Tired of being the "Nice Single Male"....

[Ruff]

Originally Posted by Tom4Fun

No, I read it. Its simple really. No offense, I was joking, but in the end, you have to stop being "nice."

I agree with you,
It's funny though with all of the downsides you hear about the simgle males in the lifestyle (most of which are true) in the end it comes down to the single guy HAS to be lookng out for himself first 2 protect his own interests.

[Tom4Fun]

Originally Posted by Ruff

I agree with you,
It's funny though with all of the downsides you hear about the simgle males in the lifestyle (most of which are true) in the end it comes down to the single guy HAS to be lookng out for himself first 2 protect his own interests.

That's the truth! It's too easy for people to make the "single guy" the scapegoat!

[2chase3]

Ruff dont take it personal, obviously she was new to the swing scene, and if we are all honest,Im sure not many of us knew swinger ettiquette. on our first or second outing. Let her get some experience and then possibly try again on a vacant weekend.
I know exactly what you mean when you say you took the protective role,But I need to ask, and by no means am I speculating as this is what happened.

Some men when they claim they were protecting, was not aware they were actually smothering and did not realize it. You are not there to be her white knight (she was a date right?). But if things got out of hand you could kindly step in. Now if she became clingy as if she was frightened is a totally different story. And only you know the whole story.

But I have on occasion seen "escorted" women literally fortressed into a corner by a male being overly protective.*again not saying this was your case*

Im sure you had friends as well to mingle with and it sounds as you put to much effort into her, only to feel left out in the end. Next time keep a eye and ear out for her but by all means take some clothes off and socialize as well.

As for the kiss , she was simply not thinking, of male on male, . in the wave of new found excitement ,she probably figured you were on her "Team" just didnt take into account it was not enjoyable for your end. But that would have been a easy fix by jokingly stateing If you were curious as to what he tasted like you would have joined her* I gaurantee you she would have got the picture.

But from what it sounds, many of those issues can be easy fixes, I would sway you not to give up on her quite yet, I feel with a little communication both you and your friend could possibly enjoy some very exciting times to come together.

Eitherway, A very good topic, and I wish you the best of luck in your future experiences.