Single guy from Vail AZ

[frnie69]

Hi all. I am a newbie and am looking for advice as to how I can be a part of the lifestyle!

I am a single man with a very high sex drive and would like to meet people who are willing to show me the ropes.

I am not Bi or into the gay experience but would rather like to get into the group experience and what ever arises.

With that being stated, is the fact that I am a single swinger detrimental?

Also, am I being stupid thinking that perhaps there are single women out their in this lifestylea? The reason I ask is because I would love to meet a lady who is as receptive as I am to being a swinger!!

Thanks for any advice

[The Fuse]

Hello,

Welcome to the Swinger's Board.

There is a lot of advice on here for single males. Don't think it will be easy. But please do read: Rules for Single Males. Start there, and keep reading.

Please come back and post more questions, after you've had a chance to check out some of the threads.

[fun4Ds]

Welcome to the Swingers Board.

Why wouldn't you consider asking a woman you just date in a regular way to consider joining the lifestyle with you ?

Do you date women now ?

[2inSanDiego4u]

Originally Posted by frnie69

Also, am I being stupid thinking that perhaps there are single women out their in this lifestylea? The reason I ask is because I would love to meet a lady who is as receptive as I am to being a swinger!!

There are some single women in the lifestyle, but they are nicknamed "unicorns" for a reason.

[LFM2]

to the Swingers Board. Being a single male in the swinging community is tough. Please read the topics that The Fuse listed. I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts after reading that.

[JustAskJulie]

Single women do exist in swinging, but most of those that are out there are not interested in a relationship. If you want a woman to swing with you, you would do better to search for them the way you seek any woman to date, making sure to look for a woman who is open-minded. Once you find her bring up the topic and see where it goes. I'm not saying you will find her on the first try, but you are probably more likely to find her that route than expecting to do so through swinging.

As others have said, there is a place for single males in swinging but you are hoeing a rough road (as they say). Take some time to read through the abundance of info posted here for single males, starting with the link that The Fuse posted for you.

All that said, to the board!

[iapr]

Originally Posted by frnie69

With that being stated, is the fact that I am a single swinger detrimental?

I ask is because I would love to meet a lady who is as receptive as I am to being a swinger!!

What does being a "swinger" mean to you? That is a very important question.

Does it mean a guy who screws chicks? Does it mean a guy who is looking for sex from women without any kind of committment or ongoing relationship?

If the answer to those questions is yes then that does not a swinger make. All you need to do is go to meat market vanilla bars and pick up chicks.

For all practical purposes "swinging" is something that is couple based and/or couple oriented. (ok yes there is going to be a ton of controversy over that statement but it's true whether people like to hear it or not)

For a single male to fit in and get anywhere in the lifestyle he has to pretty much set his own self interests on the shelf and availe himself to couples as a means to help them fullfill their fantasys and their swinging interests.

In other words you are an extra set of hands, tongue and dick for an MFM with a couple or an extra dick standing in line for a gang bang. If the idea of that kind of stuff appeals to you then there is a place for you if you play your cards right and do all the right things.

If on the other hand you just want to screw women you are not involved with and think that the lifestyle is going to be "easy" and that women in the lifestyle will screw anyone because they are loose and horny then it is going to be a lot harder for you than it would be in the regular vanilla singles scene.

the issue of whether there are single women in the lifestyle is a separate issue. The short answer is yes there are but they don't need you and for every single fem in the lifestyle there are hundreds if not thousands of guys trying to get in her pants.

Single fems in the lifestyle have their own agendas and motivations. Some are there to experiment with other women or couples or even to experience groups. Very few are actually there to pick up single guys. A single chick can get a single guy in the sack anywhere, anytime and with very little effort.

So bottom line, if you are wanting to be an extra cock for an MFM or gang bang the lifestyle is the right place to be.

If you are just wanting to screw chicks you will be a lot more successfull and with less effort in the vanilla world.