Should Single Women Split the Room Cost with Couples?

[mixtupcpl]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

This is interesting to me, since I have two different perspectives.

When I was half of a swinging couple, on the rare occasion that we did manage to meet a geniune unicorn and take her out, we (the couple) treated her like a real date and took her out to a nice restaurant, then to the club as our date, then to a very nice hotel suite, prepared ahead of time with candlelight, bubblebath in oversized tub, all of the ambiance that a woman appreciates - all on our nickel. It was all appreciated and rewarded. Seriously, is it wise to do it any other way, especially if you want to make a good impression and hope to see her again? I think not! I think that only a pair of idiots would ask a unicorn to pay for half the room.

Now, from my new and opposite point of view (divorced), that makes me the potential unicorn, since I'm now single and not even dating yet, at this point. Do I still feel the same way about unicorns? Yes, I would expect to be treated as I've treated unicorns in the past.

This perfectly sums up how Mrs. Mix and I feel. We talked about it and feel the same way about a single male, actually. We both feel that if we are pursuing a single, it is, in fact, as you nicely described above, a "date" so it is on us to "host" the person. Difference would be that if a SM offered to split (or even treat), we would possibly accept, whereas with a SF we wouldn't hear of it. I would think that any offer would be a social courtesy really and accepting it would be a bit of a turnoff for her.

I suspect many might differ with single males, but I've got to think that with single females there has to be near universal consensus that the couple should be taking care of her (pun semi-intended )

[ncmd_couple]

Tybee,

I agree that it is appropriate that if the couple has invited the single female to be with them then they should pay. But, do you feel that it is gracious for the single female to at least offer to help pay for part of the evening? The offer should be declined, but at least an offer on her part?

S

[ArkansasFunOnes]

If we're out of town, or at a hotel party and already have a room, obviously we're not going to ask for anyone to split the cost of the room with us.

As far as a single female, no matter if we pursue her, or she pursues us, we would pay the cost of the room, and probably of most expenses, such as drinks, dinner, etc.

If a single male pursues us, then we'd expect him to host or pay for a room. One reason for this is also that we live in a smaller town and always travel to the Little Rock area 60 miles away since most of the men we meet are there.

Oftentimes we like meeting 2 or 3 guys at once....if we pursue the men we normally ask that everyone split the cost of a room if none of the guys want to host.....usually figures out to be about $20. each.....and most of the time we end up getting "stuck" by one or two of them....never say anything though.

[HesterPryne]

They expected the single woman to split the cost??? lmao...I'm a single woman and if a couple even merely insinuated we "split" the cost of the room, I'd tell them to go $#@k themselves...HARD ;-)

[HesterPryne]

Single men are a dime a dozen in this lifestyle...YES they should at the VERY least split the cost, if not pay for the entire room bill!! Just my humble opinion as a humble unicorn...;-))

[sahajacpl]

Originally Posted by HesterPryne

Single men are a dime a dozen in this lifestyle...YES they should at the VERY least split the cost, if not pay for the entire room bill!! Just my humble opinion as a humble unicorn...;-))

We have treated a unicorn as if she was our date and do not expect her to share the cost of the room since I the male is planning on playing/sleeping with her and having an enjoyable night of sex and intercourse with her.

If she offers to or insists on sharing some of the cost, then it is another story, and we might accept it as a token of her appreciation of the great time and night of sex she has had. One of the unicorns we play with is a great lady, and a great sex partner. She has on many occassions, where she particularly has had a great time of social and sexual intercourse has often insisted on sharing the cost of dinner or room in some manner or fashion.

Basically we do not expect a unicorn to share in the cost for the priviledge of enjoying play and sexual intercourse with her.

[lovinher]

I guess it depends on wether you want to play with her again.

[SecretAsianMan]

I find it interesting that most people seem to be of the feeling that if a couple picks up a single-woman... she's to be treated like their prize and the couple pays for a room.

However, if a couple picks up a single-guy... it's HIS treat and he should pay for the room.

(With a smaller majority feeling like they should always split the costs regardless of the gender of the "third")

This is interesting from a statistical perspective as well as a sociological one ... I realize that single women are the rare-prizes in this lifestyle but it's starting to feel like... I dunno, a sense of entitlement (?) ...that's always rubbed me the wrong way whenever anyone starts with THAT b/s.

((*shrug*))

What about a transexual? (Playing devil's advocate here)

[good times]

Originally Posted by SecretAsianMan

I realize that single women are the rare-prizes in this lifestyle but it's starting to feel like... I dunno, a sense of entitlement (?) ...that's always rubbed me the wrong way whenever anyone starts with THAT b/s.

I agree.

I really have no problem with someone wanting to pay for the room, or whatever, when playing with a single woman, but it really rubs me the wrong way if the single woman expects the couple to pay. As far as I am concerned, if she requires them to pay, then she isn't a unicorn, she is a prostitute. Here in Reno, you can get a legal prostitute for as little as $100.00, and a nice room is included for free.

I think times are changing, in our area at least, single women in the lifestyle are not really that rare any more. In fact, it is rare that their are not at least one or two there every time we go to the club.

[Malachista]

While I'm always willing to pay my part, I think that couples and guys who are willin to pay everything are also more generous in bed

[kellimc]

I haven't been to hotels with couples very many times, but when I have, they have always insisted on paying the entire cost of the room. Nobody has ever asked me to chip in. Maybe it's because they realize I'm a poor college student and took pity on me or they were just so grateful to be living the unicorn dream. I don't really know, but the issue of splitting costs has never come up.

[cocpl2007]

The unicorn will not be paying! She is unique, very special and worth being treated like she is.