Why are single Guys so Rude??

[wewannabebad2]

Well, as most of you know hubby and I have had a really hard time swinging apparently because of my disability *oh well their loss*, but it's only made us stronger. Anyways, I'm just wondering WHY single guys think it's ok to be down right mean, rude and hurtful? I can handle a simple "No...or...hey after seeing pics I'm no longer interested". What I have a hard time with is "Now I now why your husband wants to swing!" Swinging wasn't my hubbys idea...it was mine. I'm not drop dead gorgeous but I'm NOT a dog either. So WTF?

[VegasLee]

It is not just single guys, it is people.

You don't have to be single to be rude or a fool.

The Internet has made the world much more rude then it ever was in the past.
Remember something, 99% of the rudeness you receive on the Internet you would never get from that same person face to face. People try to be something they are not on the Internet, even fools.

They are nothing more then a pixel on a screen to you so don't worry about them and move on and have a great life.

Try going to meets or clubs, people are never as rude in person.

[LFM2]

We've met a lot of single males, and they've never been rude. I have a feeling it's more of what Vegas Lee said: It's people in general. Sometimes, people just suck and online, they have card blanche to be wieners because there's no policing.

If you went to a place where people are meeting face to face, you'd probably find a different atmosphere altogether.

I'm not sure why people would respond with the cruel words they have. You said you have a disability, and really -- It's so freakin' pathetic that people verbally attack another when the other person is a little different.

[wewannabebad2]

Thank you for listening to my rant. The thing is that the guy contacted us. So I presumed he'd read our entire profile...oh well.*s*

We agree that ppl are nicer face to face. We drive 8 hrs to get to an on premise club and we have a GREAT time!

[tribbles]

Skip the whole picture exchange and meet in person somewhere. Then they will probably be more polite if they say no after meeting you both.


I agree it's the net. Even I get way snarkier online at times than I ever do in person.

[VegasLee]

Originally Posted by wewannabebad2

TSo I presumed he'd read our entire profile...oh well.*s*

Never assume in this day and age that anyone reads anything on your profile.

We have had people send us this message."Are you two swingers?"

They sent it to us off a swingers web site.

[BiloxiCouple]

Just people in general don't read everything all the time.

I used to sell on eBay quite a bit and the first line of my auctions was to "read all terms and conditions of this sale listed below, by bidding your agree to these terms and conditions". Most problems people had with my auctions was they didn't read!!!!

With the rude comments. People are rude when they are faceless. I have never been a strong propenent of online ads for alot of reasons. I do suggest to people to go to a club. Eliminates alot of online problems and creates alot more possibilities.

[iapr]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

It is not just single guys, it is people.

You don't have to be single to be rude or a fool.

The Internet has made the world much more rude then it ever was in the past.
Remember something, 99% of the rudeness you receive on the Internet you would never get from that same person face to face. People try to be something they are not on the Internet, even fools.

They are nothing more then a pixel on a screen to you so don't worry about them and move on and have a great life.

Try going to meets or clubs, people are never as rude in person.

Agreed and very put.

We get that kind of stuff too and mrs iapr is downright beautiful by anyone's standards and I am fit and healthy.

I definately second the recommendation of going to clubs and meeting flesh and blood people in real world.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

It is not just single guys, it is people.

You don't have to be single to be rude or a fool.

The Internet has made the world much more rude then it ever was in the past.
Remember something, 99% of the rudeness you receive on the Internet you would never get from that same person face to face. People try to be something they are not on the Internet, even fools.

They are nothing more then a pixel on a screen to you so don't worry about them and move on and have a great life.

What He Said!

[sexcupid]

I agree with the other posters in that a transaction that is not face to face lends folks some kind of stupid pass to be rude. I mean, some folks are ugly face to face as well...but tend to rein themselves in a bit.

Also, I checked your profile...y'all are here in SA...Players is pretty much the only on prem left in town (heck, the only club at this point), but there are a few small on prems in Austin as well. No need to drive all the way to Shreveport for a club experience!

There are house parties and we've been attending hotel parties recently and they are alot of fun (with play space available). At the very least it would be a good opportunity to get out and meet other potential playmates and have a fun night.

[travelguy1966]

Originally Posted by wewannabebad2

Well, as most of you know hubby and I have had a really hard time swinging apparently because of my disability *oh well their loss*, but it's only made us stronger. Anyways, I'm just wondering WHY single guys think it's ok to be down right mean, rude and hurtful? I can handle a simple "No...or...hey after seeing pics I'm no longer interested". What I have a hard time with is "Now I now why your husband wants to swing!" Swinging wasn't my hubbys idea...it was mine. I'm not drop dead gorgeous but I'm NOT a dog either. So WTF?

Hello Sexcupid,
Just a little note that not all of us sm are rude. Maybe there not good southern gentlemen like us Virginia boys.

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

It is not just single guys, it is people.

And there it is, in a nutshell.

I just told a couple we were having dinner with a couple of nights ago...

Imagine your average Joe (or Jane) on the street. Just an average guy. Joe Q. Sixpack, if you will.

Now, think of this person. Not the brightest guy (or gal), right? Not the type of person you would invite over for dinner. Probably something of a jerk.

Now, since this person is, by definition, "average", that means 49% of the population is worse then this person.

Think about it.

PS - Hey, this is my 500th post! Do I get a Kewpie Doll or something now?

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by wewannabebad2

Well, as most of you know hubby and I have had a really hard time swinging apparently because of my disability *oh well their loss*, but it's only made us stronger. Anyways, I'm just wondering WHY single guys think it's ok to be down right mean, rude and hurtful? I can handle a simple "No...or...hey after seeing pics I'm no longer interested". What I have a hard time with is "Now I now why your husband wants to swing!" Swinging wasn't my hubbys idea...it was mine. I'm not drop dead gorgeous but I'm NOT a dog either. So WTF?

The people on the INTERNET that make rude comments have actually done you a great favor. Although they can hide behind a screen name Its YOU who can see how ugly THEY are. They make the search easier sorting out people who wear a mask, because they know people wouldn't be interested in them. Why should we be interested in their type ? There are only two sides to people in my opinion, like a circle. There is an inside and an outside.

From your posts and profile here, you are drop dead Gorgeous. Like you say, "oh well their loss" That could only come from someone who is charming on the inside and carries that charm to the outside of a person.

I know the rude mails for the most part we get. We make note of them using the note feature provided by sls now. Then we just send a reply letting them know how thankful we are that they let us know what their true colors are. We are sure that it would have carried over to their sexual abilities and we will be sure to let our many friends on sls know, and we know many. We remind them that as a single male searching for couples how far the grapevine reaches and again we thank them, for letting us know who they really are.

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

It is not just single guys, it is people.

You don't have to be single to be rude or a fool.

The Internet has made the world much more rude then it ever was in the past.
Remember something, 99% of the rudeness you receive on the Internet you would never get from that same person face to face. People try to be something they are not on the Internet, even fools.

They are nothing more then a pixel on a screen to you so don't worry about them and move on and have a great life.

Try going to meets or clubs, people are never as rude in person.

Exactly. The Internet makes is "safe" to be an asshole. So don't take anything said in an email or IM chat too seriously. Just be glad they revealed their true nature before you spent anymore of your time on them.

Mr. WS

[sc4play]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

What He Said!

Well said,we agree as well