Single Girl Profiles

[lovelygirl2]

First off, we're not one of those couples who's sole purpose is to find a single girl. If one fell into our lap, we wouldn't turn it down, but we don't go looking.

But I have read a few single girl profiles lately that have me scratching my head. (and I know they are real people because of certs that I know the source)

One today went on and on about how she likes to be the center of attention and that she usually is because she is sooooo hot. Another one stated flat out - I'm the single girl, I get to make the rules. Another one said - it's about my pleasure, not yours.

Does this turn anyone else off? I wouldn't play with one of these girls if you paid me. Do people really fall for that BS?

My personal opinion is that these types are the ones paid by certain Meet&Greet promotors to fluff... but I'm not positive.

[VegasLee]

We would have no interest in anyone that made those type of statements, single women, men or couples. There are some of each that do make those type of statements.

People tend to forget that most of the time the attraction is attitude, not looks.

I am sure there are some out there that would go along though just to get to the "unicorn."

[cocpl2007]

Generally speaking we've discovered it takes a very big head to support a unicorn!

[LFM2]

Dave and I have also read some statements like that in profiles.

Like VegasLee said, it is the attitude that attracts us.

We've crossed them off our possibilities list.

[Pensacolapair]

Originally Posted by lovelygirl2

Does this turn anyone else off?

On a list of sought-after/fantasized activities within the Lifestyle, we suspect that FMF is probably rather high up there

Having said that, we never realized it was such a big deal until we began seeking out and meeting other couples for play. It just turned out that our first few encounters as a couple in the Lifestyle (many moons ago) were all with single females. Looking back on it, we pretty much attribute our 'luck' in that regards to our former occupations, which exposed us to quite a few 'unconventional' people in circumstances suprisingly amenable to sexy fun. Having 'come up' in the Lifestyle from there, we tend to have a different attitude towards single women as playmates... we're not going to treat single women any different than we do anyone else we might meet - nor do we expect them to conduct themselves differently from anyone else.

As an observation, we have noticed that over the last few years single women in the Lifestyle are starting to develop a similar negative reputation to that held by many couples towards single men in the Lifestyle...for a lot of the same reasons! People tend to do what they can get away with. Unfortunatly, some people will accept poor behavior in order to recognize a fantasy...and others are more than willing to take advantage of that.

[lovelygirl2]

I agree with Lee that this comes in all forms - I've seen some couples as well that have some pretty bold statements in their profiles. It just seems more prevalent with single females - and I think they get away with it more because they are so sought after. I just can't believe anyone could have that inflated of an opinion about themself.

My hubby and I also tend to subscribe to the belief that these types are probably not very good in bed anyway. Their over-inflated egos lead them to believe that just being HOT is all they need to bring to the table - the pleasing is up to the person who is honored enough to be with them. Not either of our idea of a good time

The opposite holds true as well - I don't want a single guy who is just going to worry about me without any respect to his own pleasure. A good play session is about the give and take, the mutual pleasure - the sitting back at the end and going - DAMN that was fun

[JustAskJulie]

A lot of the site (some more than others) have what they call "angels" which are basically fake profiles set up to make it look like they have more of whatever. Single females are the most common (AFF is notorious for this). Somehow I doubt tho that those profiles for single females would sound that way. I think (and from some personal experience with some single women) that those profiles are REAL single females. And yes those profile would be a turn off to me whether it was in the profile of a SF, couple or SM. I don't want anyone who feels they are doing ME a favor by showing up, nor do I want to feel like I'm doing THEM a favor by showing up. I would hope it would be mutual fun for all of us.

[arvcpl]

If they are so hot why are they single in the first place?
Most of the single fems I have encountered in the real world at clubs and parties etc would be considered mediocre at best in the vanilla world. A lot are downright not attractive at all and are probably invisable in the vanilla world but yet get dozens of hits a day on their profile and have couples and single guys falling all over themselves at lifetyle events. Many probably are after the attention and even with over the top comments like that they probably still get tons of responses and lots of attention and strokes. Some of them are probably popular for the fist time in their lives.
I know i am making a pretty bold stab at the sacred cow but just calling it like I see it. I'm not even saying that is necessarily a bad thing. If they are having fun and not getting hurt and are not hurting anyone else, so what? Everyone needs to get some attention and some lovin' now and then.

[Playful1]

Wow, I am a single woman and couldn't even begin to imagine writing something like that on my profile! Heck, I have one guy friend (swinger) who tells me I could get away with all kinds of things because I'm attractive, but I just dont get why. I'm not any more special than a couple...I'm just often in heavy demand.

Unfortunately, just as there are single guys that give the others a bad name, there are plenty of single women who give us good ones a bad name. I think some get spoiled because often they do become the center of attention, and just start to assume that they deserve it simply for being a single woman.

I would not write a woman that had that kind of stuff on her profile. It's one thing to be confident, another to be cocky.

[Playful1]

Originally Posted by arvcpl

If they are so hot why are they single in the first place?
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Just had to say real quick...

how about because they want to be? I am considered very attractive, and I am single...not because I can't get someone but because I dont want someone.

Just because someone is single, doesn't mean they aren't "hot".

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[lovinher]

Wow! With that kind of attitude it explains why they are single-hot or not.
We would pass. No matter how "hot" they are.

[arvcpl]

Originally Posted by Playful1

Just had to say real quick...

how about because they want to be? I am considered very attractive, and I am single...not because I can't get someone but because I dont want someone.

Just because someone is single, doesn't mean they aren't "hot".

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I am sure you are perfectly nice and attractive and I will accept your assertion that you are single by choice. But my question is will you be single by choice by next Tuesday? I realize there are always exceptions but most people want to be in a relationship. If someone is attractive and nice and interested in sex the chances are usually good that they will have a partner of their own. Very very very few people truly choose to be a career single. If somone has all the qualitys that would make them desirable and yet they are still single the questions does arise as to why. I'm not saying it is always bad. But sometimes it is. They either have some kind of problem or they actually do have a partner that is sitting at home clueless as to what they are doing.

[gnb4u]

I think for the most part people get what they ask for and are treated the way they ask to be treated. Our profiles are our billboards and people approach us they way our profiles tell the world to approach us.

Over the years I have known single vanilla chicks in the dating world who marketed themselves as high maintenence and even as gold diggers and they never had a lack of people conforming to their wishes. Now I may not consider the guys they got as the cream of the crop by any means but the guys that did show up on their doorstep provided them with what they asked for. I guess I don't see this as any different.

I may not be interested in them or like their approach on how they describe themselves on their profiles but there are probably those that do and of those that do they probably are ready, willing able to lavish attention on them and abide completely by their wishes so I guess everyone comes out ok in the end.

[Playful1]

Originally Posted by arvcpl

I am sure you are perfectly nice and attractive and I will accept your assertion that you are single by choice. But my question is will you be single by choice by next Tuesday? I realize there are always exceptions but most people want to be in a relationship. If someone is attractive and nice and interested in sex the chances are usually good that they will have a partner of their own. Very very very few people truly choose to be a career single. If somone has all the qualitys that would make them desirable and yet they are still single the questions does arise as to why. I'm not saying it is always bad. But sometimes it is. They either have some kind of problem or they actually do have a partner that is sitting at home clueless as to what they are doing.

I have to say I find it a bit offensive that you seem to assume that there must be something wrong with a person who truly does choose to stay single. Being in a relationship is not the only healthy option out there. Just as being married isn't for everyone, being in a relationship isn't for everyone either. I happen to choose to be single because there is nothing I can get form having a bf that I am not currently getting somewhere in my life. Honestly, I think if society would lay off making it seem like being in a relationship was the only truly healthy thing and if you're not there must be something wrong, then more people, particularly women I think, would choose to single, either for good or for a lot longer than they do now.

[arvcpl]

Originally Posted by Playful1

I have to say I find it a bit offensive that you seem to assume that there must be something wrong with a person who truly does choose to stay single. Being in a relationship is not the only healthy option out there. Just as being married isn't for everyone, being in a relationship isn't for everyone either. I happen to choose to be single because there is nothing I can get form having a bf that I am not currently getting somewhere in my life. Honestly, I think if society would lay off making it seem like being in a relationship was the only truly healthy thing and if you're not there must be something wrong, then more people, particularly women I think, would choose to single, either for good or for a lot longer than they do now.

I didn't say that there is anything wrong with someone being single, I said that there is a reason. sometimes the reason is perfectly valid and sometimes it isn't but because someone is single does not mean they are defective. I was single untill I was in my early 30s and people treated me diferently and I wasn't even in the lifesyle at the time. People treated me with caution and suspicion in the vanilla world. A lot of people are independant and feel that they have it all and then when they meet the right person whammo they realize they want more. I am an old fashioned romantic guy and my beliefs are pretty ingrained. I think the vast vast majority of people want to have someone to have and to hold and I think that the vast majority of people who swear they are perfectly happy being single by choice are just rationalizing away their current plight. I don't think that more people should be single. I think more people should admit to themselves that they want to have their own special someone in their lives and give themselves permission to seek that someone and be open to the possibilities rather than trying to convince themselves that they really want to be single. If you say you are single by choice I accept your choice and respect your decision. My challenge to you though is to search your true feelings and be true to yourself. If you truly want to lead your own life as a single at this time then do so and enjoy it to the fullest. However if that changes and deep down you do want someone to come home to and hold at the end of the day then accept that within yourself and pursue that to the best of your abilities.