A first... Single guy was actually honest

[TNT]

Having been swinging for quite a few years now, it's rare that either Ted or I will experience a "first" in anything....but, I did yesterday.

A while back I met a single gentleman in the local grocery store...we got to talking on that first meet and I gave him our e-mail address so we could chat more privately and set up a possible meet. He e-mailed us once. I've seen him numerous times in the same store since then and we've always chatted a bit...basically about just every day life stuff.

I saw him again yesterday and he apologized to me for not staying in e-mail contact...he came right out and told me.." I chickened out. It's not that I don't want to but I got scared I'd disappoint you and I just don't want you thinking I'm not attracted to you."

I told him it was okay and that it was a scary thing when you were new.

I've had men hit on me before and when I would come back with comments to let them know I was interested, they've disappeared and I've never heard from them again.

This was the first time I've ever had a man admit to me he got scared...by doing so, he made me think very highly of him and that if he ever does decide he wants to really get into swinging, he'll be a very good single male.


Teresa

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by TNT

This was the first time I've ever had a man admit to me he got scared...by doing so, he made me think very highly of him and that if he ever does decide he wants to really get into swinging, he'll be a very good single male.

And that's the first time I've ever heard a story like that.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by TNT

A while back I met a single gentleman in the local grocery store...we got to talking on that first meet and I gave him our e-mail address so we could chat more privately and set up a possible meet.

Teresa

This is the part of the story I would like you to elaborate on, either here, or maybe it would be better as new thread.

Was this man a stranger or an arranged first meet at the grocery store?

I don't think I've read much on the Board about meeting strangers and then making offers of sex, and I'd really like more insight into meeting people this way and how you go about taking it to a sexual level.

LM

[TNT]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

This is the part of the story I would like you to elaborate on

Since you asked ...it was a chance meeting with a stranger, about three months ago.

I was in the little local grocery store we have here in our very small town, not really paying attention to anything that was going on around me. I went to the bread aisle and he was there stocking bread (he's affectionately known as the bread man now)...I heard someone say something to me (can't remember exactly what) I turned around and he was there smiling and winked at me. I smiled back and he said Wow...I'm not exactly sure how the conversation went from there but it progressed to me making a comment that I could do pretty much what I wanted to as long as Ted knew about it...to which this piqued his curiosity and he asked a few more questions and I came right out and told him we were swingers. Something I don't really do, especially in the type of setting that we were in. There was just something about his honest curiosity and non-judgmental attitude that I felt comfortable revealing what Ted and I do. There was just a sincere vibe coming from him that he really wanted to learn more about swinging, so I gave him one of our cards (which has the boards web site listed as our favorite site) and told him to contact us and we'd answer any questions he had and maybe set a date to have dinner one night, so he and Ted could meet.

We've since become very friendly acquaintances and will stop to chat no matter where we happen to see each other at.

He really endeared himself to me yesterday with his honesty.


Teresa

[undercovercpl]

That guy has balls. I don't think I could fess up to something of that nature to a woman. Kudos to that guy.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by TNT

Having been swinging for quite a few years now, it's rare that either Ted or I will experience a "first" in anything....but, I did yesterday.

A while back I met a single gentleman in the local grocery store...we got to talking on that first meet and I gave him our e-mail address so we could chat more privately and set up a possible meet. He e-mailed us once. I've seen him numerous times in the same store since then and we've always chatted a bit...basically about just every day life stuff.

I saw him again yesterday and he apologized to me for not staying in e-mail contact...he came right out and told me.." I chickened out. It's not that I don't want to but I got scared I'd disappoint you and I just don't want you thinking I'm not attracted to you."

I told him it was okay and that it was a scary thing when you were new.

I've had men hit on me before and when I would come back with comments to let them know I was interested, they've disappeared and I've never heard from them again.

This was the first time I've ever had a man admit to me he got scared...by doing so, he made me think very highly of him and that if he ever does decide he wants to really get into swinging, he'll be a very good single male.


Teresa

T,
I agree with you that would have impressed me as well.

[LikeMinds321]

Teresa ~

Thank you so much for elaborating!

How you handle those types of spontaneous meets with strangers is the ideal way to go about it, in my opinion. I fantasize experiencing such a chance meet one day.

How he opened up to you says something special about this guy. I think, with time and running into him in the future, he may eventually find his way to your bed.

LM

[swing52001]

That's refreshing to know!!!!!
I've been scared of getting involved with almost every woman who has ever given me even the slightest hint that she might enjoy my attentions for a couple of reasons. The first and greatest is fear of rejection... which most often results in an end to any hinting or conversation about it with a woman who may get the wrong idea that I am unwilling. The second is a result of being married, and can easily be misconstrued as loyalty when innocent conversation might continue to the benefit of both conversants, but does not because of fear of trespassing on her part and my fear of the idea that my behaviour might be viewed as inappropriate by my wife or others.

I suspect that many men suffer from fear born of many different reasons, among them being performance issues both in and out of the boudoir. Kudos to the gent under the spot light and thanks to Teresa for bringing his candor to light..... Maybe it will change the topic of conversation in the bakery next time we go.

[cocpl2007]

Great story, well told Teresa.

Exciting...keep us posted if something evolves, ok?