What about single guys?

[NWGuy46]

I've been curious about swinging for some time, but at the present time, I'm a single guy with no significant other. Are single guys welcome at clubs and if they are, are there opportunities to play, or at least watch? I'm straight, but a little touching wouldn't bother me if it was with a couple.

[fun4Ds]

Single guys are welcome in most clubs but not all. Even then, some nights may vary according to the owners or groups.

Welcome to the Swingers Board by the way. This is the best place to just talk a little, listen allot and find answers. I hope you look at the swinging single forum.

Ok, I have a question.

I noticed you listed your Swinglifestyle profile link and name here under your profile name to the left. I always check that just to better understand a little more.

Yours shows you haven't been on for years. How do you know someone didn't want to meet you over this length of time ? It seems authentic and needs a pic of you by our standards selecting single males, ( and we do occasionally ) But still, why so long since you logged in there ?

[NWGuy46]

I came back and looked as a guest now and then, but just thought that since I am alone (actually divorced), that I probably didn't belong here as all I had to offer, was myself. I'll get a picture of myself and upload it here.

[N8ture Girl]

If I was passing by and saw your profile and noticed you hadnt been on in 1156 days, I would assume your not serious about it since you hadnt been on in forever! Why would you expect someone to even bother? Show people that you are serious about it. And post a G-rated pic even if its from the neck down, show people that your for real.

[realcplub2]

First off, allow me to offer a welcome to you.

Second, the previos posters are abosolutely right in everying they have counseled you on.. These are important points.

If you no longer have access to that Swing Lifestyle account, then do two things re sign up under a new name and contact the admin of Swing Lifestyle and advise them of your changes.. then link to your new profile

some simple points to make.. As a single there will be plenty who will ignore you, or flat out use a rude attitude. Be respectful and trust me you will earn the respect you deserve.

I dont care if John Holmes would be envious of you, please remember if you list it, fine, but, we have had tons of single men that a minute into the conversation think that its thier chief selling point. IMHO nothing ends a conversation quicker.. Be a person with a cock.. not a stunt cock attached to a person

Finally to echo again the point that was made before, simple pictures .. 37 pictures of your cock do nothing to illustrate the person behind it

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by NWGuy46

I came back and looked as a guest now and then, but just thought that since I am alone (actually divorced), that I probably didn't belong here as all I had to offer, was myself. I'll get a picture of myself and upload it here.

NWGuy,

It is important that you understand that difference between this site and Swing Lifestyle (which Fun4Ds was referring to). Swing Lifestyle (SwingLifestyle.com), which you have a profile on (as listed in your profile here) is for connecting with other swingers and "hooking up". You can't surf that site without logging in, therefore there is no way for you to know if anyone tried to contact you there without logging in. This site (The Swingers Board) is NOT for hooking up. No one here can even see your profile unless they do so by first looking at a post you make here in the forums. This is most likely the site you were referring to when you said you occasionally view as a guest, which it is perfectly fine to do so.

I would suggest that you take some time and read through the myriads of advice provided throughout this site for single males, starting with this:
Swingers Board - Single Men and Swinging

good luck

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by NWGuy46

I've been curious about swinging for some time, but at the present time, I'm a single guy with no significant other. Are single guys welcome at clubs and if they are, are there opportunities to play, or at least watch? I'm straight, but a little touching wouldn't bother me if it was with a couple.

In our experience clubs can be harder to get into for a single guy unless he is known and trusted by the club owner or can be personally vouched for by a couple. There have just been too many single guys that have be lecherous and rude before you that has made it difficult for all single guys.

That said, there are lots of couples looking for a good single guy to include in their playtime. Lots of them. For instance, a quick scan of Swingular shows there are 2 single guys looking for couples for every couple looking for single guys. So you have to set yourself apart from all the other single guys. You need to stand-out as being exceptional.

As far as a threesome with a couple, you'll find that most men are not bi and will not put the moves on you and bisexual activities are not required at all. But as you said, you can't be afraid of some male/male skin contact nor another hard-on in the room with you otherwise it just won't work. There are some guys who get off on watching their wife have sex with another man, but most want to be part of the action. And most women I know want two men to be part of the action in a MFM because the whole idea is to have two guys: four hands, two mouths, two dicks. Two hands, one mouth, one dick she can have anytime at home.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by NWGuy46

I probably didn't belong here as all I had to offer, was myself.

That goes along way sometimes with playmates

[NWGuy46]

Thanks for all the advice. I will admit that I'm intimidated, well, I guess scared about coming out for all to see and perhaps I need to get over that before I seriously consider swinging. I hope my posting didn't offend anyone in any way. Thank you all again for taking the time to offer up some excellent advice and enlightening words. Reading your responses allowed me to put myself in the place of couples and maybe understand a little better what this is all about and how I may have come across initially.

[inDenver]

I have a female friend who I have been close with for years. We are terrific friends and I have spoken with her about different clubs and she is interested in going. She has even tried to set dates with me to go but it hasn't worked out yet.

So...one suggestion....if you enjoy the company of women as I do in other ways besides sexual...start finding female friends. You can get into any club with a woman on your arm.

Now the question remains...I have been friends with woman for five years. We've seen each other through divorces....we've been room mates....we have have been naked around each other...but never had sex.

Will we...in the club setting....hook up with each other? LOL....time will tell. I don't care either way.

As a matter of fact....I'm going to start another thread about that right now.

[LowIQ]

Thanks Denver, I have never posted here but you hit the nail on the head for me. I just got out of a 7 year relationship with a woman who is Bi. Our playtime would sometimes also consist of one of her "girlfriends" and after a while, I have gotten used to this. I spoke to her a few times about going to visit a few clubs to see what the environment was like but we never got around to it.
I have a friend also who I am physical with that has expressed a genuine interest in swinging, but we are not a "couple" per say. Along with Denver's question, is this a bit of mis-representation on our part to go to a club together or try to meet couples if in fact we are not a couple ourselves?

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by LowIQ

Thanks Denver, I have never posted here but you hit the nail on the head for me. I just got out of a 7 year relationship with a woman who is Bi. Our playtime would sometimes also consist of one of her "girlfriends" and after a while, I have gotten used to this. I spoke to her a few times about going to visit a few clubs to see what the environment was like but we never got around to it.
I have a friend also who I am physical with that has expressed a genuine interest in swinging, but we are not a "couple" per say. Along with Denver's question, is this a bit of mis-representation on our part to go to a club together or try to meet couples if in fact we are not a couple ourselves?

As long as you make it clear to the couples/singles you both talk to that you are not married or "committed" (i.e., engaged, dating for a long time, etc.) to each other, and that you both are truly single (not committed to anyone else), you should be welcome at most clubs and house parties as a couple, I would think. Especially, that is, if your play would truly encompass "swapping". If you and your friend are open to playing with other couples as a couple, I don't see a problem there.

But, to be realistic, you'll probably have to answer some questions regardless of the swing-situation you find yourselves in.

Be aware that there are some clubs/parties/swing-campgrounds/etc. that do NOT admit unmarried couples. Also, some couples and individuals who are not comfortable playing with an unmarried or otherwise "uncommitted" couple will turn down your advances. Those are their rules, so just accept them and move to an area where you will be accepted.

Good luck!

Thrax

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by LowIQ

Thanks Denver, I have never posted here but you hit the nail on the head for me. I just got out of a 7 year relationship with a woman who is Bi. Our playtime would sometimes also consist of one of her "girlfriends" and after a while, I have gotten used to this. I spoke to her a few times about going to visit a few clubs to see what the environment was like but we never got around to it.
I have a friend also who I am physical with that has expressed a genuine interest in swinging, but we are not a "couple" per say. Along with Denver's question, is this a bit of mis-representation on our part to go to a club together or try to meet couples if in fact we are not a couple ourselves?

If you are using her just to get into swinging (club/parties) without being a couple, you might hear a term, "using her as a ticket". It's a sticky situation for some people out there.

[screaminggood]

I'll give you the negative side of the idea: I almost didn't play with a single man because he was hanging out with his friend's girl...I thought she was his, and since my husband wasn't interested in her, I was ready to turn down the single man until I found out that he was indeed single.