SIngle male seeking Swing Clubs

[ChristopherHype]

I am a single male and new to Austin. What are some clubs or something I should join or go to? I am sort of a sex addict, is swing clubs the best route to go?

[screaminggood]

Can you describe in more detail what you mean by a sex addict? Are you talking frequency or fetishes? There are/were several clubs in Austin, but they tend to close down more often than in Dallas or Houston. I've never found a good on-premise club there. There used to be a great off-premise club at 290 east of 35, if it's still there. There's also a lifestyle group that goes and does stuff together, too.

[arvcpl]

By claiming to be a sex addict I am assuming that means you want to fuck a lot of chicks and not put much effort into getting them into bed. If that is the case then ironically the swinging lifestyle is NOT for you as a single male.

The vast majority of single guys rack up much greater numbers and with greater ease in the regular vanilla dating world. You will bed more chicks if you go to regular meat market bars and look for the drunk chicks that just broke up with their boyfriends than you ever will in the lifestyle.

Most of the women in the lifestyle are already in satisfying relationships and aren't interested in just being another wet pussy for you to sink your dick into.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by ChristopherHype

is swing clubs the best route to go?

Chris, you might want to take a few and read the info provided here (as well as the links attached to it): Swingers Board - Single Men and Swinging

[Mr.Essex]

To the OP: Like a boxer, a single male must give better than he gets. And bragging about being a sex addict (when talking to swingers) is like punching yourself in the jaw as soon as you hear the bell.
Here are three tips

1. If you've never been complimented on your bedroom skills (physically/carnally, because anyone can make breakfast in the morning), you aren't going to make it very far in the lifestyle
(1a. Swingers do talk to each other, so don't think that bad behavior in one city can't and won't follow you back to Austin.)
2. If your conversation level is lower than the adult average, you probably won't even be given the chance to "prove yourself" physically. Most swingers are in the 35-55 year range. Their life experiences will usually be slightly different than their own, so a conversation that's trend/tabloid information/high-tech dependant is just digging yourself another hole. Likewise, noone wants to hear you blather on about politics (politics are the death knell to almost any non-emotional relationship)/religion/any other controversial topic. Tailor your rapport to your friends, not to your personal beliefs or current manias.
3. YMMV, but you should never forget that the women with whom you're flirting is (almost always) married/involved with another man. So always remember to honor his presence. Talking to the wife alone is bad, and talking to the wife's breasts is the touch of death (no matter how pendulous and handsome they may be). Most women, regardless of location, look to their husbands for final say, so keeping him out of the loophole is never a good thing (repeat, whether it's by ignoring him or acting as if his SO is your personal chewtoy). If they are anywhere near each other, show him the proper respect that you'd show to your boss or an older relative, even if she's "obviously" the pants wearer. In fact, even if the two of them are physically unattached (for example: you meet her on the dance floor, she grinds against you, etc) If you see her looking in the same direction at the same person repeatedly, make sure to introduce yourself (before or after) and acknowledge that he's there. Otherwise, you won't be seeing her again, and he may decide to let the owners/organizers know that you're not one of his favorite people. And for a SM, reputation is everything.

[screaminggood]

Excellent advice, Mr. Essex! As a married woman who plays with single men, you're absolutely correct: I always look to the husband for his approval of my play choices before I play.