Advice for single guys

[4cplsinmd]

As a single man, in search of couples, I understand why it is hard to find them. Some advice for you guys

#1 Don't be a liar. Be real and true to who you are. If you are bi...then say so. It's only going to cause problems later.
#2Be a gentleman. Dress to impress, be clean, and yes, hold the door for the lady, asshole!
#3 Don't expect sex the first nite. You want to get to know these people. When you feel comfortable, the sex will be much more better.

So..........feel free to add to my list.......Thanks

[BradAndJanet]

4cplsinmd, that's a pretty good list!

Welcome to the board!

-B

[thump29]

Welcome to the board. I liked your list. I had one bad experience with a single male and about gave up with even finding one, Then I met Flori Daman and he showed me that not all single males are alike. I can understand why people feel the way they do about single males because i once felt that way myself. However, I have learned that not all single males are the same and there are some really great single males out there.

[mrbandsatl]

We have had several good experiences with single men. The main thing we look for, beyond the attraction, are signs that he is respectful and understands the word no. We have developed strict standards for meeting men over the years and some of requirements do not always make sense guys who inquire. But those who have respected our requests have always had the most success. And the ones who leave expectations at the door, particularly the first time we meet, definately have the best chance with us.

[Tellya Later]

to get a single woman.

Ironic don't ya think.

[mrbandsatl]

Agreed. Good manners, respect and common sense go a long way in any relationship. Seems strange that so many of the basics are forgotton once someone adopts the "lifestyle" label. Or, maybe its a representation of the general population. It just makes us crazy how many rude and assuming individuals we bump into it.

[BiloxiCouple]

Those rules also apply to all the married couples.

It's amazes me sometimes when a couple shows up the lady is dressed to please and the guy is wearing cutoff jean shorts and a tank top just as an example.

Dress to impress. Be honest. Use your manners that your momma taught you.

Okay, I vented a little.

[4cplsinmd]

Thanks, everyone for the welcome and the feedback. I have been reading lots of posts and I see a lot of smart, witty, together people here. Cool. Think I'll hang out a while.:evil:

[Elusive BiFem]

Welcome 4cplsinmd! I'm running behind here - always a day late and a dollar short, but I wanted to jump in and say thanks for introducing yourself and posting some good information.

I think you're right on target with your common sense advice, and like Tellya Later said, the same advice applies to striking up a relationship with a single woman, too. It also applies to a single woman striking up a relationship with a single man or a couple. And couples with couples...and singles....

OK. When we get right down to it, seems that it is common sense to do all you listed regardless of gender or couple status, doesn't it.

For sure, you will find a bunch of interesting and witty people on this Board - makes for a very pleasant place to visit each day - or several times a day for some. Who? Me? Watch out - you may find yourself being one of "those" along with some of us.

So, to get you started on the path to being one of "those," why not take a few minutes to tell us about yourself, your experiences, how it is you came to be interested in swinging, etc.

Looking forward to hearing more from you! and again, Welcome and glad to have you with us. -EBF

[4cplsinmd]

O.K., EBF..... I am a 49 y.o. bisexual {yep, me too} male, 5' 9" tall, 160 lbs, br/gr. I have been in the lifestyle for many years and have had a lot of fun. I guess my fav sex is the MFM threesome so I am always ISO bi-couples. I don't have to have all the power and control, but I can't give it all up, either. Being totally submissive just doesn't work for me.
I also like to get to know my partners and be friends, too.{ I am not a whore, well , at least most of the time.}

Thats a little about me.....so whats your story EBF?

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally posted by 4cplsinmd
O.K., EBF..... I am a 49 y.o. bisexual {yep, me too} male, 5' 9" tall, 160 lbs, br/gr. I have been in the lifestyle for many years and have had a lot of fun. I guess my fav sex is the MFM threesome so I am always ISO bi-couples. I don't have to have all the power and control, but I can't give it all up, either. Being totally submissive just doesn't work for me.
I also like to get to know my partners and be friends, too.{ I am not a whore, well , at least most of the time.}

Thats a little about me.....so whats your story EBF?

Glad your back! Sometimes people post an intro and never join us again and I always wonder why.

My story? Real simple...I'm older than you , and as for the vitals? I'll leave that to the imaginations of all. That way, I can be whatever you imagine. But I'm rather fiesty for the most part...can be outspoken on occasions...will hang back on others. I generally go with the flow unless something strikes a particular cord. I enjoy the friendly banter that we have on this Board, not to mention I've learned a lot and have met some incredibly wonderful people. "Met" as in actually met at some of our Meet & Greets and "Met" as in on-line meetings.

Experiences? Very limited, but enough to know what I enjoy and what I don't.

I'm not at all into the submissive or control thing - don't really even know what all that means and don't care too much. I just like pleasure among friends. Simple as that.

So...my new friend...are you going to join us in the various discussions and threads on a regular basis? I suspect you have contributions to make. And who knows, you might be fortunate enough to meet some great people, too. - EBF

[4cplsinmd]

Now I know where the elusive comes from. Thats cool.
Don't get me wrong about the control thing, I had a weird experience with a couple where the female was very dominate, and like I said, it didn't work.

And. yes, I'm gonna hang out .

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally posted by 4cplsinmd
Now I know where the elusive comes from. Thats cool.
And. yes, I'm gonna hang out .

I think you'll be fun to have around! Sharp, you are....- EBF

[C&D]

I know most of you don't do this but if you want to meet a couple don't send a pic of your 12 inch dick with a message of "here's my pic." This is a sure fire way of getting a "no thanks" response.

I assure you that 12 inches of personality goes a lot further than 12 inches of dick.



CandD

[HEYYOBEAUX]

If I had a 12 inch dick i'd be poolside with Ron Jeremy picking the evenings entertainment