Single Female causing issues with us at a our club

[watchem_wiggle]

Well, we've had our first somewhat bad experience in swinging. We had an acquaintance join us as a guest at our local club. We had met her online, she seemes nice, normal, friendly, we chatted at length....so she comes to the club and lets me know she took 2 klonopin "to relax" (red flag #1)

Then she proceeds to talk and talk, and talk, and talk...I thought she might be a bit nervous, so I gave her benefit of the doubt.

We headed upstairs, and hang out, just talking and making her feel as comfortable as we can...then she goes to the bathroom and comes back with a single male she met on the way...cool, the more the merrier! She proceeded to keep her full attention on single dude....which makes us feel better that she is connecting with someone, even if it isn't us (bummer for us though!)

She ended up leaving the club and going to a bar with him later on. The next week, I am alone at the club for potluck night (poor Steve had to be away for work) and I see her come in with Single Dude from last week. I thought "Hey, she liked it enough to join, cool" chatted with her a bit, and went on my way...

This past Wed. she texts me "you going to the club tonight" and I wrote back "nah, too tired" and she asks "do you know anyone who can sponsor me?"

What?!?!?!?! She hadn't joined, she just had Single Dude sponsor her as a guest that last week....a BIG no-no for our club (I wonder why they let her?)
You are supposed to be a guest only once, and then either join fully, or get an associate membership.

Well, I told her that I didn't appreciate her taking advantage of the system by not joining if she wanted to continue attending parties. And that I would email the club, and apprise them of the situation.

She never replied back to me, but caught Steve online today (while he's on a business trip) and asked if we would pay her membership for her, and she'd "make it up to us" for ignoring us that first week! Steve basically told her to fuck off (but in nicer terms, I hope honey!)

How do we get her to leave us alone so our reputation doesn't start getting tainted at our club?

[sweet_tna]

Follow through with what you said you'd do by informing the club management/owners of her shenanigans. Not only will they be on the lookout for her (and not let her abuse the "guest" privilege), but it will show them you're responsible members, too.

Best of luck,

=)

[bbarnsworth]

Concur. You can't control her actions, but follow through with the club. If you follow through with the club, your reputation will be improved, not ruined. Sounds like she's a real flake.

[watchem_wiggle]

Yeah, I just sent off an email to the manager. I'm hoping that will be the end of it. I just thought that if she did try and actually pony up the money to join, if they didn't know about her harassing us, they would just take her money and not realize that she is what she is.........

[JustAskJulie]

Notifying the club should do the trick. Have you heard from her again since you let her know what you planned to do?

Chances are she is/was probably under the misguided idea that you were just pissed off because she "ignored you" that first night. So hopefully letting the club management know what's up will keep her away, those are the type of SFs that we don't need more of.

[Cpl2share]

Besides: Do you really want a hooker in the club? Bottom line: She offered to have sex with you if you would pay her membership. Next time she will be asking someone else at the club for money to pay for something else. Next thing you know the rest of the members blame you for bringing a leech into the pool.

[fun4Ds]

They charge single females ? Thats a new one on me. How much ?

Not to be an advocate, but I know in dating single females, I offer to pay for many things. Dinner, entrance fees and yes even a room. One playmate likes to split the check and thats cool but I just feel comfortable offering to pay. Mrs fun and I talked about this in the beginning. She understands that its just a comfort issue for me. I'm a guy Just like opening a door for a woman, it seems like good manners.

I have to ask you as I would have asked myself. What if single guy didn't happen, and she wanted to go again... with you ?

What if she couldnt afford the membership then ?

Did you talk before hand about all this with her ?

Do you think she has tried this with other couples before, now, or since then ?

What would have been her fee for a yearly membership, and entrance fee from that point on ?

Did you invite her on your own or did she contact you wanting to check out the club with a known couple ?

Sorry, I had to ask

[Edison Carter]

Susan here-- Most people like this are cowards. I doubt she'll be causing any trouble for you, much less even look in your general direction. The best thing to do is what you've already done: expose this person's inappropriate behavior.

"Villains who twirl their mustaches are easy to spot. Those that cloak themselves in good deeds are well camouflaged."

[BiloxiCouple]

And ya'll thought single guys have a bad rep. Unicorns have their own problems too!!!