Any advice for a single woman wanting to meet groups

EroticAndTasty · 02-16-2003, 03:05 PM

or couples?

Have looked at adultfriendfinder.com etc., but am more interested in meeting groups at a club. Not really interested in making friends and developing a relationship. Are there any women here that have gone to the swinger clubs by themselves that could offer me some advice?

leo · 02-17-2003, 12:29 AM

As a guy, and a single one at that, I'll hazard a comment on the much desired single female at swing clubs....

My experience has been that a single female can make friends easily, but do be cautious and wait until you're comfortable with the people you've met. Many of them go with the idea of making friends as opposed to just having sex, and I get the idea you're more interested in the sex than the friendships. I'm the same way, and they get offended if you don't want to idly chat back and forth.

If you're really interested in group sex, many clubs do have areas where groups and orgies can happen as opposed to quiet little areas for couples to neck etc.

Maybe some of the gals can offer more????

Go, and have fun!

Oh, and as a long-time AFFer, it's not the best way to go, but there are real folks there, though not always looking like they say they do!

leo

Tellya Later · 02-17-2003, 01:15 AM

Can direct you to some clubs in your area. Just click the link above title Club listings. You'll get two looks if depending on the club you go to:

or

both of which are a good thing. The eek being the excitement of finding a single female.

Also consider Yahoo groups. There are TONS of groups for local areas that cover the gambit that is the swinging lifestyle. Good luck.

**BiloxiCouple** · 02-17-2003, 01:26 AM

Use alot of common sense.

EroticAndTasty · 02-17-2003, 07:18 AM

Appreciate the input

, no pun intended!!

Sweetdevil · 02-17-2003, 02:13 PM

EroticAndTasty,

Is inputs you want? Pun intented

LOL

NightGoddess · 02-17-2003, 03:44 PM

....um, I'm in the same situation as Erotic and Tasty. This is new to me, and..... I'm a little intimidated about showing up alone at a club.---But I'm willing to do so! How does one discreetly find out where to go to find the 'action'? I checked the local ads for places here in San Diego...and found Thad's website. It mentions that the 'upstairs rooms' are only for couples who arrive together. What's that about?
---Give me some tips, fellas...is it best to just go, walk in, check it out, and wait for a man to approach?
--It's true, then, that a single female is unusual to find at these gatherings?

Flori_DAMAN · 02-17-2003, 03:58 PM

nah, lots of single females attend clubs. By far the majority are couples and single guys, but most parties have some single females too.

If I were a single female personally, I would go with a couple or a friend that I felt comfortable with for my first visit. It always pays to have someone familiar for the sake of not being the subject of unwanted attention just because you happen to be standing alone.

Fear not though, if its attention you want its attention you will get regardless if you go alone or with someone.

If you want to be a fly on the wall you may be uncomfortable on your first visit so that is why I'd recommend a couple or any other person, maybe a girlfriend or a guy that you trust.

John.

EroticAndTasty · 02-17-2003, 04:26 PM

Problem is I don't have a friend or couple to go with. That seems harder to find than a club. I'm fairly gregarious and know how to handle uncomfortable situations nicely, so that doesn't worry me,.I just don't want to be the only single woman. So, if couples do bring single friends, then it probably wouldn't be too bad. Want to have fun with this, but really don't want to develop long-term friendships. This is just for fun

NightGoddess · 02-17-2003, 04:44 PM

---Thanks, floi_DAMAN,
Those are some very thoughtful suggestions. I need to just get over it and venture out there. I can't strike out if I don't swing!
NightGoddess

--A life without love is like a year without summer--swedish proverb

EroticAndTasty · 02-17-2003, 04:50 PM

Too bad we are on different coasts; we could venture forth together on our first time out. Good luck

NightGoddess · 02-17-2003, 04:53 PM

----Thanks, EroticAndTasty! Likewise! ....Tell ya what. I'll keep you posted. Please do the same

Hugs, NightGoddess

EroticAndTasty · 02-17-2003, 04:57 PM

will do, NG. I'm thinking of going to Leisure Times in Hartford, CT in a few weeks. Will let you know how it turns out. A few people have given it good reviews. I'm warming up to the idea of going alone as it allows me the freedom to just leave without hurting anyone's feelings if I don't find it to my liking

funloverm · 02-17-2003, 05:11 PM

I'm a single male interested in a relationship with an upscale, educated, single bi-female. I like mfm, ffm, couples, group,..
Is the only way trial and error?
I'm not pro at swinging, but have had some very fulfilling experiences

leo · 02-18-2003, 12:21 AM

Adding a few more thoughts on the matter....

Some couples clubs are really into the couples bit, other's are not. A friend of mine thought it kind of weird that we were "sceened" to determine if we were a couple outside of the club.

If you are an attractive woman, be prepared for some possible upset spouses if you have too much fun with their husbands while they aren't having so much fun or if you look a lot better than they do. Remember, you're single and free....

And.....some guys love to play and play, but the woman who plays best isn't always the one they want to be with outside of the club.

hth,

leo

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02-16-2003, 03:05 PM	#1 (permalink)
EroticAndTasty Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 15 Location: Fairfield County, CT Status: Single Female	Any advice for a single woman wanting to meet groups or couples? Have looked at adultfriendfinder.com etc., but am more interested in meeting groups at a club. Not really interested in making friends and developing a relationship. Are there any women here that have gone to the swinger clubs by themselves that could offer me some advice?

02-17-2003, 12:29 AM	#2 (permalink)
leo Registered Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 6 Location: Illinois	As a guy, and a single one at that, I'll hazard a comment on the much desired single female at swing clubs.... My experience has been that a single female can make friends easily, but do be cautious and wait until you're comfortable with the people you've met. Many of them go with the idea of making friends as opposed to just having sex, and I get the idea you're more interested in the sex than the friendships. I'm the same way, and they get offended if you don't want to idly chat back and forth. If you're really interested in group sex, many clubs do have areas where groups and orgies can happen as opposed to quiet little areas for couples to neck etc. Maybe some of the gals can offer more???? Go, and have fun! Oh, and as a long-time AFFer, it's not the best way to go, but there are real folks there, though not always looking like they say they do! leo Last edited by leo : 02-17-2003 at 12:38 AM.

02-17-2003, 01:15 AM	#3 (permalink)
Tellya Later Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 73 Location: Chicago, IL Status: Single Male	This site here Can direct you to some clubs in your area. Just click the link above title Club listings. You'll get two looks if depending on the club you go to: or both of which are a good thing. The eek being the excitement of finding a single female. Also consider Yahoo groups. There are TONS of groups for local areas that cover the gambit that is the swinging lifestyle. Good luck.

02-17-2003, 01:26 AM	#4 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple YOUR PLACE OR OURS?? Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 2,755 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits SLS Name:graceful	Use alot of common sense. __________________ Billy & Elaine You can't fix stupid...

02-17-2003, 07:18 AM	#5 (permalink)
EroticAndTasty Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 15 Location: Fairfield County, CT Status: Single Female	Thanks Everyone Appreciate the input , no pun intended!!

02-17-2003, 02:13 PM	#6 (permalink)
Sweetdevil Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2000 Posts: 132 Location: Clinton Twp., MI Status: Couple	EroticAndTasty, Is inputs you want? Pun intented LOL

02-17-2003, 03:44 PM	#7 (permalink)
NightGoddess Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 223 Location: San Diego, California Status: Single Female	Single woman...wants to meet groups... ....um, I'm in the same situation as Erotic and Tasty. This is new to me, and..... I'm a little intimidated about showing up alone at a club.---But I'm willing to do so! How does one discreetly find out where to go to find the 'action'? I checked the local ads for places here in San Diego...and found Thad's website. It mentions that the 'upstairs rooms' are only for couples who arrive together. What's that about? ---Give me some tips, fellas...is it best to just go, walk in, check it out, and wait for a man to approach? --It's true, then, that a single female is unusual to find at these gatherings?

02-17-2003, 03:58 PM	#8 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	nah, lots of single females attend clubs. By far the majority are couples and single guys, but most parties have some single females too. If I were a single female personally, I would go with a couple or a friend that I felt comfortable with for my first visit. It always pays to have someone familiar for the sake of not being the subject of unwanted attention just because you happen to be standing alone. Fear not though, if its attention you want its attention you will get regardless if you go alone or with someone. If you want to be a fly on the wall you may be uncomfortable on your first visit so that is why I'd recommend a couple or any other person, maybe a girlfriend or a guy that you trust. John.

02-17-2003, 04:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
EroticAndTasty Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 15 Location: Fairfield County, CT Status: Single Female	Problem is I don't have a friend or couple to go with. That seems harder to find than a club. I'm fairly gregarious and know how to handle uncomfortable situations nicely, so that doesn't worry me,.I just don't want to be the only single woman. So, if couples do bring single friends, then it probably wouldn't be too bad. Want to have fun with this, but really don't want to develop long-term friendships. This is just for fun

02-17-2003, 04:44 PM	#10 (permalink)
NightGoddess Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 223 Location: San Diego, California Status: Single Female	---Thanks, floi_DAMAN, Those are some very thoughtful suggestions. I need to just get over it and venture out there. I can't strike out if I don't swing! NightGoddess --A life without love is like a year without summer--swedish proverb

02-17-2003, 04:50 PM	#11 (permalink)
EroticAndTasty Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 15 Location: Fairfield County, CT Status: Single Female	Night Goddess Too bad we are on different coasts; we could venture forth together on our first time out. Good luck

02-17-2003, 04:53 PM	#12 (permalink)
NightGoddess Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 223 Location: San Diego, California Status: Single Female	----Thanks, EroticAndTasty! Likewise! ....Tell ya what. I'll keep you posted. Please do the same Hugs, NightGoddess

02-17-2003, 04:57 PM	#13 (permalink)
EroticAndTasty Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 15 Location: Fairfield County, CT Status: Single Female	Definitely will do, NG. I'm thinking of going to Leisure Times in Hartford, CT in a few weeks. Will let you know how it turns out. A few people have given it good reviews. I'm warming up to the idea of going alone as it allows me the freedom to just leave without hurting anyone's feelings if I don't find it to my liking

02-17-2003, 05:11 PM	#14 (permalink)
funloverm Registered User Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 2 Location: central ct Status: couple	I'm a single male interested in a relationship with an upscale, educated, single bi-female. I like mfm, ffm, couples, group,.. Is the only way trial and error? I'm not pro at swinging, but have had some very fulfilling experiences

02-18-2003, 12:21 AM	#15 (permalink)
leo Registered Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 6 Location: Illinois	Adding a few more thoughts on the matter.... Some couples clubs are really into the couples bit, other's are not. A friend of mine thought it kind of weird that we were "sceened" to determine if we were a couple outside of the club. If you are an attractive woman, be prepared for some possible upset spouses if you have too much fun with their husbands while they aren't having so much fun or if you look a lot better than they do. Remember, you're single and free.... And.....some guys love to play and play, but the woman who plays best isn't always the one they want to be with outside of the club. hth, leo

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