if you don't share how this coming weekend went, we'll be most put out And no I don't mind the blow by blow account of how twenty men and women lined up to have sex with you But the account in the way that I'm sure you'll write it.

[Karmickiss]

Hi There bbarnsworth,
Thanks for the great post! I think I may be a typical gemini (but don't hold it against me) I feel like you're definately on target, I feel like I've been to both extremes...in a way hard to describe....a long time ago, I was aware of some things, that made me really dive into seeing those patterns, which wasn't bad, so to speak...but then when hit with life's curb balls, I realized I needed to break it all down, and see what was relevant in the "now". Also then when there was a long time in depression, actual, depression....I felt like suddenly the world is cold and meaningless in some ways where I found meaning before. OK..how can I say it...yes, the middle ground......

I think I have been coming out of a dark time emotionally and mentally, and this made room for things... again, you put things so eloquently, I really like that, trying to find the right words....but it was my state of mind. Recently, in various ways, I have had some really really incredible things happen, that then alerted me to be even more aware of all kinds of blessings...which is a good thing. I've been working on myself, and I was happy to see a change in me, more recently in my life. The way I can describe it, is even when things are in chaos, and some things happen that make everything...difficult...and there can be sadness, and these other negative and distracting things happening.....well, I've been able to hold onto the belief that all those wonderful things are still there, and there is an order to things, and it's okay if I don't know what, exactly, all of the time.. I feel that it's really all meant to be; when I can look back, and honestly say, I wouldn't take back a thing b/c of where it brought me and everyone else. Even if it felt scary or heartbreaking. I can now still "feel"(things have a higher meaning) that, even when I couldn't/can't "feel"(happy, and in sync) that. LOL...I wonder if this makes a lick of sense, but I can say overall, I feel like I've done some important "growing up", and hope to remain teachable, b/c hopefully I keep on growing...

Thank you for the thoughts and feelings b/c it's stimulating my mind in such a good way. I really liked your example of finding patterns in things.....I have to tell you as my mind was processing the words and before realizing it was a purposeful thing and just reading on, I was thinking..."Oh oh...this is not usual...is he drunk?" So that's how sharp I am at the moment! It is a very good example of how we do make connections and patterns in our minds! I am so glad to feel "tuned in" again. Oh....and after all this soul baring I am SO going to talk about what happens Saturday.....I'm flattered that there's willing participants, as far as willing to read about it

One thing I'm a little worried about today, that I just wanted to put out there while I am here...is that my youngest started running a fever last night, and has stayed home with me today. We are going to the docs b/c there's been a few 'swine flu' cases we were made aware of only yesterday, confirmed in his grade and school...and I just want to see if it's that. I haven't really followed that whole thing(swine flu) as closely as possible...just b/c of some ideas I have about stuff I won't even begin to touch. In any case, please wish us luck....or if one is so inclined, I believe in the power of a simple prayer. Hoping all are well........Sincerely, karmic