Question about age... Am I too old?

[2inVT]

LOL, I've always liked older men - and since I keep getting older myself, well...

[Chicup]

Of course age matters in swinging.

Its like weight, income, education, or race, it matters to people who it matters to.

When we started thinking about swinging we were late 20's. We didn't have the slightest desire to be with even couples in their late 30's at the time. It just wasn't a turn on.

Hell we weren't thrilled with couples with children either. It just didn't feel right.

Now we are late 30's ourselves, with kids, and our preferences have changed dramatically. I find my strikezone for age has increased faster than my age has, and we prefer couples with children since they understand the issues with kids and the lifestyle far more than a childless couple ever could.

Its just another checkbox for people to internally match up when looking for someone to swing with. For some age doesn't matter, for us it still does to a far less of a degree then 9 years ago, but its still a factor. Likewise, while we will occasionally see young couples who we are interested in getting to know better, I'm not going to be offended if they are not interested in us. And finally, when we see a couple in their very early 20's, we find they seem just too young.

[Pepper & Drew]

True age only matters for meeting people online. In other situations like at socials, parties and clubs, it's all about your perceived age. We play with a lot of people that I was shocked when I found out their real age...because they didn't seem (for a lack of a better way to say it) THAT old.

But, like Chicup said, age really matters to some. I'm comfortable being with people who are old enough to be my parents, but some others may not be. The bottom line is, 59 is not 100, and if all other things are ok, you shouldn't have any more trouble finding playmates than most. Being a single male will probably be a harder challenge to overcome than your age.

Pepper

[2inVT]

Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew

True age only matters for meeting people online. In other situations like at socials, parties and clubs, it's all about your perceived age. We play with a lot of people that I was shocked when I found out their real age...because they didn't seem (for a lack of a better way to say it) THAT old. ...

Pepper

What a very interesting comment. I like the way you said that.

[Brian and Jo]

We agree with the comments that your age does'nt really matter. We are both in our 60s and so are the six couples with whom we swing on a regular basis. When we are on vacation we look for playmates in our age group which means mid-50s and above. So go for it and good luck.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by Brian and Jo

We agree with the comments that your age does'nt really matter. We are both in our 60s and so are the six couples with whom we swing on a regular basis. When we are on vacation we look for playmates in our age group which means mid-50s and above. So go for it and good luck.

So you swing with people your age locally, and when you travel you look for people your age, but age doesn't matter?

Perhaps its more accurate to say age alone doesn't stop someone from swinging, but it most definitely matters.

[athenagirl]

The hottest lover I've had in the last year was (is) 20 years my junior... he seems to have no issues whatsoever over the age difference, nor do I think it's a kinky festish of his to play with a women old enough to be his mom. No, instead, this man makes me feel sexy, young, beautiful and hot! Am I a lucky woman or what?
Athenagirl

[Playful1]

You're more likely to have issues because of your status as a single male than your age.

Just be polite, respectful, fun, and take care of your appearance and you'll do fine

[threes_company]

i think its just a matter of personal preferences. I'm seeing a man at the moment who's over twice my age and the age difference means nothing believe me!

[screaminggood]

I wonder if older men get more action at "school girl" events where those with a fantasy of being with an older man might be playing the young girl part?

[Michelleen]

To me, Heart & Soul matter most. Not age.

In fact, I have found that the more mature lovers are more experienced, stable, know what they want and know how to pleasure a woman.

I am 24 and find that many men ( not all ) my age are really weird sometimes and mean and just self-centered. I think its more their lack of real experience.

My couples experience has been with older couples and has been wonderful.

In fact, often I have just the opposite problem, being viewed too young by couples. I am more the natural shy and submissive type, so I am not aggressive and need the others to make the first move. At certain events I am sure some couples don't give me a second look because of my age - but, I really wish they would. I am very open.

Anyway, Mr. Ib4u1952 - you continue to stay in there and enjoy yourself.

Michelle

[MrkLin]

Age is a state of mind. Lin's favorite single male playmate is 58, and he's a very good friend. To be honest, I had no idea he was 58 until he told me last summer at our campout - he doesn't look it, and damned sure doesn't act it.

You aren't too old until you convince yourself that you are. That's the day you need to forget about swinging and take up gardening in plaid shorts and sandals. As long as you're still out there having fun, you're just the right age.

[hoistsail]

I think that being older male is a bit of a handicap with some couples. But when they are open to meeting and talking they find out that an in shape older male can have some great advantages to pleasing a woman.

I personally have gotten lucky at times, but it seems I must to talk to 100 people before a real meeting is ever possible. So many view the MFM as a fantasy not a reality.

[screaminggood]

Two thoughts:

1) I'm (bi-fem) going to judge you by your self-confidence and your sexual confidence when you're introducing yourself to me...not your age. It's whether I think you'd be fun.

2) Because of #1, I tend to choose most of my single males from a local club. It's much easier to select a good playmate in person.

[magnum]

Originally Posted by Michelleen

To me, Heart & Soul matter most. Not age.

In fact, I have found that the more mature lovers are more experienced, stable, know what they want and know how to pleasure a woman.

I am 24 and find that many men ( not all ) my age are really weird sometimes and mean and just self-centered. I think its more their lack of real experience.

My couples experience has been with older couples and has been wonderful.

In fact, often I have just the opposite problem, being viewed too young by couples. I am more the natural shy and submissive type, so I am not aggressive and need the others to make the first move. At certain events I am sure some couples don't give me a second look because of my age - but, I really wish they would. I am very open.

Anyway, Mr. Ib4u1952 - you continue to stay in there and enjoy yourself.

Michelle

I would say you are not to old...Age is a state of mind...Although, I wounder if I am to old for someone your age???