How do we find a special or unique single male for fun?

[northgacpl]

Great site here...!
Ok we're fairly new to swingning, we've had 3 experiences...My wife is very particular about who she wants. She really likes black and indian men. Her biggest fantasy is with a black male thats non-American...from the Carribbean, Jamaica, Africa, etc. Handsome, well-hung, smart, easy going, non-pushy, etc....you know all the usual...The problem is how do we find someone like this???

Have tried AFF for a while now, and a few other swingers boards, not much luck...Just wondering if there are any suggestions...Any tricks of the trade to find what you're looking for? Or is there really not much to do other than AFF?

Specifically we'll be looking in the Tampa Florida area.

TIA!

[iapr]

I was listening to Mancow on the radio one morning and he was making a little monolog about women selecting men. He was talking about vanilla chicks looking for BFs/husbands but the priciple applies to lifestyle situations just the same.

Anyway he said if a gal has a pool of hundred men to choose from and she wants a goodlooking man then she has just cut the pool down to 45. If she also wants him to be witty and charming then she has cut the pool down to 25. If she also wants him to be educated and sophisticated the pool drops to 10. If she also wants him to be successfull in business and financially secure the list drops to 5. If she also wants him to love kids there will 3 of those but they will have a bunch of their own kids to take care. and if she also wants him to be fit and athletic as well there will only be two left but those two will have boyfriends/husbands of their own

The point to all of this is the more selection criteria you require the smaller the pool to choose from will be and the more difficult it will be to find that one out of a million.

My guess is if you do a google search for hung handsome non-american black men and the women that love them you will probably find something.

[BiloxiCouple]

Jump over to the Miami area... Should be a lot of what you are looking for there.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by iapr

and if she also wants him to be fit and athletic as well there will only be two left but those two will have boyfriends/husbands of their own

Ok I laughed

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Ok I laughed

Me too.

[tnt69couple]

Originally Posted by iapr

I was listening to Mancow on the radio one morning and he was making a little monolog about women selecting men. He was talking about vanilla chicks looking for BFs/husbands but the priciple applies to lifestyle situations just the same.

Anyway he said if a gal has a pool of hundred men to choose from and she wants a goodlooking man then she has just cut the pool down to 45. If she also wants him to be witty and charming then she has cut the pool down to 25. If she also wants him to be educated and sophisticated the pool drops to 10. If she also wants him to be successfull in business and financially secure the list drops to 5. If she also wants him to love kids there will 3 of those but they will have a bunch of their own kids to take care. and if she also wants him to be fit and athletic as well there will only be two left but those two will have boyfriends/husbands of their own

The point to all of this is the more selection criteria you require the smaller the pool to choose from will be and the more difficult it will be to find that one out of a million.

My guess is if you do a google search for hung handsome non-american black men and the women that love them you will probably find something.

LOL

[Mr.Essex]

Originally Posted by northgacpl

Great site here...!
Ok we're fairly new to swingning, we've had 3 experiences...My wife is very particular about who she wants. She really likes black and indian men. Her biggest fantasy is with a black male thats non-American...from the Carribbean, Jamaica, Africa, etc. Handsome, well-hung, smart, easy going, non-pushy, etc....you know all the usual...The problem is how do we find someone like this???

Have tried AFF for a while now, and a few other swingers boards, not much luck...Just wondering if there are any suggestions...Any tricks of the trade to find what you're looking for? Or is there really not much to do other than AFF?

Specifically we'll be looking in the Tampa Florida area.

TIA!

I'd suggest a cruise and some (judicious) use of CL. As a black man of Caribbean descent, I can say (IME) that you aren't likely to find many non-African American men who are active swingers. For example, at the clubs that I attend in New York, non-African American men make up a paltry percentage of the total amount of black men in attendance. New York City's population of non-American Black men is astronomically high (estimated at close to a million if you include Hispanic men of African descent). With those odds you'd assume that the mix would be fairly even, but it isn't.

Then again, different areas have different stats. Floridian men may be less staid/conservative than New Yorkers. Either way, I wish you good luck.

{Hint: An educated non-African American black man is probably going to use the Queen's English. Be prepared to see a lot of extraneous "U"s, inverted "er"s (such as centre, not center), and different slang. If your partner is corresponding through E-mail, but his English is American Standard, that's a red flag. I was born and raised here and I still make mistakes, so your average immigrant is going to pepper his typed dialogue with those "errors".}

[slevin]

Originally Posted by Mr.Essex

so your average immigrant is going to pepper his typed dialogue with those "errors".}

And by "errors" you mean he will spell properly

[IvoryTowers]

Originally Posted by iapr

My guess is if you do a google search for hung handsome non-american black men and the women that love them you will probably find something.

Okay, I had to do it...said search doesn't actual turn up anything useful. In a scary example of what a google search can turn up, one of the listings was for a White Power dating site!

[Trace Ekies]

Try playfulswingers.com...it's a Central Florida based swingers networking site the has a bunch of great people on the west coast of Florida.

Good luck!

Trace

[silentdub]

Any chance for Indian single males in Swinging?

[magnum]

Originally Posted by northgacpl

Great site here...!
Ok we're fairly new to swingning, we've had 3 experiences...My wife is very particular about who she wants. She really likes black and indian men. Her biggest fantasy is with a black male thats non-American...from the Carribbean, Jamaica, Africa, etc. Handsome, well-hung, smart, easy going, non-pushy, etc....you know all the usual...The problem is how do we find someone like this???

Have tried AFF for a while now, and a few other swingers boards, not much luck...Just wondering if there are any suggestions...Any tricks of the trade to find what you're looking for? Or is there really not much to do other than AFF?

Specifically we'll be looking in the Tampa Florida area.

TIA!

Good luck.

AFF personally I find is usually full of people that are more into BS than actually meeting, I have had ZERO luck on AFF.

Have you thought to look for an "American" BBC??? It might be a little easier than a foreign BBC

[screaminggood]

You might also want to check into the "local" clubs. I've met a delightful black Frenchman...in "who'd have thunk it" Texas.

[ENCRYPTEDTX]

You may try a site called NUDEAFRICA.com I enjoy wifelovers.com and its partnered with nudeafrica

My first vote would be Swing Lifestyle though....

I really cant say enough good things about Swinglifestyle.com

Kyle

[weatenan]

well with such a specific group of men it may be a little hard. my wife too is very picky with looks and such, as for them being hung or not we never know until we get them.
your best bet is to let it happen naturally, i have always let my wife find them on her own when she desires a change or something new which is very rare that she does that. the last two have been old friends of hers that she never was sexually active with but was comftorable being around and thought were attractive. there has only been 2 occassions that she has meet someone while out and ever have something become of it.

that said, i would just be patient and let your wife decide on the men as they naturally bump into her along lifes journy.