Advice for single guys

[sharp1]

Ditto

Mrs naughty says the same thing. She likes a pic of a smile first and if she likes what she sees then a cock shot is appropiate.

But she wouldnt turn a guy down because he has a 12" dick but if a guy posted a pic of a 2" dick she would.

See..... size does matter! LOL

[C&D]

Well I posted this because we received just that. The guy sent us an email with a pic and all it said was..."my pic." No hello, liked your profile, nothin'. Just kinda rubbed me the wrong way.

Like I said...most of you guys don't do this but if you do show a little more respect if ya want to meet the misses'.


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[VegasLee]

Guys that send "dick" pics to us get deleted with no response.

If that is their best feature then we have no use for them.

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally Posted by C&D

I know most of you don't do this but if you want to meet a couple don't send a pic of your 12 inch dick with a message of "here's my pic." This is a sure fire way of getting a "no thanks" response.

I assure you that 12 inches of personality goes a lot further than 12 inches of dick.
CandD

I think I'd be inclined to find me one of those pictures with a huge one - you know, you've seen them - and send a note back to him, along with the picture and a note saying...."When you can top this...."

- EBF

[cpl4playmass]

We actually prefer that first shot! We look for single guys for one specific reason.... SEX with a nice cock..... We have met lots of nice guys but when the pants dropped I could see the misses lose all excitement. For her this is just sex, she has no desire to start friendships, ask about the kids, or how his parents are. Looks are nice, personality a plus but what matters most of all to us is that he's sensual, knows how to seduce, and has a nice cock.

[EternallySingle]

Originally Posted by C&D

Well I posted this because we received just that. The guy sent us an email with a pic and all it said was..."my pic." No hello, liked your profile, nothin'. Just kinda rubbed me the wrong way.

Like I said...most of you guys don't do this but if you do show a little more respect if ya want to meet the misses'.


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If I had even nine inches, let alone twelve, I wouldn't be wasting my time advertising on a paysite, unless it was to sell pictures of myself to gay men.

Seriously, guys who would do that wouldn't read this or any bulletin board for too long. They would get upset that everyone was saying that everything they did was wrong.

Then again, would you like a picture of my sev... never mind

[pairbond]

We agree with Mrs. Naughty. We find "crotch shots" to be classless and even boring. We've seen enough dicks & pussies to know what they look like! What we want to know is what the PERSON looks like, and more importantly to us, something about their personalities and intelligence, the things that make people attractive to us. When we've found ourselves attracted to anyone, the size of their dick or breasts has been irrelevant. I asked Mrs. Pairbond what most attracts her to a man and without hesitation she replied "Intelligence!" Give us an intelligent person with a nice face, a pleasant smile, and a charming personality, and we'll have a good time with them. Not every woman even LIKES a huge cock. Mrs. Pairbond would rather have an average length cock any day - she has had her cervix bruised by guys with long cocks and no brains who just pounded away.

[SluttyWife]

Originally Posted by C&D

I know most of you don't do this but if you want to meet a couple don't send a pic of your 12 inch dick with a message of "here's my pic." This is a sure fire way of getting a "no thanks" response.

I assure you that 12 inches of personality goes a lot further than 12 inches of dick.



CandD

Dick pics! Oh barf!
I can't count how many.

Us girlies are into the whole package guys.
Words go a long, long way, too. So tell us a little about yourself.
Not just the fantasies, but how you spend your time, what you do,
things you enjoy, and your outlook on life.



;-*

[EternallySingle]

OK guys. How do you find a girlfriend?

Thats easy. You find a woman you like. You introduce yourself. You talk a little. You call two or three days later and hopefully talk again. You call another one or two days later and make a date two or three days later. If she accepts you turn on the charm during the date. If your second conversation was great you go for a kiss. If not you just hug. You call two days later and talk about something funny she heard. You call two or three days later and set up another date. If she accepts you joke that you are going to kiss her after the date. You go out, you kiss her afterwards. You call the next day... and hopefully after three weeks of this she sees you as a semi-permanent fixture in her life that, after a few months to a year becomes a permanent fixture in her life.

Swinging doesn't work that way, even (especially) if you are meeting single women. In swinging its about sex. If you come on to a couple or single woman as if you want to start a long term relationship, they are not going to respond favorably. Even if you come on as if you are looking for new best friends its not going to go over well.

Of course, you have to put yourself out there and let people know what your interests are, but thats as far as it goes. In swinging, couples generally don't want to be friends with single men. Not because husbands are afraid you will try to steal their wife, but...lets face it. How many of your married friends do you still see on a regular basis? Not many. There isn't much room for a single man in a couple's life if he's not a relative. Thats just the way our society is. Swinging just takes it to the extreme because sex is involved. There are exceptions, but they are in the minority.

So, constant emails to people who might like you if you don't get a response...bad. Telling someone your life's story the in the second or third email...bad. Thinking that hot single bisexual woman who actually answered your email wants something more than to get into your pants eventually...bad. Thinking that hot single bisexual woman that actually met you and gave you a blowjob after you left the restaurant wants you to call her the next day for a regular date...bad. Treating this like dating is like treating the guys at the bar who invited you to go bowling with them as family. They will either take advantage of you and leave you bitter, or they will run away faster than the Roadrunner from Wylie Coyote.

Don't depend on swinging for sex and socializing, and you will probably have more success socializing and having sex while swinging.

[yawanna]

Excellent ES! Keep going..... I smell a book

[pairbond]

Originally Posted by yawanna

Excellent ES! Keep going..... I smell a book

Actually, I've been thinking there might be some money in writing a book titled "Swinging for Dummies!"

[curiousagain]

ES, you are killing me. I think I have broken a rib laughing at some of your post. You are so right about some not getting it. But, some couples don't get it either. I read where some couples say the single guy is just "here" to get laid. Good grief, if all you want to do is get laid you are waaaay more likely to get laid using one of the "regular" dating services or just meeting people as you go about your life. Single guys are here for voyeurism, exhibitionism, threesomes, foursomes, group sex, the same things the couples are here for. If you can socialize with people you swing with, great. If you can swing with people you socialize with great, but don't count on either.

Curiousagain

[TNT]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

Single guys are here for voyeurism, exhibitionism, threesomes, foursomes, group sex, the same things the couples are here for. If you can socialize with people you swing with, great. If you can swing with people you socialize with great, but don't count on either.

Curiousagain

BINGO!

Great post ES.

Teresa

[hearts severed]

Personally I can't believe people actaully send pictures like that in a first message.

I don't really know if I'm considred big or not. I've never had complants from a woman but why would I want to just send a pic of my cock unless I atleast know alittle about who I'm sending it to.