single males saying they have a play partner for couples?

been lurking here for awhile and have a question. recently we have had a rash of messages from single males saying that they have a female playpartner that can join then to play with for couples. These have not been 'wanna fuk?' messages but have been respectfull and well written. Their profiles have also appeared to be legitimate single males that appear attractive and familiar with the lifestyle. Have any of you couples ever met one of these so-called couples? Do any of you single guys ever actually have a female playpartner that would really meet other couples with you? Is this a legitimate swinging practice or are these guys just trying to pull our chain to try and get us to meet them and then say that the female had something come up and couldn't make it?

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Have any of you couples ever met one of these so-called couples?



Is this a legitimate swinging practice or are these guys just trying to pull our chain to try and get us to meet them and then say that the female had something come up and couldn't make it?

There have been those single men we've played with that did indeed have a single female friend that would sometimes play with them as a couple.

There are those single men who are legitimate when they say they have a female friend that can also play and, there are also those who aren't and are just trying to get you to meet him alone.

The only way you'll know for sure is to set up a meet and see if the female shows up.


Teresa

[VegasLee]

As TNT stated, there are some legit ones.

I don't know about a "rash" of them but we do know some very cool single guys that have female play partners that we see at the club most every week. Not always the same play partner but they do have them.

Also as TNT stated, only way you will know for sure is to meet up with them.

Good luck.

[exploringRM]

We've seen singles head to the club as a couple. When we first started, we met a couple like that at a local club. Liked them a lot, but we were not fully comfortable with that situation, mostly due to our newness. If it happened today we would be happy to play!

I've also seen a number of profiles like this and it does feel like it's something more common, though I have no statistical sample to justify that statement.

[The Fuse]

If you want to verify the female partner, then ask for a phone call before setting up a meet. We usually do this with couples and would definitely do it with a single male who said he had a partner. We've met one or two of these, but they had a couples' profile, so their "play partner" status was more than just occasional.

[fun4Ds]

We would be cautious...
But for what its worth, a single male playmate we know, does have a Unicorn friend. She is straight by the way. She certified him for us the first time, before we met him. He gave us her # and a few months later, met her at his house. She lives in TX he lives here. They, were in the lifestyle way before our time. He actually spoke of clubs that were mere legends to us.
This friend of ours has a nice place and allot of friends as well. It goes with the territory usually, with the good guys. He is the kind of guy that really appreciates us as a couple. We could meet him at a supermarket or even a car show, you would never know what our swinging relationship is. We appreciate that !

Then we have seen the guys that invite us to a mainly male group. Meaning two or three single guys try to Host the party. Meet one and you'll soon, be meeting all three.

Thats not our thing, I guess...


Maybe you could register ? Without more info we can only give the basics.



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[Chicup]

Tim: Hi, I'm Tim nice to meet you guys finally.

Tim shakes their hands and sits at the table.....

Tim: I just got a call from Sally right before I got here, she said her boss was having her work late tonight and she just couldn't get away. I hope thats not a big problem, I could leave and meet some other time then when Sally is free if its an issue.

You: er..

As Fuse said DEFINITELY talk to the woman on the phone BEFORE you meet, be it a couple or a single who says he has a friend.

[TheLorax]

You can also make it very, very clear that if you spend the time and effort to set up a meeting and his "partner" doesn't show up that not only will you immediately leave, there won't be another chance.

I know several single men who have semi-regular swinging partners, and I've been one at a couple of times in my life. Like any other aspect of it though, on the net there are always a higher percentage of people who are just trying to scam you in one way or another.

The question you might ask yourself is: Do we want to swing with a couple and get to know them as a couple, or are just mainly interested in there being gender balance and get on with the fun? Neither answer is wrong, but it helps to have a good idea of what you are looking for going in.

[curiousagain]

It's possible. I've done that. I've filled out a foursome for a couple and single female, etc. etc. Just be cautious but understand these things are possible and do happen.

[SecretAsianMan]

As a single male... I've been fortunate to occassionally have the single-female partner who'll join me for a party or event. I don't try to sell us as a "couple" to another couple seeking a two-on-two encounter because that seems to almost always create drama on the offhand chance we can't get all our schedules to work out.

(If my date were to cancel at the last minute - I would rather pull out of the meeting at the last minute than show up as a "single" when they're expecting two of us)

[JustAskJulie]

TNT!

[CaramelCraze]

Yes . we run in to this alot . I hate to say it ...but it makes the lifstyle bad sometimes

[absingleman]

In the past I've been asked to meet couples with single women who were in the lifestyle because they said they only partied with couples, so yes, it is common. It is also common for single women to ask their single male friends to set up meetings for them, but its not as common for single women to go to meetings where a single male friend has made most of the contacts.

Ask him to have HER call you if she is interested. This way she still has control of who has access to her phone number AND she can decide if she wants to show up.

just my opinion.