Is sending a "I had a great time" email ok?

[Taylor74]

I recently played with a fun, attractive couple and the night went well. Great conversation, etc. I was thinking about sending them an email through Swing Lifestyle stating that I had a blast. The problem is, is that I don't want to come off as too clingy, which I'm not. What do you think about this gesture?

[newmajor00]

You could write a well crafted certification on Swing Lifestyle, rather than email them directly.

[Taylor74]

We both talked about certs on the date. I personally feel they can be a bit tacky at times.

[newmajor00]

Give it a day or two, then send them a note. Say you had a great time, but be non committal about a follow on get together. Let them be the ones to suggest it (or not) in a reply back to you.

[2inSanDiego4u]

We usually send an email the next day, and we keep it short and sweet, just a few lines long. When you get their reply, you'll often be able to gauge their enthusiasm, or lack thereof.

[sweet_tna]

Yes, we always appreciate emails like that, though we're usually the first to send 'em. I try to wait until later the next day (after everyone has had time to recover). Long as you keep it short n' sweet, like, "Hey, it was great meeting ya'll, I had a blast last night," you can't go wrong.

=)

[aster]

i'm new, so take this with a grain of salt....but i'd feel it would be more weird not to say "thanks" if you had a good time.

i would email (instead of calling), and wait a couple days. then send something short and sassy like "wow, thanks for the great night...hubby and i are still talking about it. hope to see you around again!"

I wouldn't say "hey can we meet next friday?" but i don't think it's clingy to say you hope to play with them again.

[slevin]

We always appreciate getting an email the next day from whoever we play with. We're always wondering how they felt and it's great to hear from them. We are often the first to send a message as we know that we like to hear from people. so we're not shy about sending a quick email or txt to say nothing more than we had a great time with them last night. A quick sentence or two.

If we want to play again we'll talk with them about that later on, unless we all agreed in person before we left that we all wanted to play again soon lol.

[jdavisauto]

If thing went very well to the point that e-mails was exchange then yes we would drop a short e-mail. If meet the couple or lady or single male on Swing Lifestyle then I would do a certification on Swing Lifestyle and see what happens from there.

[jjtrindc]

Reminds me of the scene from "Swingers" (how ironic) when they were talking about how long to wait until you call a girl (4 days). LOL. As for us, we simply send an email the next day conveying how we felt the night went. If we didn't click we send a very neutral note saying thanks but with no hint we want to see them again. If we did click, then we send a nice note. Short but sweet saying that we had a good time and hope to see them again. Figure there is not point in playing games. If they decide after one email we are too clingly or wanting then probably not someone we actually want to have a long term relationship with.

[rpu3]

I and we appreciate such e-mails, and it doesn't come off as clingy to me.

[LFM2]

Not only is it OK, we think it's totally appropriate! We love getting emails that say they've had a great time and we love to send them mutual emails as well. Kinda keeps harmony with the world.

[Taylor74]

Thank you everyone for your input (no pun intended). For the record, I'm a single male so there is a fine line between being enthusiastic and being considered clingy. LOL! I just wanted to make sure my gesture was ok.

[NakedInSeattle]

This kind of email is not only OK but really the right thing to do. If a couple "opens themselves" up to you, you should be thankful and say so.

[WeMayTryIt]

A short "I had a great time" email wouldn't inherently seem clingy to us. In fact, we would appreciate it, as we do the same thing when we've had a great time. The content and the tone of the message is what would or would not trip the "clingy" wire. Multiple messages without us sending a similar reply would be weird too. Sounds like you have your head on straight, and based on what I can tell from your posts, we'd love to get such a message from a someone like you, single or otherwise.