Single Males - Don't contact us, we will find you

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

"Single men we will find U....that includes IM's...If U do not respect that U will be visited by the castration fairy in the middle of the night! We all know that masturbation does not cause hairy palms but apparently it does cause illiteracy!"

As a single man, I KNOW that the possibly interested posters would NOT contact me even if they could find me.

C'mon, let's be real. You saw my profile and considered me for a millisecond, and then you put me on the reject pile, too.

No harm. It's happened lots of times.

But...PLEASE...if the single males have NO chance...just block 'em.

Be kind and most everyone can get back to lookin' for sex-partners...including the snobby couples looking for well-endowed, moneyed, handsome single guys...or anything else I'm not...

Good luck!

Thrax

[ncmd_couple]

Thrax,

Generally, I look at the couples profiles because quite honestly, that is what we are normally looking for. As a couple, we have single males blocked on Swing Lifestyle because there are so many idiots out there.

However, having said that, because of the post above I went and looked at your profile. Quite honestly, you sound like an interesting guy and have a well written profile. I also appreciate that you didn’t include a dick bomb in your pics. Wouldn’t mind meeting you for a drink some time and laughing over the stuff we here at the sites. And if my wife liked you too, you might get lucky!

S

[JustAskJulie]

I moved the above two posts out of another thread on a different topic because I thought this particular fork in the discussion was worthy of its own discussion.

We are one of those couples that are not interested in playing with single guys, but we don't block them. The reason for this is because while we don't play with single guys there are a couple (ok, one really) that we know and enjoy the company of. We invite him to our dinner m&gs, as we know that other couples typically enjoy his company as well. If we blocked single males not only can they not see us but we can't see or communicate with them - at all. So for the sake of being able to keep in contact with this ONE guy we don't block any. Kinda backwards from the usual scenario where one guy screws it up for everyone.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by Thrax

As a single man, I KNOW that the possibly interested posters would NOT contact me even if they could find me.

C'mon, let's be real. You saw my profile and considered me for a millisecond, and then you put me on the reject pile, too.

No harm. It's happened lots of times.

But...PLEASE...if the single males have NO chance...just block 'em.

Be kind and most everyone can get back to lookin' for sex-partners...including the snobby couples looking for well-endowed, moneyed, handsome single guys...or anything else I'm not...

Good luck!

Thrax

Well, I guess you took my post completely out of context. I thought the line about hairy palms and illiteracy was funny, and obviously you did not. Sorry you took it that way.

As for the topic itself, if we want to find a single guy, we'll look for one. We've done it in the past, and we'll probably do it in the future.

It gets back to one or two guys ruining it for the rest of you. We mention single guys not contacting us twice on our profile, because it appears once wasn't enough. Hell, twice isn't enough - we still get contacted. The reason we don't block them is because Lin occasionally likes to look and see if there's anyone she might be interested in - you can't do that if you have them blocked.

If folks really want to be kind, as you put it, they'll read the entire profile - not just perv on the pics, then e-mail us asking for more.

[fun4Ds]

Thrax, I understand what you are saying.... I think.

But as you can see from this post on rare occasions we do get the Bad Apple. We are big swingers now and can handle, as we know, most situations. Sure its just to be blown off but still. I think this merits a witty response. It says clearly in our profile on SZC (same name, mrmrsfun) how we would respond to such a mail.

The thing is, its rare to see the bad apple appear now. But when they do it's taken lightly. And its usually a doozey.

I would like to think over the last few years single men have caught on. Either by being banned, with people reporting them to the website moderation/owners or, the simple fact they are unsuccessful. Then do as their good big brothers (like you, or some of the good men we have met) have shown how to be more acceptable, clean, and well behaved. We do understand people getting upset as we have been there ourselves. Now its not so aggravating. Like I say, they are few and far between.

I have to wonder now though, as its been a very long time since our last occurrence. I don't think we have single males blocked as a whole (for obvious reasons). Just the ones we have received the harassing mail from.

Can you as a single, log in and see our profile on either site ?

[ncmd_couple]

Well, after looking at Thrax's profile last night, and taking into consideration that the reason we were probably bombarded with e-mail from single guys was because we were showing up as "fresh meat," I decided to give it a shot and unlocked single guys from viewing our profile. If our e-mail box fills up with BS, then I will lock it down again. The idiots from that group don't seem to be able to read.

S

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

Well, I guess you took my post completely out of context. I thought the line about hairy palms and illiteracy was funny, and obviously you did not. Sorry you took it that way.

As for the topic itself, if we want to find a single guy, we'll look for one. We've done it in the past, and we'll probably do it in the future.

It gets back to one or two guys ruining it for the rest of you. We mention single guys not contacting us twice on our profile, because it appears once wasn't enough. Hell, twice isn't enough - we still get contacted. The reason we don't block them is because Lin occasionally likes to look and see if there's anyone she might be interested in - you can't do that if you have them blocked.

If folks really want to be kind, as you put it, they'll read the entire profile - not just perv on the pics, then e-mail us asking for more.

Whoops! Sorry, MrkLin, I went off on a tangent and didn't warn anybody.

I did understand the context of your post, and I actually thought the quote you supplied was humorous, but it got me thinking about an issue and my ranting mode switch flipped to ON.

I should have done what Julie did, and started a new thread rather than highjack the other one.

My apologies to all!

Thrax

[eatnlickme]

Best thing for the single guys out there???

Go out and find a single gal and bring her into the LS...

Rather than spending all your time contacting couples.

[arvcpl]

Originally Posted by Thrax

But...PLEASE...if the single males have NO chance...just block 'em.

Be kind and most everyone can get back to lookin' for sex-partners...including the snobby couples looking for well-endowed, moneyed, handsome single guys...or anything else I'm not...

Good luck!

Thrax

I understand that this was probably a reaction out of frustration but here is something to think about. Why should WE have to take any extra action and effort to prevent YOU from running into a dead end when we already have the "no single males" box checked and our profile clearly states "NO SINGLE MALES"

Why should we have to take an extra step to make life easier and more efficient for you when you have the obligation to read our profile before writing to us and an obligation not to bother us when when we clearly define no SMs on our profiles.

There are profiles out there that say they aren't interested in couples. Guess what, we don't write to them and offer them our big dicks that last all night. We don't tell them that they should block all couples if they don't want couples, we just don't waste the time and energy writing to them.

[K&JIntimates]

We've been on swingers date club for about a month with no block on SM's. Now either, we're (meaning me) not that appealing or they actually read our profile and saw the part that says, "No single men... should this change in the future we will contact you." Because we haven't received one email from a single man. The thing is that we aren't completely discounting them, we would just prefer to meet them at a M&G and get a better impression than just a profile.

I agree with Thrax about being kind, should be a universal rule. That being said Thrax should write his own column on what a couple might want to see in a SM profile because his has got it going on!

[TNT]

Originally Posted by arvcpl

I understand that this was probably a reaction out of frustration but here is something to think about. Why should WE have to take any extra action and effort to prevent YOU from running into a dead end when we already have the "no single males" box checked and our profile clearly states "NO SINGLE MALES"

Why should we have to take an extra step to make life easier and more efficient for you when you have the obligation to read our profile before writing to us and an obligation not to bother us when when we clearly define no SMs on our profiles.

I don't think it's necessarily making life easier for single men by blocking them...to me, it would be a way to ease those couples frustration level, who aren't looking for single men.

Not everyone reads a profile (yes, I know they should but they don't) and that includes couples and singles. We've been contacted by as many couples who don't read our profile as we have by singles.

If a couple blocks single men then they're not bothered by them....instead, couples don't block them and then constantly complain because they're being contacted by "yet another single man who can't read"... A couple has the power to block but doesn't use it and still complains when they're contacted.

I just don't understand what the big deal is...If you don't want to be contacted by single men, block them. If you're not going to block them, than ignore the mail you get from them...you don't have to open it, you can just delete. It's not that hard.

Those single men who are worth their salt will read a profile before contacting a couple. The ones that don't read the profile, usually don't understand swinging to begin with.


Teresa

[JustAskJulie]

We don't block them, I'm not even sure our profile outright has the usual "NO SINGLE MALE" statement. We don't have any interest in single males checked on our profile. That said, we rarely get contacted by single guys... maybe one ever couple of months and when we do we either delete the message or if they were nice and polite we write back that thanks but we aren't interested.

Most of what we get are chat requests from single guys. We probably get 2 of those for every one from a couple... and all we do there is hit the "decline" button. It's not that hard really. I have to wonder what is different in the profiles of these couples who are getting so overwhelmed by messages from single guys? Is it because we don't post naked pics as the main pics on our profile? (or at all for that matter)? If I could figure out what we are doing right, I'd pass it along.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by Thrax

As a single man, I KNOW that the possibly interested posters would NOT contact me even if they could find me.

C'mon, let's be real. You saw my profile and considered me for a millisecond, and then you put me on the reject pile, too.

No harm. It's happened lots of times.

But...PLEASE...if the single males have NO chance...just block 'em.

Be kind and most everyone can get back to lookin' for sex-partners...including the snobby couples looking for well-endowed, moneyed, handsome single guys...or anything else I'm not...

Thrax,

I just ran across a profile that is a perfect example of what not to do.

In bold red at the top they have the "single males don't contact us, if we want you we will find you" type statement.

Then down a couple of paragraphs there is this:

Single guys - if you can not construct and introductory email that is more than 2 or 3 words, don't bother....

Um, if you don't want mail from single males inthe first place then why are you giving them instructions on HOW to contact you?

[K&JIntimates]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I have to wonder what is different in the profiles of these couples who are getting so overwhelmed by messages from single guys? Is it because we don't post naked pics as the main pics on our profile? (or at all for that matter)? If I could figure out what we are doing right, I'd pass it along.

This might be worth exploring. We don't have any nudes either, although we do have some suggestive photos of the two of us together.

I'd also like to know what makes some profiles magnets and others not.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by Thrax

Whoops! Sorry, MrkLin, I went off on a tangent and didn't warn anybody.

I did understand the context of your post, and I actually thought the quote you supplied was humorous, but it got me thinking about an issue and my ranting mode switch flipped to ON.

I should have done what Julie did, and started a new thread rather than highjack the other one.

My apologies to all!

Thrax

No worries, mate. A slight misunderstanding - that's all. Please know that I meant nothing by the single guy quote - I really did post it because I thought it was worded funny.

As a side note, we took a look at your profile today, and if we didn't live half a continent away, Lin would be contacting you (as I said, she does look and we contact guys that interest her.) This is just my opinion, but if more single guys wrote profiles like yours, a lot more would be getting invited to parties and such (and yes, we invite 2 single guys to our parties - everyone likes both of them, and there's never been even a hint of an issue.)

If there are any other single guys out there reading this, take a look at Thrax' Swing Lifestyle profile. Now THAT'S the way a profile should be!