what are the rules for a single female?

[eboni]

When going to a swing party as a single female do I have to let couples come to me or can I apporach them? Does it matter?
Also I want to have group sex but I like to use condoms, how do you make that clear up front?

[JustAskJulie]

Most clubs treat single women as they do couples - meaning that it's ok for you to approach them, however that might not be the case at all clubs.

As for the condoms issue, it's always good to discuss ALL of your (and their) rules upfront before you start to play. Of course, sometimes when you are in a group play situation you may not have had a chance to talk to everyone involved up front. In that case, you just have to deal with it with each partner as they join in and before sex occurs.

A lot of times you can get a feel for people from the group you are in - some groups are more pro-condom, while others may tend to play more bareback (you'll find that like tends towards like).

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by eboni

When going to a swing party as a single female do I have to let couples come to me or can I apporach them? Does it matter?
Also I want to have group sex but I like to use condoms, how do you make that clear up front?

Hi eboni,

I'm a condom-only girl, myself. I've learned that there are more people out there playing without them than I would have thought. So to be prepared, I now carry my own at all times when we're swinging. Most people will agree to wear condoms if they want to have sex with you. And if they don't, you don't have to have sex with them, of course.

Best wishes!

[KajiKurai]

Just be honest about how you feel. My SO and I bring our own. There have been unplanned playtimes with single women (we were not prepared), so I left the ladies alone while I grabbed supplies. Things were warmed up nicely when I returned. We'd welcome your approach.

[good times]

I agree with the others about approaching people, I don't know anyone that would mind at all but it is always good to check with the club hosts to see if they have a policy about it, just to be safe.

Most people, even those of us who don't require condoms usually bring them in case the people we hook up with require them. That being said, if you do require them I think it would be a good idea to come prepared and bring some along, just in case. And as the others said, just make sure you tell the people you intend to play with that you require condoms well before the play starts. Nothing is more of an erection killer for a guy than being told about needing to use a condom when he is in the middle of it.