Single fems as gifts???

[gnb4u]

Recently I have seen a bunch of posts in the personals by couples (often appearing to have been written by the fem half) looking for a single fem to come to their house as b-day or anniversary or Christmas present to the male half. And there have also been some appearing to have been written by the male half as a present for the female half.

We have a single fem friend that has been in the lifestyle for several years and that is a big pet peeve of hers. she gets deluged all the time with requests to show up at some complete strangers house at night as a "gift" to either the male or female half and she is really offended by it.

I can see her point but can also see some people getting a kick out of it. I am curious as to how prevalent that practice really is.

If you are a couple, Do you think this is a legitimate practice to either provide a special evening for your partner or a legitimate means of trying to obtain an FMF?
-Have you ever requested a single fem you didn't know to be a present for either yourself or someone else?
-If so did you have any positive results at all?

If you are a single fem, how often to you recieve requests to show up at some strangers house or hotel wearing nothing but a ribbon and bow and are expected to fuck complete strangers because it is supposedly some kind of special occasion?
-How do you feel about such requests?
-If the couple is attractive and nice would you consider it?
-Do you find it flattering that they would want you for a special occasion
-or does it make you feel like some kind of cheap unpaid whore that would accomidate some stranger in that manner.
-or do you think it is just silly and dumb?

Just wondering what all of your thoughts are regarding soliciting single fems as a gift for some kind of special occasion.

(I'm assuming single males won't have a problem with it so please keep the topic confined to single fems. thnxs)

[JustAskJulie]

I guess you could say I was a present once.... although I wasn't a single female at the time. I met a guy in a class I was taking and we hit it off and somehow it came up that I was bi. From there we got into a discussion about how his gf had wanted to try it.. she wanted to be blindfolded and have a girl brought in. So that's what we did. It took her a bit to realize what was going on, as it was a surprise "present". In the end, she enjoyed it (as did we all) and we even repeated the fun again without the blindfold and a couple of times as a foursome.

[memygirlnu]

My wife tryed to get me a gift once... but no luck at the time... now her bday is coming up and am hoping to find a good looking girl for her...

[slevin]

I think it's kind of ridiculous to expect a single female to be interested in this. I don't think you could make someone feel like more of an object than by propositioning her with this idea.

Now, the idea of getting someone to come over to have fun on a special day is wicked. Like in Julies case someone she was already interacting with and obviously had comfort, trust and attraction with is a whole different case than asking a stranger. Getting some friends together for a birthday to surprise your spouse is a great idea!

[MrkLin]

We've never looked for a stranger as a 'gift' for someone, but something we have done quite often is give special attention to someone for his/her birthday. For example, we attended a house party at a friend's house, and of course Lin blabbed that the following day was my birthday. Well, 3 lovely ladies then grabbed me, took me down the hallway, and proceeded to wear me out. I did the same for her the following year, and 4 guys took care of her for her birthday. Six ladies took care of the host on his birthday, and five guys took care of his wife on her birthday. It kind of became a ritual at our parties - if it's your birthday, and we find out, be prepared to be rode hard and put away wet. You will get a special present a that party.

[K&JIntimates]

I can't imagine something more rude than to email a single lady that you've never had prior contact with a proposition about her being a 'gift'. It's taking it for granted that just because she's on a swinger site or is into couples that she's willing to have sex with anyone. No one likes to be treated like a piece of meat by complete strangers. To me, this is crass and the height of poor manners.

Building a relationship, emails, clubs, drinks, something with a single lady where both you and your SO are present and then surprising the person in question on their special day is another thing completely. Once you are having some kind of interaction and you all know and like one another I don't see any reason why you couldn't bring the idea up (tactfully) and see what the single lady says. Heck, if you're close with another couple maybe something could be worked out where everyone has a turn 'surprising' the birthday person.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by slevin

I think it's kind of ridiculous to expect a single female to be interested in this. I don't think you could make someone feel like more of an object than by propositioning her with this idea.

The 'gift' is the best excuse in the book really.

Its a way to make it seem less dirty, less frequent too.

I'll do this but only because its your birthday. I doubt there would be any negative vibes about single males as gifts, its only the rarity of true single SANE females in the lifestyle that would allow them to be miffed about being a 'gift'.

[slevin]

Originally Posted by Chicup

The 'gift' is the best excuse in the book really.

Its a way to make it seem less dirty, less frequent too.

Yeah, that is always the impression I get too. Something along the lines of "I'm not a swinger, I don't want to be a swinger and I'm only doing this to shut my husband up about the damn threesomes!"

I wonder if an escort would be the best way for couples to arrange this kind of situation. Easy to find a girl you're attracted to, she will show up just for the party and will leave afterward with no questions asked. Of course, that's 'more dirty' I guess.

[Trace Ekies]

We would take no offense to this at all...we would simply reply no and move on.

Some people enjoy the anonymous aspect of these types of contact and rightly make the assumption that their chances are better in the swinging community.

It doesn't mean that they necessarily believe that all swingers want to have sex with all people. Some, of course, do make such assumptions but some just want to find a freaky woman or man who will come to their house, help them live a fantasy and then leave.

The offended woman should respond that she doesn't enjoy the anonymous soire but that she appreciates the fact that they found her interesting and attractive enough to consider her as the person to help them live their fantasy.

Trace

[K&JIntimates]

Originally Posted by Chicup

The 'gift' is the best excuse in the book really.

Its a way to make it seem less dirty, less frequent too.

I'll do this but only because its your birthday. I doubt there would be any negative vibes about single males as gifts, its only the rarity of true single SANE females in the lifestyle that would allow them to be miffed about being a 'gift'.

"Hey guy (who's profile only has a photo of his cock and three words saying he likes sex) this weekend is my wife's birthday and she wants a GB, what time should I expect you?"

Doesn't this seem a little bit rude?? I still don't think it's right to approach anyone as a mere piece of ass, even if that is all you want from them.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by K&JIntimates

"Hey guy (who's profile only has a photo of his cock and three words saying he likes sex) this weekend is my wife's birthday and she wants a GB, what time should I expect you?"

Doesn't this seem a little bit rude?? I still don't think it's right to approach anyone as a mere piece of ass, even if that is all you want from them.

Actually that seems like a perfect email.

If the guy has a profile like that, what else would one expect? Plus he wouldn't show up anyways


But thats not the question I think, and it seems a bit misplaced.

Yes a single female as a 'gift' would be a piece of meat, but no different then a couple that only plays with another couple once, which is apparently VERY common, and perhaps the norm. I think the reason for the 'gift' is what I outlined above.

[K&JIntimates]

I guess it's the approach that bugs me. The 'gift' concept is rude (to me) in any context.

Which is what we're, perhaps, both saying in different ways.

Btw...Chicup, you're probably right, SM cock shot guy probably wouldn't show up. How would you recognize him if he did anyway? lol