Single Girl Profiles

[Malachista]

Over here the attitude is quite diffrent
such a statement pretty much means that a female has enough of the guys who only think of them as a cheap way to get rid of their biological waste.

There are just enough guys who will be quite nice until they get you to bed, then they just want to penentrate and cum as fast as possible.
Pretty much all single profiles include the rule that there will be no penentration until the female had at least one orgasm of her own...

[AskMeOk]

We simply would have no interest in meeting somebody with that sort of egotistical attitude. I give them props, though, for being honest.... saves us time! Others may like to play the game and accept the tossed gauntlet. Who knows.....

[Karmickiss]

Hi All,
Ack! I cannot imagine being so...conceited, and/or self-centered(as examples of those ads). I can't believe that I only now have heard the term "unicorn"..lol. When I first was serious about getting into the lifestyle, I was honestly naieve about being a "hot commodity", and still don't see myself as special in that regard. BUT...I have to agree that it's disheartening to hear there must be something "wrong" with me as to why I'm single. I do feel that it's not always the healthiest thing to be with someone for the sake of having "someone/anyone". I have learnt more things about myself being single, but have also spent much time with someone. I'm told I'm attractive, but it's in the eye of the beholder, I guess, and would never assume to fit everyone's idea of "hot".
Actually, I have been single for three years now, besides some casual dates, and maybe a couple long-time play partners for a night or two who are also good friends, and only rarely hooking up. The reason for me has been simple...I lost my long time partner to sudden death three years ago, and it totally devestated me. B/c of this, I didn't feel I could give of myself 100 percent, and the grief was so heavy, it would have been dangerously tempting to latch on to someone for the wrong reasons, which would be incredibly unfair to whoever that person would be. I needed timed to heal, and being older and a little wiser, I have taken my time....and yes...I do get lonely sometimes, but have enough healthy people in my life to not feel that too intensely. I'm not as lonely as I am missing the connection I lost. He was not into swinging(though feel we would have made it there, started being open to it in the end) and b/c I loved him unconditionally, I found out that wow.....when there is really that "right" person in your life, nothing seems like a "sacrifice".
I'm open to playing well with others..wink...but after really having a mature, stable, and satisfying relationship like that, well, maybe I've become more picky, as I see being in a commited relationship to be a sacred thing, that I wouldn't want to rush, and feel like it will probably come when least expecting it. I am open, really am, to being with a special someone again....but need to feel the connection on many levels.
Honestly, in the past, I thought it would be a bit boring, monogamy, and didn't think I could be with someone never wanting to have some adventure. I understood "growing" with someone intellectually only, had no idea how beautiful that really is. Beautiful, and a lot of work..I couldn't believe that nothing ever got "old" for me, with the man I'm referring to.
I guess I've been working on myself, so that I can be a better, more complete part of a whole with someone, one day if it's meant to be...I'd love it. For one,something I learned from this prior relationship is that I truly know what I want, and what I don't want, how freeing!
I'm feeling optimistic, b/c the things that make me the happiest are things one could never buy. I really can appreciate beauty, but for me, it's what's on the inside that really does it for me. I would not be interested in anyone as self centered and callous as was mentioned about the ads, either. This is a good thread, eye opening, for me, as a single female. I haven't really been able to "advertise".....and maybe I should put myself "out there" more, but I feel funny about it. I have noticed, though, that now that I'm feeling "ready" I must be giving off subliminal messages...lol...as I've been either bumping into people who do swing, or are interested in doing so....and even finding out about couples that I've known for a long time, but had no idea they were interested in swinging. I don't push myself or anyone else, but being able to admit to being open, and being asked some questions....well, it brought me back to this site,actually, b/c I found such valuable insight in avoiding potential disasters, and in being able to take my time in getting to know people. Wow, that's enough from me, great thread! Sincerely, karmic

[AskMeOk]

Originally Posted by arvcpl

If they are so hot why are they single in the first place?
Most of the single fems I have encountered in the real world at clubs and parties etc would be considered mediocre at best in the vanilla world. A lot are downright not attractive at all and are probably invisable in the vanilla world ....

Hot is as hot does. We're way more about people with attractive personalities and manners. Miss. Beauty of the World isn't really desirable at all if she is also Miss. Bitch of the World, too.....

Beauty is only skin deep. Bitch goes all the way to the bone....

[Chicup]

Old thread, I know, but the first thing that came to mind for me reading it was....

[twoforone100]

Of the single females we have played with... All of AFF... they have had a one line profile. No pic.. some used the chat room and some did not... two were smoking hot and one was good looking..... We have only met one on Swing Lifestyle.. and yes she is hot and her profile is sort of like the OP's question. YMMV

[WesternSwing]

No, I wouldn't play with one whose profile stated those things, but I'm sure she'll find some people with the same attitudes about themselves that will.

[absingleman]

Originally Posted by lovelygirl2

First off, we're not one of those couples who's sole purpose is to find a single girl. If one fell into our lap, we wouldn't turn it down, but we don't go looking.

But I have read a few single girl profiles lately that have me scratching my head. (and I know they are real people because of certs that I know the source)

One today went on and on about how she likes to be the center of attention and that she usually is because she is sooooo hot. Another one stated flat out - I'm the single girl, I get to make the rules. Another one said - it's about my pleasure, not yours.

Does this turn anyone else off? I wouldn't play with one of these girls if you paid me. Do people really fall for that BS?

My personal opinion is that these types are the ones paid by certain Meet&Greet promotors to fluff... but I'm not positive.

Funny. This girl IM'd me a few months ago. I'm paraphrasing but this is how the conversation went.

Her: Are you busy?
Me: No, I'm just waiting for my updates to download, then I'm going to bed. How are you?
Her: So can you come over if I give you my address?
Me: Uh, its two in the morning and I have to work tomorrow. But maybe on the weekend we could meet.
Her: Look at my profile. I'm sure I'd be worth your time. And I'm visiting a friend who lives close to you, just a few miles away from you. (She was hot but...)
Me: Well, I get off work at 3pm. We can meet tomorrow at Pizza Hut and go from...
Her: Where do you live? I can come there instead. If you leave your light on I can find your place easy enough. Are you north or south of town?
Me: If you had contacted me earlier I would have probably said yes. I can meet you tomorrow.
Her: I can get laid right now, but I woke up from a dream and wanted a black guy. If you won't come I can find someone who will.
Me: Go ahead. I was busy anyway.


As bad as those profiles you quoted were, chatting with the girl (not woman) who wrote it is worse.

[Edison Carter]

Susan here-- I was the proverbial Unicorn for three years. I have to admit that many of the married couples I played with were surprised that I viewed the threesome as an equal partnership and that I gave sexually of myself as much and typically more than they did. I had a blast and equally important, so did they .

[DigginIt]

Having just recently been participating in another thread that talks about encounters being 'like porn' where the guys are rough or too aggressive I could live with a single female stating what they want sexually in a FMF scenario and respecting that but it can be stated without saying "I'm the fucking bomb and you are lucky if you cock gets within 10 feet of me".

I get enough of 'mini' FMF and MFM in couple group encounters that I'm happy enough.