Hypothetical: Can handle it as single, but not as part of a couple

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by Ashley
Gee John, thanks for the tip
Funny in the beginning it was always me that wanted to leave first, now it's the other way around

Very effective.

John

[EternallySingle]

Isn't it funny how having sex with a stranger is ok but talking about a news story is off limits? LOL I had that same thing happen with my ex-girlfriend when we went to clubs.

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by EternallySingle
Isn't it funny how having sex with a stranger is ok but talking about a news story is off limits? LOL I had that same thing happen with my ex-girlfriend when we went to clubs.

I am going to do a poll, you hit the nail on the head.

John

[JustAskJulie]

This can definately go both ways. I was a married swinger with no jealousy issues. Then I was a single swinger (female). Then I was married again and going into the idea of swinging as a couple the second time around I actually had a fear that perhaps I might be jealous. It's a different relationship, a different set of (everything). I had no idea how I would react but all I could do was play it out and see. Luckily, I haven't been (nor has he).

I do get the "message" in the original post.... or at least what I think the message might be. That since singles haven't been on the other side they don't really know what they are playing with. Maybe?

[absingleman]

I think that is exactly what the OP was saying. A couple of people said he didn't have enough respect for the women he was swinging with to value them. I disagree. Since it was a hypothetical question, it was a matter of him wanting to know if it would be natural to decide he didn't want to swing after getting married. I personally would not want to swing for several years after getting married unless I married a woman I knew was actively swinging before she met me and I knew was truly dedicated to me and would be willing to give up swinging completely if I asked. I believe knowing that, as well as knowing that the SO would never consider cheating and trying to hide it, goes a long way to preventing jealousy issues.

JMO

[Cpl2share]

Also to consider: When single you have all of your life for you. Leaves plenty of time for sexual activity with numerous people. Married takes a lot of work concentrated on one person. You also have additional financial concerns, etc. Not necassarily jelousy, but maybe more along the line of I am investing in this right now and don't have the time or incination to let something get in teh middle?

[Thron&Thor]

Hmmmm...seems the single guy verse the couple question has an answer...the swinging single guy still lives within the married guy and could not become the swinging married guy, which would be why he could not bear the experience of his woman being shared, neither "Hypocritical or just human" just the single guy syndrome, where he can share others while not being able to share what he possesses because he knows the mind set of the single guy play that would be expressed upon his woman.