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This is a discussion on Couples what steps do you take in meeting single males? within the Singles & Swinging forums, part of the Swingers Topics category; Well, here goes.... I'd like to see what you couples look for when talking to a potential single male ...
| View Poll Results: What steps do you take in selecting a Single Male? | |||
| Do you meet in a public place first? (Always a good idea) | | 35 | 53.03% |
| Do you get a home phone number? | | 13 | 19.70% |
| Do you converse thru e-mail prior to meeting? (If so, how long?) | | 24 | 36.36% |
| Do you try to talk to some of the single males friends? | | 2 | 3.03% |
| Do you have to know them for a certain period of time? | | 13 | 19.70% |
| Do they have to come recommended by other couples? | | 5 | 7.58% |
| Do you approach a prospect on looks alone? | | 9 | 13.64% |
| We don't talk to ANY Single Males for any reason. | | 20 | 30.30% |
| Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 66. You may not vote on this poll | |||
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| Swingers Board Addict | Well, here goes.... I'd like to see what you couples look for when talking to a potential single male and what steps you take to ensure you're getting what you think you're getting... Please comment after voting...
__________________ If you love her, set her free...if she doesn't come back, she's probably with me. |
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| Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,260 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59 | None of the above really... but if I had to pick any it would be "Do you have to know them for a certain period of time?" As pretty much any single guy that we play with is someone that we found (as Lori put it perfectly in another thread) "in our own backyard". Someone that we already knew and just developed the relationship we already had with that person into more. |
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| Swingers Board Addict | Well, that's exactly why I wanted people to post the reasons for their choices. Trying to dig a little deeper into this to see what people are looking for.
__________________ If you love her, set her free...if she doesn't come back, she's probably with me. |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female | I could not vote on this poll either even though I am half tempted to just to see what the other votes are. We have not yet has a relationship with a single male although it is something we are looking forward to. Due to all the reading that we have done (well more so me than my husband) finding the right one will be toughest going through me. This is where I think that the comfort of just meeting and having friendships with couples is the biggest asset. There are no worries as to whether they are who they say they are. No worries about irate spouses or being drug into a courtroom. As much as I hate to say it, a single male would have to go through the major third degree with me in order to step foot into the private arena. My husband would be mild in comparison to what I would expect, and I am the one who most desires an MFM. I am hoping that over time I will not be so critical of all of those that choose to call themselves single men and making them prove it, but after the last few months that we have encountered on this board and another one, it is an uphill battle. Perhaps it can be likened to the single that hopes he can meet some people in this lifestyle and the couple that hopes to find the truly single male. Lori
__________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W. |
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| Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,187 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple SLS Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 31 | As a couple who does enjoy the company of a single man, I can tell you what we look for in one. We have a lot of single men contact us though ads, we have only met one of these after about a 6 month correspondence period. He actually contacted my husband first and they chatted for a few weeks before I got in on the game of chatting with him. The others that we have met through ads or via messenger, we have eventually met in person at local socials that allow single men in. No matter if it is a single or a couple, we ALWAYS meet in a public place first. We usually do not get a home phone number as we don't give ours out, but if they have a cell, we will ask for it, if we are planning to play, it helps in case any last minute things come up. Regardless if it is a couple of a single, we always like to wait and get to know the person before we play. Although, we have been known to really hit it off with a person/couple and play on the first meet ( this is very, very rare). Although it is not a necessity, it definitely helps to have a recommendation from another couple. As far as choosing solely on looks, I have to be attracted to the man. Looks are great, but a personality will go a lot further. Hubby always has the final word on whether we play with a single man or not. Just because I might want him, it doesn't mean that hubby would enjoy seeing me with him or feel comfortable with him in a MFM threesome situation. We basically look for a "normal" man, lol...he must show respect to us as a couple, and he must understand that we are a package deal, he will not get with me alone EVER! Hubby is always present. He has to understand that this is "our" fantasy, not just mine or my husband's, but both of ours and if he is willing to help us make it a reality, then we are willing to make sure that he also has a good time. It really is not that hard to pick out the good ones from the bad ones. It usually only takes about one conversation with a single man to know whether or not he is a yes, or a no. If he can make it though a whole conversation without asking " So, when can we meet and get together?", he probably has a good chance. A rude, pushy man will not get very far at all. If a single man will remember what his mother taught him ( or should have taught him) about the way to treat a lady, and be a gentleman, then he will go far in the lifestyle. Teresa
__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough. |
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| Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 553 Location: MI..God's country.so we thought. Status: Couple SLS Name:handyman69 | I didn't vote either as we have not ventured into this yet but got to say thanks to Lori and Teresa, as will use the info when and if we take the step. Rhonda |
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| Swingers Board Addict | Well it seems that for the most part, Couples seem to look at the same things they would whether they were in the lifestyle or not. If you were single and talking to someone to see if they were boyfriend/girlfriend material, many of the same actions apply. It would appear that most begin thru e-mail correspondance, after a period of time decide to meet in a public place, if interest is still there, get a phone number and then set up a time to meet and play (if it gets that far). While this isn't indicative of every scenario, I'm sure that for the vast majority this is a good standard for which to go by. Thanks for the input. ![]()
__________________ If you love her, set her free...if she doesn't come back, she's probably with me. |
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| YOUR PLACE OR OURS?? Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 2,755 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits SLS Name:graceful | Let's meet at a lifestyles club. We've actually ran into people who don't want to meet there. Not my problem. We agree with Ted and Teresa as a whole. Nice vampire outfit for halloween Ted and Teresa looked good too.
__________________ Billy & Elaine You can't fix stupid... |
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| Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,187 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple SLS Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 31 | Thanks Biloxicouple Glad to see you two found your way here to the board. We look forward to your input in the discussions here. Hope to see you two soon. ![]()
__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough. |
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| Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 96 Location: Fort Worth Status: couple | TNT hit most of the key issues, so I'll just second the motion and add my 2 cents. It doesn't take long to find out if the single male is giver or a user. Nothing turns us off faster than a guy who begins a conversation by boasting about how many times he can make a woman orgasm or how many couples he has made happy. We look for cleanliness first, a gentleman second, personality next, then patience and looks last. It's amazing how attractive a man can be to my wife if he is genuinely likeable and neat. We do not rush into a relationship and if the single guy gets pushy or impatient he is eliminated immediately. We have known a playmate for as little as two weeks before inviting him home, but have also waited a couple of months before becoming comfortable. We look for friends, not a stud service. |
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