Single Males - Don't contact us, we will find you

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I just ran across a profile that is a perfect example of what not to do.

In bold red at the top they have the "single males don't contact us, if we want you we will find you" type statement.

Then down a couple of paragraphs there is this:
Single guys - if you can not construct and introductory email that is more than 2 or 3 words, don't bother....

Um, if you don't want mail from single males in the first place then why are you giving them instructions on HOW to contact you?

You see, it's couples like this that give the rest of us couples a bad name.
-Just sayin'

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

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It gets back to one or two guys ruining it for the rest of you. We mention single guys not contacting us twice on our profile, because it appears once wasn't enough. Hell, twice isn't enough - we still get contacted. The reason we don't block them is because Lin occasionally likes to look and see if there's anyone she might be interested in - you can't do that if you have them blocked.

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If Lin occasionally likes to look, and the rest of the time you don't want to be contacted, then I suggest you block single males until those occasions when she wants to look. That way they can only see you when you want to see them. The procedure is simple and not much trouble... checking and unchecking a box seems like a lot less trouble than sifting through unwanted emails on a constant basis.

We have single males blocked, because it's just not what we are looking for. We don't have any of the yelling about "NO SINGLE MALES" on our profile. We've only been contacted by a single male once or twice in the almost two years we've been on Swing Lifestyle. Those only happened because they had a couples' profile they shouldn't have had. We reported them.

We don't have nudes in our public pictures, but we do have bathing suit pictures.

[K&JIntimates]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

We don't have nudes in our public pictures, but we do have bathing suit pictures.

You don't have nudes, Julie doesn't, and we don't. All of us aren't being deluged by unwanted solicitations. Makes you wonder!

[CntrySngr]

Interesting thread...Being a single guy that CAN read, I don't contact couples that don't want to be contacted by single men. Interestingly, I have been contacted by couples that specify that they are totally uninterested in single males. And yes, I have a dick photo or two in my profile, added because I got tired of being asked for one! Now, here's the kicker: as I am bi, and list myself as such, I had to block single males! Yes, that's right, I was absolutely inundated with messages from "straight" males even though I had the caveat that I was not looking for single males in my profile at that time. So I know where the couples are coming from where this situation is concerned.

[IvoryTowers]

We do have a line saying "we're not looking for single men right now" on our profile but we don't block single males because I (Mrs. Ivory) like to look at the men.

If the guys send a "Hey wanna hook up" profile, they get a quick reply and a delete. But there have been a few (2) men who have been witty and sexy and made clear that they read our profile and are happy to just put out a feeler for a possible later meeting.

These are guys I wouldn't mind meeting at a party, or contacting if we decide to do a MFM threesome!

[femnewb4u2]

Thrax and Cntrysngr, I am a single female, which may not qualify me to reply but I did want to say....with profiles as well thought out and written as yours you support the reason why I remind myself to keep an open mind when it comes to single males. Even though my Swing Lifestyle profile is not geared to single men. As one who reads profiles I say thank you for the time and thought you put into yours. Gives hope!

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

If Lin occasionally likes to look, and the rest of the time you don't want to be contacted, then I suggest you block single males until those occasions when she wants to look. That way they can only see you when you want to see them. The procedure is simple and not much trouble... checking and unchecking a box seems like a lot less trouble than sifting through unwanted emails on a constant basis.

I'm not trying to be argumentative here, just explain a couple of things. Lin also has a couple of single male playmates (who became playmates long before we even knew Swing Lifestyle existed) who now also have Swing Lifestyle profiles. By blocking all single males, we also block them. That's not something she wants to do. We also don't sift through a lot of unwanted e-mails on a constant basis - here lately the number of singles contacting us has dropped off considerably, so we have nothing to complain about.

I don't know why, but it seems like e-mails from singles come in floods once or twice a year. We'll go for 6 or 7 months without an e-mail, then whoosh - we get a dozen or more over the course of a month, then they stop again. Right now is one of those lulls in the storm - haven't had any since about the end of August. Hmmmm - isn't that about the time school started back up? Just wondering out loud...

Overall, mentioning that we're not looking for singles (twice) cuts down on the number of obnoxious e-mails (we had one in July that consisted of 2 sentences: "Great pics. Does she take it up the ass?") and married guys out looking for a little on the side (maybe it's a regional thing, but there seem to be quite a few of those around here,) so for now, we're going to keep it up there.

[PB&J]

Just to add my experience- I don't post nude or even bathing suit pics, being the shy type in an online environment- and we get hardly any single guy responses, without having anything in our profile telling them not to bother. A few when we first join a new site, and then nothing, which is ok, because it's not really what we're interested in as a couple. (although Thrax does have a very appealing profile!)

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Thrax

Be kind and most everyone can get back to lookin' for sex-partners...including the snobby couples looking for well-endowed, moneyed, handsome single guys...or anything else I'm not...

First, for all of you who are not aware, the avatar that Thrax has with his Swingersboard profile is not cut-and-pasted from the Internet -- it an actual picture of him. He is just too modest when he a makes statement like the one above.

Second, I have cut-and-pasted some of the more humorous and outrageous messages that we have received at our Swing Lifestyle address (unedited and unabridged). We would never block single men: 1) we know more than one who is worthwhile 2) receiving e-mail like the following is just too rich a source of humor.

let me cum taste u

I also love sex and fat girls

I am looking for wild fun times and love to eat juice jelly rolls but I have no time for that since I take care of my mother and I can not get out until 10:00 or so.

ru to good 2b true?

how are you!

I love sucking and licking your clit. Please write.

hi there I think ur gorgeous lets fuck

30m i love sex

[IvoryTowers]

SW PA those are fabulous!

There was a profile on AFF for a single male who said essentially "I love getting BJs. I don't have time for a relationship so I'm looking for a woman who can deep throat me and then leave." Um, I think you have to pay for that!

What I wonder is...do these EVER work? We've contacted a very few single males who were not only attractive but also articulate and funny (in a good way) as well as non-pushy. We really just want to meet the couple who responded to "Totally sexxxy and want 2 fuk her" with an enthusiastic "Hell yes, let's IM right away!" (and X-ray their heads to find out what's missing).

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by IvoryTowers

What I wonder is...do these EVER work?

Messages like these always seem to key on JoAnn. Once, just once, I would like to have a message from some single woman, "You're gorgeous. I want you to come right over and f**k me now!" I would even be happy if I got one that said, "You're an awkward-looking nerd. I want you to come right over and f**k me now!"

~Michael

[IvoryTowers]

Michael, you are an adorable looking nerd and I want you to come over and f**k me right now!

Okay, the second part of that isn't true, but I went to your profile and the first half absolutely is!

[ncmd_couple]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

Messages like these always seem to key on JoAnn. Once, just once, I would like to have a message from some single woman, "You're gorgeous. I want you to come right over and f**k me now!" I would even be happy if I got one that said, "You're an awkward-looking nerd. I want you to come right over and f**k me now!"

~Michael

Hahaha!

Michael,

Yeah, when we first got on Swing Lifestyle we were flooded by stupid e-mails. So I blocked single males. A couple of months ago I removed the block and haven't been hit on since. I guess they target the newbies on a site. But your right, I've never been approached either.

S

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by IvoryTowers

Michael, you are an adorable looking nerd and I want you to come over and f**k me right now!

OMG! . I'm right now checking Expedia.com for flights to Philly. Don't move. I'll be right there.

Thanks for the kind words.

~M

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by ncmd_couple

But your right, I've never been approached either.

It is our gender's fate. But I have not lost hope completely. As you can see here, I just came close.

~M