Any chance for Indian single males in Swinging?

[nwtoths]

Hello, I am an Indian Single male living in US, who is very interested in Swinging and Nudism. For the past 1 year I have been following swingersboard forums and its been very insightful and helpful. Its great to see there are lot of swingers and their opinions on various issues. Now lets come to my question/concern, I have tried reaching few people through different swingers site but almost everybody says there are not into singles especially asians/indians . I would like to know will there be any chance for me to enjoy the feeling of being a swinger? I dont have a girl friend now and my previous gf was not interested in swinging . I find myself in a dead-end and sometimes think, may be swinging is not for me or I am not as lucky as others here. Any suggestions will be helpful.
I would like to make it clear, I am not looking at swingers as a way of getting free sex, I have lot of respect for that community and would love to be a part of that society. Can anybody in this forum help me how to find information on how to visit an on-site/off-site swing club just to feel the atmosphere, as I cant go alone? . If I could some personal intro with some of you members I will be very happy.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by nwtoths

...I have tried reaching few people through different swingers site but almost everybody says there are not into singles especially asians/indians .

Have you only been contacting couples whose profile states they are seeking single males? If not, that could be part of your problem. Don't write to anyone who isn't seeking single males, if you do you can guarantee you'll get a no, if you get a response back at all.

A person's race can limit their opportunities, just as weight, looks, profile content, and other factors swingers use to decide if they are interested in meeting someone.

I wouldn't presume that being Indian is why you're being turned down. It may be a convenient reason people give you when they're not interested for other reasons, but choose to use your race as their reason.

If you have a profile on SwingLifestyle, I'd suggest posting it here on your SB profile so that it can be reviewed/critiqued in Singles Profile Reviews thread.

I would like to know will there be any chance for me to enjoy the feeling of being a swinger?

I couldn't say if you have a chance of swinging since I don't know enough about you.

I would like to make it clear, I am not looking at swingers as a way of getting free sex, I have lot of respect for that community and would love to be a part of that society.

If you aren't looking for sex, what are you looking for?

Can anybody in this forum help me how to find information on how to visit an on-site/off-site swing club just to feel the atmosphere, as I cant go alone? . If I could some personal intro with some of you members I will be very happy.

Are you certain that single males are not allowed into the clubs in your area, or are you presuming this?

If there are clubs in a 2 hour radius of you, contact all of them and see what their rules are for single males who wish to attend their club. Clubs vary and some allow single males to visit unattended.

You are highly unlikely to get a personal intro from someone on the Swingers Board since this isn't a site devoted to finging others; it's a discussion forum. Besides, you only list yourself at being on the "East Coast" and that doesn't let people know exactly where you're from. You don't have to let people know, but I hope you can see my point. You aren't increasing your chances of being contacted when people don't know what city you live in.

If you haven't read Rules for Single Males I'd suggest looking there for some helpful hints.

BTW, welcome to the Board!

LM

[combatus]

hi nwtoths, i would say it's not easy being a single male wanting to get into the swing of things BUT it's not impossible. as you know swinging is a couple thing unless couple wants an extra man or men to join them in giving the lady partner the additional pleasures...

myself had been a swinger for the past 7yrs. i had a swing partner for the 1st 3yrs but she'd relocated when her hubby got an overseas posting. i've been swinging alone since although with much less success. i do have afew local couples who would invite me to join them in 3 or moresomes when the lady partner so desire. but finding a new swinging partner in my conservative society is no easy task.....good luck!

[sahajacpl]

Hello towths:

It is always difficult, if not impossible, for a single male to find another couple that is willing to have him play with, or, swing, with the intention of having him play with the female, and, fuck his wife or mate, that is, have sexual intercourse with the female, while the male gets to warch his wife or gf geting fucked.

Your best bet is to have a female friend who is willing to try swinging. If you are dating her then you are surely fucking or having sexual intercourse with her. The best time to get her interested in swinging is to ask her when the two of you are fucking how she would feel about fucking another guy. The same startegy will work if you are thinking of getting married. You need to let your future wife know that you are interested in swinging with another couple/s for enjoying social and sexual intercourse with other women, and, that you would like for her to experience sexual intercourse with other men. Just be sure you will not get jealous when the other guy plays and pleaures your wife and sinks his penis in your wife's pussy and fucks her to orgasm.

Just so you realize that swinging is social and sexual intercourse with someone other than your wife, mate or gf. Swinging is mainly recreational sex for couple's that want to enjoy a variety of partners, soacially and sexually. If you want to sexually enjoy, that is, fuck someone's wife or gf then you need to have a female partner the other guy can fuck and enjoy.

Welcome to the world of swinging. You will find the swinging lifestyle very enjoyable because you will get to experience partner swap for great social and sexual intercourse with a variety of sexual partners. If you get married it is important that you introduce your wife to the swinging lifestyle. You will find it much easier to find couples that are willing to swing with when you can do a full swap of partners with the other couple for sexual play followed by sexual intercourse with other's mate.

[tribbles]

Be able to host and say so in your profile.
Find clubs/parties near you that allow single males.

Or vacation where there are parties that have single guys.

Without parties to go to, I doubt we would have stayed in the LS cuz hooking up online with others is too much like work. Parties are fun.

[screaminggood]

Definitely go for the personal involvement, either clubs that allow single men, or house parties. As the fem half of a couple, where my husband does enjoy just watching me with other men, I always select my men in person. If someone interesting emails me, I tell him which clubs we go to....

[NotSorry]

We have not added singles to our mix yet.
When we do, race will not play a part in who we select.

There are a few people out there who have racial biases and/or preferences... but I prefer to be optimistic and believe that most of us in the world will not go by that criteria.

Good luck!

mr not sorry

[curiouscpl72]

think that an in person approach at a club may be a way to go....Myself and my husband have been lukewarm with single men, race not withstanding, but i myself have found more success at meeting people in person at a lifestyle club.My husband and I actually do swing apart,and have been doing this about a year now(lifestyle going on six just broke into separately swinging..)I am sensitive about my body, it is not perfect( who's is??) but I have born two children and have scars, last single I was with said something to the affect "well you have the excuse that you had kids!"nice right???so here I am sensitive about my body, as are you in a way.So I go on.....But what I am getting at is personality is the key, and timing too.From what I know of you, you are sensitive, and intelligent...I don't know what else to say that there should be no judgement in this but for preference and chemistry.If there is a racial bias, well I would walk, no run in other direction from whomever you would be courting.It isn't easy finding people as it would seem.everyone wants sex right???but most people have hangups they have to get past.Everyone whether or not they like to admit has that judge sitting in their brain,and the thing is not to get attached to whatever they are saying...or maybe I am talking outta my a**......good luck to you, in your travels.

Patty

[shaguar]

Here you go:

SNL - Sexual Harassment and You - YouTube

Remember, no one is racist anywhere, anyhow unless you happen to turn out to be non-white. I really thought it was rich that in one of the above replies, someone said people might be letting down easy saying it's not you, it's your race! "Sir, we find you and your 4 inch dick perfect in every way, but it's just that you are a ****!" Is this the self-delusion that society has sunk to? I mean did the poster really think that through, or was the urge to comfort so overpowering?

Dude, as a single man AND an INDIAN (the lowest status male in the Western world sexually speaking, tied with Chinese), you have no chance of getting laid in swinging, and virtually no chance in the non-ethnic vanilla world. But wait, you're not looking for free sex right - you just want to be friends with married couples. I hear that there are some great biker bars looking to connect with open-minded intellectuals from other cultures. I wish I could be more encouraging, but I'd be lying.

[funcoupledayton]

This is an old thread so I doubt the OP is still on, but I thought I'd put my two cents in as a female.

I would be totally up for playing with an Asian or Indian man. If he's kind, respectful and we have chemistry that would definitely work for me. Cock size is not a big issue for me. I think men of any race or ethnicity can be hot.

As far as finding couples just look through the profiles and contact the ones who are interested in playing with single men. There are many of them out there. I'm not a hotwife so I don't know much about that scene, but I'm sure there are hook-up websites like swinglifestyle and those couples are specifically looking for single guys.

Going to clubs is a good suggestion also. I'd talk to regular members or the management to see how well single males are received at your local clubs.

[MN Tom]

Yeah, old thread, but Im not agreeing with the sentiment of someone saying an asian/indian male has no chance.

Ive met and seen a few asian males who have had a chance, and also have met an indian/pakistani who has had a chance too.

Not everyone is racist. Keep in mind that everyone is also discriminated against at some point, whether its the person who is only looking for "BBC" (and is thus discriminating against everyone but that) or the person who wants someone at a certain height, age, whatever...

Heck, I was told I was too tall and too big by someone once (im 6'2, 215 and in shape). I almost had to laugh, because Im puny compared to my competitive strongman buddies.

[Learning]

All I have to say that being with an Indian man is totally my fantasy hopefully I will get an opportunity one day!

[Edison Carter]

Susan here-- We cannot get past race until people stop playing the race card. I find that when people argue for their limitations, they become theirs. Or, if they are looking for a certain type of trouble, they find it.

[shaguar]

Ok, I feel kind of mean for posting that. I intended the gist of it, just being real even if with tongue in (butt)cheek, but I want to expound on what I mean by race or racism. In my experience, in the context of the fascistic warped media and 24 hour propaganda bombardment that white Americans suffer, they are probably the most unracist people around. Do I mean all of them? No, some of them, many of them, I haven't met all of them yet. I should add that when one considers racial comments or attitudes, you can't always consider the experience of the individual, you have to draw the line at all people must be treated with respect regardless of attributes they can't control. I say this because some minorities in the US and elsewhere are openly racist but get away with it based on the so called burden of history. Nonetheless, that is *within the bounds* of the reality they are subjected to, so I don't expect perfect behaviour. Things get significantly worse if you consider Canada or Australia, but compared to say Japan or China or the Arab countries, the Anglo-Saxon countries have basically zero racism.

Two more things. When you allow people a let, say border guards or policemen exercising discretion, they will often sink to the lowest common denominator and abuse power, which includes profiling and discrimination. Secondly, when it comes to sex and love, we want what we want, and nobody else has the right to question preferences.

The point I am making is there is a sexual totem pole globally, with white men at the top. And there is a sliding scale for judging bias or atrocity. Life is unfair. It is that way, no use in crying about it or wasting time explaining it. A lot of it has to do with the low esteem many immigrants hold themselves in, thank you colonialism. It is a complex topic but I am just calling it like it is. All I was trying to explain to OP was that his chances are slightly more than the one sperm that makes it to the egg, and significantly less than the sea turtle hatchling that makes it to the water. In the immortal words of the Jim Carrey character, "So you're tellin' me there's a chance!"
Dumb and Dumber 'There's a Chance' - YouTube

[Payal]

I dont thnk that any recial issues are involved as far as swinging is concerned. It is all about chemistry. I and my hubby were in the US three years back. We came accross a young and a good looking American couple, who threw all kinds of hints to us to swap. Finally, the wife proposed to me in a very straight forward way. That time we were very possessive and had never even thought of swinging with another couple so we ignored it.