Is the lifestyle even a viable place to seek single fems?

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally Posted by twohots4u2

We have been surprised that we have not met any single female via SLS,

Don't take it personally. Single swinging females are very very rare in the lifestyle, and is very high demand. They probably get bombarded with e-mails.

Also, I've noticed that most of the single females I've seen on SLS tend to have free profiles, which means they can only reply a limited amount of times per day (I think it's five times...)

[arvcpl]

Originally Posted by twohots4u2

We have been surprised that we have not met any single female via SLS, etc. We get hit on all the time by lots of single guys and a number of couples, but no single gals. And, most of the single gals we approach have not even had the courtesy to reply and say no, even though our messages are always respectful, address their interests, include photos, etc. In the clubs Ms. twohots4u2 is always very popular with bi-women. Interesting phenomena.

Single gals generally don't "hit on" couples because they don't have to, couples come to them. On the bigger sites like SLS, single fems may get many dozens to even hundreds of emails a day from single guys and couples and they only respond to the ones they feel the most interested and compatable. Also, I noticed that your profile mentions quite a few bi-male fantasys and that may not really be a selling point to a lot of single fems.

The fact that you are popular at the clubs speaks volumes for you however as that is real life and is worth far more that cyber-chat. If you are doing well at the clubs work with that.

[CallMeLoki]

Great thread! My wife and I talking about opening up our marriage with a couple of activities, one of them being a FMF experience for me and a one-on-one experience for her. I keep seeing how it's nearly impossible to find a willing female within the swinger community, so this thread speaks to the practicality outside the swinger community.

One very good point: there are few single females in the swinger ranks because they don't need to be. Single women can find unattached sex anywhere...they don't need to be swingers for that goal.

I don't know from experience, but I think a few posts touched on a good point: I would tend to think there's likely at least a few "vanilla" women who wouldn't mind having an FMF experience as a one-time thing.

Case in point: A couple who is an acquaintance of ours...we saw the wife going into a martini bar one night when my wife and I were leaving. We spoke and flirted for a bit. We then saw her at a friend's party a couple week's later...she asked "Why were you guys in such a hurry to leave?" I told her "We were going parkin'...we started to ask you if you wanted to join us" (intended as just a flirtatious joke). She said "I would have. We had a limo with lots of room." Dayum... I got a little story later from her hubby about her picking up girls in bars and bringing them home to entertain her and her hubby...in fact, he said it was starting to get out of hand and he had to ask her to stop! (As a side note, he was in quite an ill mood that night...I overhead his wife telling him later "I'm sorry you're grumpy baby...how about if I take you upstairs and fuck the shit out of you...would that make you feel better?" )

I know that I've been offered one affair from a married woman not too long ago...who knows, if I had said "Actually, my wife might like you too" she might have jumped on the chance. Some things *almost* went too far with a stripper not too long ago while I was on a business trip. I'm an attractive man (I don't think of myself as "gorgeous", although I have been called that ) man, but I don't seem to have any great difficulty getting unsolicited offers for sex (and neither does my lovely wife!).

Anyway, you folks have given me (actually, us) some good food for thought!

Loki