Single male with erectile dysfunction, am I wasting my time

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by crazi429

I can only get semi erect at the most. Even with double the dosage of any of the prescribed pills out there I can only get hard for less than a minute. surely not enough to give a lady any pleasure. But even semi erect I can reach ejaculation. I plan to see the doctor after 1st of the year when hip is well healed and start checking into injections. I am all about pleasure of my partner. There is nothing like feeling the heart beat increase and tensioning of the body before a lady cums. I do have very large hands and do know how to use the pretty well plus I love to eat pussy. Anal play is fun also. I have joined several list trying to see what reactions I can get right now I cannot drive for several more weeks then I may have to check out some clubs. I am a very quiet shy type of guy so I am unsure of how clubs will work for me. I really appreciate all the input and help I have received here.

Ok, so you can get off but you can't get hard... correct?

I know this isn't the case for all women, but for myself any issue I might have with a guy not getting hard is more about my wanting to be able to give him pleasure as well has me getting pleasure. So if a woman goes down on you, and you get semi-erect then come... that's a step up from nothing. Yes, you won't be able to get a woman off with your penis, and you would need to let women know that upfront (that sex is not an option).

As others said, you're still on an uphill road. You're a single guy, that's overweight AND can't get an erection. Honestly, I think the ED is probably the least of your worries.

[LikeMinds321]

It sounds like you've been in a committed relationship for 17 years or more, so I'm guessing you've not dated any women during that time.

I'd suggest you try that first. Being out of the dating game for so long, it would be good to work on the skills required to attrack other women for dates. You'll need these same social skills if you ever get into swinging.

Swinging will not make it easier to find women, and may actually make it more difficult since there are so many single men in the swinging world who don't have the limitations you do.

Women/Couples who swing can afford to be very choosy with the single men they play with, and most are.

LM

[crazi429]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

It sounds like you've been in a committed relationship for 17 years or more, so I'm guessing you've not dated any women during that time.

I'd suggest you try that first. Being out of the dating game for so long, it would be good to work on the skills required to attrack other women for dates. You'll need these same social skills if you ever get into swinging.

Swinging will not make it easier to find women, and may actually make it more difficult since there are so many single men in the swinging world who don't have the limitations you do.

Women/Couples who swing can afford to be very choosy with the single men they play with, and most are.

LM

The relationship/friendship has been 17 years but we both have dated during our off times. In fact Red even got married but then that a whole other story. Dating has never been easy for me and because of our relationship its always awkward. I really don't want a committed relationship and with most dating thats what people are looking for. I am checking out alot of singles sites ones the are based on sex and once I am able to drive myself will go forward with that. I plan to do this no matter what red and myself end up doing. I have no problem with her going elsewhere for sex and I intend to do the same thing. I just think it would be great to do it together.

[crazi429]

Well I got a appointment next week to see the urologist and see what can be done to help my ED. Hopefully good things will happen.

[twohots4u2]

There are many medical aids to ED, and we recommend that you work with a good urologist to find out what works best for you. Bob had similiar problems and the doctors started him out with Viagra, then Levitra, and then Cialice. After a while each failed to give him an erection that would enable him to have intercourse. A doctor then prescribed Muse, a pill that is placed in the utretha, melts, and gives a erection. It worked for several years and then the resultant erections did not get hard enough. Then, we met a doctor through a swing site that indicated injections could enable erections that could last up to three hours, wonderful for swinging sessions.

Bob and I visited the doctor and after checking Bob over very throughly, the doctor prescribed the injections. Instead of the automatic Caverjet, he prescribed small, prefilled, regular syringes. He had Bob run time trials with five different doses and combination of the drugs to determine the optimum dosage. Wow! That was wonderful, as suddenly Bob was able to have regular sex and we could fully satisfy each other. After the trials, we told the doctor the times and he gave us his final prescription.

The needles are very, very small, and Bob says he can hardly feel them. He has to inject them into the spongy channel in his penis and frequently I do it for him since I can see exactly where to inject him easier. But, his erections last about three hours and now he can perform easily in a swinging situation.

Best of luck. Don't get discouraged. Until your hip heals, emphasize and become more expert with your oral skills. It is like a blind person developing offsetting senses to help them overcome thier problem. Bob did, and during his limp period learned how to give women multiple orgasms. When we swung with a couple, most of the women were delighted with his performance because they had more orgasms than ever before in one session. Now, he has to stop after five or so orgasms so they will not be too tired to try his long lasting very hard cock.

Best wishes!

[crazi429]

Your story is pretty much what I have been hearing. I have tried all the pills and just the other night read about the suppository and really don't like the idea of that at all. I would prefer the injection as shots have never bothered me much. I have read up on tri-mix and am hoping for that working for me.
I am doing my best at the oral department but still have alot to learn. As long as me and Red can keep together and play I am sure I will keep learning. Also she wants us to play with a bi lady sometime and I figure I will learn lots then.

Originally Posted by twohots4u2

There are many medical aids to ED, and we recommend that you work with a good urologist to find out what works best for you. Bob had similiar problems and the doctors started him out with Viagra, then Levitra, and then Cialice. After a while each failed to give him an erection that would enable him to have intercourse. A doctor then prescribed Muse, a pill that is placed in the utretha, melts, and gives a erection. It worked for several years and then the resultant erections did not get hard enough. Then, we met a doctor through a swing site that indicated injections could enable erections that could last up to three hours, wonderful for swinging sessions.

Bob and I visited the doctor and after checking Bob over very throughly, the doctor prescribed the injections. Instead of the automatic Caverjet, he prescribed small, prefilled, regular syringes. He had Bob run time trials with five different doses and combination of the drugs to determine the optimum dosage. Wow! That was wonderful, as suddenly Bob was able to have regular sex and we could fully satisfy each other. After the trials, we told the doctor the times and he gave us his final prescription.

The needles are very, very small, and Bob says he can hardly feel them. He has to inject them into the spongy channel in his penis and frequently I do it for him since I can see exactly where to inject him easier. But, his erections last about three hours and now he can perform easily in a swinging situation.

Best of luck. Don't get discouraged. Until your hip heals, emphasize and become more expert with your oral skills. It is like a blind person developing offsetting senses to help them overcome thier problem. Bob did, and during his limp period learned how to give women multiple orgasms. When we swung with a couple, most of the women were delighted with his performance because they had more orgasms than ever before in one session. Now, he has to stop after five or so orgasms so they will not be too tired to try his long lasting very hard cock.

Best wishes!

[crazi429]

Well I go get my first test injection in the morning so hoepfully it will work as good as I have heard. I will report back!