Female on SLS went from sweet to mean!!!

[Taylor74]

Originally Posted by rpu3

Oh come on... if you are free to post what you want within the rules, then so is Jenn, without the necessity of you calling her opinion unnecessary and pointless.

I only commented about her post because that "issue" was already addressed. Secondly, I find it odd that this is a site where people discuss some of the most explicit sexual matters possible and speak quite frankly about topics not too many people can stomach, regarding sex, etc. And yet several people are getting upset about my use of two smilies and a failed attempt at injecting sarcasm/humor into a post I created. Come on...

[Spoomonkey]

I think that IF she was real (and you can never be too sure, as I have no doubt you are aware) perhaps she was projecting her insecurities onto you. You are a fit guy and that can be intimidating to some (not me, because I am smoking hot Ask me anytime).

It might have been that she felt that your contact would inevitably be a blow to her ego (if she sent you another picture) which is exactly what women in the lifestyle aren't looking for. Not saying that you would have done anything to hurt her feelings - even if you had turned her down for whatever reason. But she might have assumed that you would - and there is no accounting for people's quirks.

I tend to think she might not have been real. No idea why - it is just sort of stuck in my head that this person is a bit of a role player who takes the fantasy right to the point of being real and then wacks out... But that is a feeling based on nothing and meaning even less

But if she is real - I stand by my "maybe it is that" assessment...

Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Taylor74

Thanks for everyone's input.

Come on folks we've had other people post and then question or comment about not getting a response before. In these cases we usually just explain the board's quirkiness of multiple time zones, people having to work or it's a Sunday afternoon and I don't want to look at anything but football.

I'm not sure why we're beating up Taylor for it but let's give it a rest and get on with the OP's question...

Were you wrong? I don't think so. If someone is okay with their body they won't have a problem sending you a pic of themselves that will give you and idea of their shape, size whatever. If I were you I'd just write it off as a "saved by the bell" situation and move on. If you've played with other couples and you all enjoyed yourselves then I wouldn't give this lady much thought.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by Taylor74

We then begin to talk further, but in order to get a better feel of her body-type, I asked to see another picture. Not explicit, though. Keep in mind that she saw a non-explicit photo of me (shirt off) and liked it. After I requested a picture of her (she ignored my first request) she started insulting me, she broke character rather quickly, and berated me for wanting a "perfect woman." But I never requested such a women, either to her directly or in my SLS profile. She called me a little boy .

Was I wrong? I just wanted to insure they we were all attracted to each other.

Hi Taylor,

I agree with you that her behavior was odd and questionable. It's possible that she's either so insecure abut her looks that she's got something to hide, or that she's not who she's representing herself to be in some other way. Fakes are so common on the sites.

I find that if people will share no more than one pic, but they love your pics, say a lot about your appearance and want to see even more of you, yet play games (ignore your request, etc.) to see more of them, there's something very fishy going on. It might be some picture collector guy looking for wanking material. I'm SURE this very thing happened to me just days ago...a man pretending to be a recently divorced mom trying to weasel pics out of me, but having nothing but the initial blurry headshot of "herself". After "she" asked me for more pictures (and specifying just what kind of pics "she" wanted), I politely said something about "her" already having more of me just from my gallery, and asked "her" to go first with sharing more. I never heard from "her" again! **delete**

If your contact really was a woman, it's possible that she used one old picture of herself, and didn't have more from that era to back it up with. I've talked to many people who've gotten pictures from people that were very outdated. She might just have major insecurities about her appearance and herself. If she really was a woman and sincerely felt that your asking for a picture meant you were looking for a "perfect woman", she's not in touch with the reality of how this works. Her anger at your simply wanting a second picture sounds immature. Either way, it sounds like drama that you don't need to deal with. There are so many more fish in the sea!

Like you, we aren't looking for "perfect" people. Perfection doesn't have anything to do with wanting to know who you're talking to, and wanting to know if there's a basic attraction. You have every right to ask for clear and current pictures. If she had nothing to hide, she'd have been glad to share, I think. Good luck.

[clutch]

Hi Taylor,

When you hit age 50, you realize that there's just all kinds of everyone's out there; no one's necessarily all right and no one's all wrong. They are what they are. (Sounds like some kind of folk song or something.)

I'd say to just relax, say, "Hmmm. That's interesting." and move on

Best of luck

[Amanda69]

Sorry but looking at how defensive he got to Thrax's comments about his second post I can see where the communication between him and this woman may have gone astray.

In email and postings you cannot assume that people will pick up on sarcasm, humor etc no matter how many smilies you put in the post. Many an argument has happened on this board and others do to a misunderstanding or misinterpretation of the post.

In this case we are only hearing one side of the story. If it is accurate then yes the woman or person he was communicating with appears to have some issues. Other than that we really can't offer an opinion.

[bill&sabrina]

I agree with Mrs. Spoo. Lot of panties getting bunched up over what I see as nothing.
Bill

[ItTakes3]

She had a less-than-perfect body and is insecure about it. You asked to see more because body shape is an issue with you. You hurt her feelings and she struck back. Go find someone else that fits your needs. She'll do the same. That's life.

[Taylor74]

Originally Posted by Amanda69

Sorry but looking at how defensive he got to Thrax's comments about his second post I can see where the communication between him and this woman may have gone astray.

In email and postings you cannot assume that people will pick up on sarcasm, humor etc no matter how many smilies you put in the post. Many an argument has happened on this board and others do to a misunderstanding or misinterpretation of the post.

In this case we are only hearing one side of the story. If it is accurate then yes the woman or person he was communicating with appears to have some issues. Other than that we really can't offer an opinion.

Just to let you and others know....this woman apologized to me about what she said and how she reacted. So...no, there was no miscommunication.

[Taylor74]

Originally Posted by ItTakes3

She had a less-than-perfect body and is insecure about it. You asked to see more because body shape is an issue with you. You hurt her feelings and she struck back. Go find someone else that fits your needs. She'll do the same. That's life.

How can one possibly hurt someone's feelings if they haven't even seen a photo of said person. Asking for a current photo of a potential mate is something that normally occurs in this lifestyle. We all do it. It was NOT out of the ordinary to request this. In fact, I commented about how nice she looked in her face shot. Her issues are her own. Her reaction to my simple request implied that she has an issue with how she looks. Not me.

Body shape is not an issue with me. However, I feel I have a right to see a person who I might be sleeping with. Wouldn't you? It's about being open and honest in this lifestyle. Not secretive and dishonest.

and btw, this women contacted me first.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by Taylor74

Just to let you and others know....this woman apologized to me about what she said and how she reacted. So...no, there was no miscommunication.

So, with the apology given a kind of strange situation, would you proceed forward? Oh, did a pic come with the apology?

That's just plain ol' curiousity at this point. I don't think I'd proceed any further at this point, but always like hearing the rest of the story.

[Taylor74]

Originally Posted by rpu3

So, with the apology given a kind of strange situation, would you proceed forward? Oh, did a pic come with the apology?

That's just plain ol' curiousity at this point. I don't think I'd proceed any further at this point, but always like hearing the rest of the story.

No picture was included with the apology.Rather, her apology was accompanied with a rebuttal, more or less. She said only young guys request pictures and/or make a "big" deal about body type. And no I will not continue with this person. She went from one extreme (very kind) to another (very mean)...these are tell-tale signs of instability IMO.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by Taylor74

No picture was included with the apology.Rather, her apology was accompanied with a rebuttle, more or less. She said only young guys request pictures and/or make a "big" deal about body type. And no I will not continue with this person. She went from one extreme (very kind) to another (very mean)...these are tell-tale signs of instability IMO.

I'd agree with your opinion. Something is off there, that's for sure. At least you have confirmation it wasn't you, which rarely happens.

[ItTakes3]

Originally Posted by Taylor74

How can one possibly hurt someone's feelings if they haven't even seen a photo of said person. Asking for a current photo of a potential mate is something that normally occurs in this lifestyle. We all do it. It was NOT out of the ordinary to request this. In fact, I commented about how nice she looked in her face shot. Her issues are her own. Her reaction to my simple request implied that she has an issue with how she looks. Not me.

Body shape is not an issue with me. However, I feel I have a right to see a person who I might be sleeping with. Wouldn't you? It's about being open and honest in this lifestyle. Not secretive and dishonest.

and btw, this women contacted me first.

I didn't question your desire to see a photo. I was merely offering my opinion on why she did what she did, and I'd make a substantial wager my observation is correct. We've been down that road and know both sides of the situation.

I have no idea how your profile reads, but if you said you weren't interested in overweight women, or stretch marks, or other conditions you are unwilling to accept, she probably would not have contacted you. If you expect her to be up-front and honest, you are expected to do the same. There are lots of ads that say "no fatties".If she was reluctant to immediately offer another photo, you should have broken off contact without

[Taylor74]

Originally Posted by ItTakes3

I didn't question your desire to see a photo. I was merely offering my opinion on why she did what she did, and I'd make a substantial wager my observation is correct. We've been down that road and know both sides of the situation.

I have no idea how your profile reads, but if you said you weren't interested in overweight women, or stretch marks, or other conditions you are unwilling to accept, she probably would not have contacted you. If you expect her to be up-front and honest, you are expected to do the same. There are lots of ads that say "no fatties".If she was reluctant to immediately offer another photo, you should have broken off contact without

I hear what you're say, however, I never assumed anything about her. Whether it was her weight, appearance, etc. I was just merely requesting another picture in addition to the one she showed me. She wanted to meet eventually. One face shot would not suffice IMO. I don't know too many people in this lifestyle who would make a decision off of one photo, whether is was a face or a body shot. She said she was a very active person...which only lead me to believe she was secure about her appearance. I had no way of knowing otherwise.