Single Men: Do you prefer the husband just watch, or join in for a MFM?

[DE_BBC]

Originally Posted by xyzzy07

When I've been the second M, the husbands have participated, although they always hung back for a while (as did I) for variety. I've never had the experience of just being watched by the husband for the whole session, and imagine it might be a little odd. Is it?

One of our friends likes to direct the action. LOL.

I don't find it odd at all...in fact I kinda like putting on a good performance.
My experiences have mostly been in that kind of setting. Where it's about the the woman being with me, and the husband watching....this was how my first lifestyle experience went, and thus far about 80% of my encounters have been similar...so having someone(husband) watching the whole session seems like the norm. for me.

I've only been to one club(just outside Chicago), and I was lucky enough to attend with a very attractive female friend...when we made our way to the upstairs rooms we were definitely the center of attention, there were dozens of folks watching us do our thing...and I did find that a bit more strange than just having one guy watch(but I got over it)...LOL

[Lean]

I dont mind. Like the other straight males had said I rather not play with a bi couple, but I like to see the female take two at once. Gets me going.

[Rackir]

Whlie I enjoy a good show, I dont think I could bring myself to completelly sit it out. Maybe is my wife asked real nice, but damn that would be tough!

[mixtupcpl]

Originally Posted by Rackir

Whlie I enjoy a good show, I dont think I could bring myself to completelly sit it out. Maybe is my wife asked real nice, but damn that would be tough!

Same here... Not participating at all wouldnt work for me. We play fully separate though, so me actually being there, but not participating, would have to be deliberate (since she can always just play solo), so it would be an odd thing. If she asked for it (in reality, she'd actually be weirded out by me just watching, but hypothetically) I'd probably want to explore why.

Same goes the other way. If I were to say "tomorrow I want to pick up a chick, bring her home, and fuck her all night, but you can just sit and watch" her reaction would be "huh?"

Of course I *completely* understand the what and why of the guys who are purely voyeuristic and think its great if that works for them. As a "third" (again, we play separate), I wouldnt mind stepping up to the plate while the other guy hung in the bullpen, as long as there was no real humiliation involved and it was just a voyeur thing.

[magnum]

Originally Posted by screaminggood

I'd be curious to know which side of the bed most men sleep on compared to which side they'd pick in a sexual encounter. I'm willing to bet my husband would take the right side because he sleeps on that side so most of our sex starts with him on that side!

Ummmm??? Never thought of that. I had a great play date Friday evening and we played across the bed, some times we play, "MFM" on the right side of the bed too. That has to do with convenience as apposed to preference. When we play across the bed, it works so her pussy is on the edge of the bed and we can go nice and deep in her pussy and it make for a great visual and when it is time to cum, she can slide off the bed onto her knees so we can cum over her face.

[Sunswept]

The most fun MFM's I've had are ones when both I and hubby participates, I want both in the couple to be comfortable with me, I with them -and for all of us to have good clean dirty fun.

I have noticed, even when hubby mainly wants to watch or trade off with me pleasing his wife, the more comfortable he is with me the more fun his wife has -and the more fun she has -and with a secure couple the more fun we all have.

Whatever happens, it has to work for the couple so being open to them and what they want is what I tune into. I like it best when we can all three get a sexual synergy going together that be-cums creatively exciting and sexy, where everyone is turning everyone else on -that is when MFM gets the most fun for me. YMMV

So my advice to couples is to figure out what you want in a MFM, and select a playmate that fits that, and ask yourself what you want a SM to bring to the party that you don't already have just with yourselves or with FFM, couples and larger group play, etc.

[stlfffun]

When swinging as a single male, I enjoy both, so whatever turns the couple on is fine with me. When swinging with my GF (or exwife), we always like a threesome...

[realdeal69x69]

I like the husband to initally watch and then join in the fun as we both team up to please the wife!

[ist75swing]

As the wife, it depends on my mood.
I may like to meet the guy alone also.
like to have the attention of both on me, touching and teasing.
sometimes hubby watches, sometimes take turns.
But definitely i like them both in me. My favorites are: me doggy one in mouth one other side and both DP in my pussy.

[NymphoWind]

Honestly, I would prefer if I was a part of the play instead of just a spectator.
I mean there is a possibility that for a few mins I may step aside to get a drink or to grab a toy to join the play, but as far as it goes, I think a threesome is about double pleasure, so why break the double pleasure?

If males have problems with having any contact between each other, than the female should always just stay in the middle...

[bbarnsworth]

I've wanted to just sit back and watch my wife have sex with someone else almost since the beginning of our swinging. Early on, she very much wanted me involved. I certainly obliged her, and always did stay involved. Now, with some experience in swinging, she understands more and accepts that I would want to just sit back and watch sometimes. She's given me carte blanche to do so on a future encounter.

If I were a single male, I don't think I'd mind if the husband wanted to sit back and watch. So long as I knew he was in complete approval of everything going on, I'd be fine with that.

[jhitch82]

id rather watch... but i would join in if i was comfortable with the couple. more then likely i would have to have some interaction with them b4 hand

[kewlcitycpl]

We have not done alot of mfm threesomes, but in our instances we have done it both ways...my watching her with another guy and my sometimes joining in. There just are some encounters where I prefer to stay back and watch her with another a guy one on one. It gives a very different perspective, and there are some occasionas also where I may be taking a few pics that she and I can share later. Other times however I agree with some of the others here when it comes to seeing her taking two of us at the same time, something that she also enjoys very much. So i guess it comes down to whatever is right for you and any certain occasion

[justme85]

It doesnt matter to me.

[y2c69]

Originally Posted by magnum

I would say your husband is mistaken...I have always played with the wife with the husband, I do not nor have not felt "awkward or uncomfortable". Part of the fun and turn on is to see the woman taking 2 or more cocks at the same time.

Although, I have not had the experience of playing with the wife while the husband just watches. I would not odject if that were to happen but again, part of the excitement is to see the woman enjoying several cocks at once...

I would have to agree with this statement. I have played with several couples and watching a woman enjoy two or more cocks is alot of fun.