Question for Couples seeking single males for MFM

[Lovethenights]

For the first guy we met and played with, we found him online on SDC and after a month or so of chatting and planning, we met him at a restaurant in Fort Worth with the plan being a dinner during which we'd decide whether we were interested in going any further. He was also in "evaluation mode" and we all agreed the pressure would be less if we weren't essentially "committed" to doing something upon first meeting. We hadn't exchanged more than a couple of pictures, none with faces before we met. The evening ended up being awesome, with my fantasies of seeing my wife being touched and touching another man being fulfilled and with her interest in doing something fun and exciting meeting satisfaction as well. He seemed to enjoy the evening too, as his orgasm both sounded and looked fulfilling. The key was his seeming sane and polite, refined and intelligent, and his willingness to address our timidity and inexperience. It went so well, he got to spend the night with my wife by himself one weekend. If I had only been a fly on the wall.... He could have lost out big if he'd been crude, pushy, or dull.

[Tom4Fun]

This is the best reply so far. I hear what your are saying. Thanks.

[joaninla]

I just posted to another thread that the majority of men we have had join us have been aquaintances - someone we met at a gathering and began to chat with, guys in our neighborhood, etc. Not at the first meeting, but shortly after, my husband will ask the guy (without me around) if he would be interested (most are, some are not). By and in large, I have enjoyed these more than the parties/clubs we've attended.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Tom4Fun

Question: How do you initiate contact? Do you just look for a picture in a profile or do you actually read the profile? Do you go to clubs to meet them in lieu of the web?

Since physical attraction is important, we (I) do look for a picture. I, personally, enjoy pictures that show the whole body (not necessarily nude) and face with a smile. I do understand that a lot of people don't like putting a face picture up but you can put something up that shows your overall appearance. However, no matter how good looking a man is if he can't write more in his profile than his stats and that he enjoys fucking...we'll pass him by.

We also have met singles at clubs although few in this area allow them.

Networking with other couples that also enjoy single men is also a way we've met them.


Teresa