Is SLS a good site for single males?

[Rocky146]

I could see where you felt kind of used in that swing club situation. I would not just go to a swing club though and set and wait for someone to ask me to join in. I would at least introduce myself to the couples and ladies at the club. Let them get to know me, then if they felt comfortable with me, let them make the move to ask me to join in or not. I think that is what you were getting at if I am not mistaking.

[Rocky146]

This is exactly what I mean, some men are preditors like these 4 you described. Now you pass judgement on all single me as being this way. Not right on both accounts! As the saying goes, "two wrongs do not make a right."

[Rocky146]

I would like to thank all of you for posting replies to my post. It has made for some great insightful thinking on the most part. All I can ask of all you couples and ladies out there especially is to judge me on my own merits and not those of predators, opportunists, or just down right rude men. I am my own man with my own feelings, with my own outlook on life. I do not consider a lady that has sex with more then one man or swinging to be a whore. She is a lady first with an open mind and I assume intellect for the good things in life. I have read replies where men stood around stroking waiting to go in for the kill like a bunch of vultures. This is so wrong! A lady should have the choice as to who she invites in to partake of her fruits and that includes her partner. These men that do this to women should be joining gang bang clubs and not swinger clubs. Now I have told a few of you that I am not a bad boy type. I do not dress that part and do not like that persona that such these type of men portray. But it has been my experience that women mostly prefer these type of men in general over men that are good natured and respectful of the lady. Bad boy types for the most part like to have women as conquest and not as a lover or friend. Then women complain how bad men are based on these types. Not all men who dress the part of bad boys are predators though; there must be a few good men to be had.

In closing, I respect each and every one of you for the feelings you have posted in response to my post. I may not agree with every one of those replies, but they are your feelings and I respect that. After all, I am asking you to respect my feelings and thoughts.

Be safe, good luck, and be healthy!!

Louie
AKA: Rocky146

[rustyandkat]

well i`m a paid member on sls and it does suck for a single man on there now when i was with my ex it was a great site for couples We met alot of real people on there We hosted some meet and greats using the forum there and had great turnouts. but in reallity sls is not much differant then any other swinger sites as i believe that swinnging is more of a couple thing to begin with. rusty (without) kat

[FlaPlaya561]

I'm on SLS and have made alot of freinds there on and offline (in person)

[m41f45]

I have been a member of AFF, SLS and Swappernet since May. I dropped the aff & sls for 2 reasons. Aff is sooo slow and people would message me that obviously never read my profile. I had age limits which of course dumped their emails in the filtered mail. I got too many single guys wanting to cybersex, see me on webcam or meet at my place not theirs (wonder why?) for sex to see if we were compatible. My profile SOO says we can't meet at my place because I have a 10 yr old. And WE are a couple, not a single female. I honestly believe people can't read...geesh. SLS came up with hardly any hits. I would get so little messages that I ended that paid membership also. Of the 3 mails (males) I did find fit my needs I met on who ended up being not what I anticipated, and the other two have arranged two dates with me and cancelled. Hey at least they emailed me.

Swappernet has been great. Been to 2 house parties so far. One group has done a hotel party and are doing another one for Halloween and I have met a few people. You probaly get the same amount of jerks and wading through the ones you want on all of them. But swappernet has been very, very good to me...

Barb

[nice_cpl_n_bama]

AFF was useless. SLS is wonderful. We've met almost all of our lifestyle friends on SLS. As far as single males go, I think you'll find that tough going every where. The Law of supply and demand applies. since there's TONS of single guys willing to have sex there isn't much of a market.
Good luck!
Jeff and Laurie

[louie_st]

Maybe Iam wrong though but swinging to us is a couples thing. Lucy and I have had many contacts through out the sites but Lucy always asks me if I was single would I go to a swingers site. For the honest answer is yes not for swinging but for the threesomes and lonely wives. I have always found the bars to pick up hot single women, but I think I could always get more sex at a swingers site. Unless the single male brings a girlfriend for sex so we all can have fun I see no point in it. The words swingers(wife swap) is what it is so how does a single male have anything to offer then a hard cock to me? You would not be swinging but just swung because there is only one of you. I really don't consider a threesome swinging. That is just free sex for the single male and in my honest thought one step below being a prositiute. A man whore comes to mind. From what I have seen and talked with from sls 90% of what I seen says no single males. I could be wrong but check it out. But like I stated in my thoughts single males and single women are just plain unpaid whores that really do not belong from the name swinging or swingers stand point. From all that I read swingers or the Lifestyle is a couples based action. Singles are basically unpaid tools for enjoyment as a use and lose item. From all that I heard singles should not be included in swinging. I would not recomend SLS for you in my professional opinion.

[Taylor74]

Originally Posted by louie_st

Maybe Iam wrong though but swinging to us is a couples thing. Lucy and I have had many contacts through out the sites but Lucy always asks me if I was single would I go to a swingers site. For the honest answer is yes not for swinging but for the threesomes and lonely wives. I have always found the bars to pick up hot single women, but I think I could always get more sex at a swingers site. Unless the single male brings a girlfriend for sex so we all can have fun I see no point in it. The words swingers(wife swap) is what it is so how does a single male have anything to offer then a hard cock to me? You would not be swinging but just swung because there is only one of you. I really don't consider a threesome swinging. That is just free sex for the single male and in my honest thought one step below being a prositiute. A man whore comes to mind. From what I have seen and talked with from sls 90% of what I seen says no single males. I could be wrong but check it out. But like I stated in my thoughts single males and single women are just plain unpaid whores that really do not belong from the name swinging or swingers stand point. From all that I read swingers or the Lifestyle is a couples based action. Singles are basically unpaid tools for enjoyment as a use and lose item. From all that I heard singles should not be included in swinging. I would not recomend SLS for you in my professional opinion.

Contrary to what you believe, i've often find that most "swinging" couples who do prefer to swing with singles, prefer women. I wonder why? Perhaps, it's so that the husband can fullfill his fantasy, while not being intimidated by another man pleasuring his wife? I could be wrong, but it it's almost as if the husband has erroneously convinced his wife that adding a female would be more enjoyable for both. The term 'swinger' has been a term that has taken on many definitions recently. I believe it has more to do with open sexual relationships between men and women, as opposed to couples exclusively. So to say that singles are just unpaid whores is silly. Free sex for the male? Not really...it takes two to tango and you can't get sex without giving sex. Fact!

[aahours1]

I agree with "nice_cpl_in_bama" SLS is a good site. But yyou must note that you have to be honest. Most single men(not all) are trying to be a player and go out with as many women as possible or they are married and they want to play around on their wives. But not all are. As far as AFF, YES it sucks, to many phonies and snobish people/couples on there. When you e-mail them they do not contact you back, even if it is to say sorry not interested, you do not meet our profile type. That is my jest of everything. It is better for you, being a single male just sign up and let things fall as it may.

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by louie_st

Maybe Iam wrong though but swinging to us is a couples thing. Lucy and I have had many contacts through out the sites but Lucy always asks me if I was single would I go to a swingers site. For the honest answer is yes not for swinging but for the threesomes and lonely wives. I have always found the bars to pick up hot single women, but I think I could always get more sex at a swingers site. Unless the single male brings a girlfriend for sex so we all can have fun I see no point in it. The words swingers(wife swap) is what it is so how does a single male have anything to offer then a hard cock to me? You would not be swinging but just swung because there is only one of you. I really don't consider a threesome swinging. That is just free sex for the single male and in my honest thought one step below being a prositiute. A man whore comes to mind. From what I have seen and talked with from sls 90% of what I seen says no single males. I could be wrong but check it out. But like I stated in my thoughts single males and single women are just plain unpaid whores that really do not belong from the name swinging or swingers stand point. From all that I read swingers or the Lifestyle is a couples based action. Singles are basically unpaid tools for enjoyment as a use and lose item. From all that I heard singles should not be included in swinging. I would not recomend SLS for you in my professional opinion.

Hmmmm...Toy or Man Whore? Which title is best for me?

Toy has a nice, cuddly, approachable feel to it, but Man Whore sounds strikingly edgy.

Tough to decide. What do you think: Thrax -- Toy or Man Whore?

:rollseyes

Thrax

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by louie_st

I really don't consider a threesome swinging. That is just free sex for the single male and in my honest thought one step below being a prositiute. A man whore comes to mind. From what I have seen and talked with from sls 90% of what I seen says no single males. I could be wrong but check it out. But like I stated in my thoughts single males and single women are just plain unpaid whores that really do not belong from the name swinging or swingers stand point. From all that I read swingers or the Lifestyle is a couples based action. Singles are basically unpaid tools for enjoyment as a use and lose item. From all that I heard singles should not be included in swinging. I would not recomend SLS for you in my professional opinion.

Yowza... I never of myself as a "john" of sorts since we like MFMs with those "unpaid whores". I'm confused with the free sex part... if we swapped with a couple, it's still free sex, isn't it?

Anyway, we prefer Swappernet to SLS. YMMV, Taylor74. There are plenty of couples out there that would like to meet a nice single man. Some of us don't consider a single man a use and lose item; first and foremost, they are human just like us, and we treat them with no less respect and understanding than we'd treat a couple, or anyone else in our "regular" life. Singles have their place - for some of us.

Rebecca

[gatorvol64]

Originally Posted by louie_st

Maybe Iam wrong though but swinging to us is a couples thing. Lucy and I have had many contacts through out the sites but Lucy always asks me if I was single would I go to a swingers site. For the honest answer is yes not for swinging but for the threesomes and lonely wives. I have always found the bars to pick up hot single women, but I think I could always get more sex at a swingers site. Unless the single male brings a girlfriend for sex so we all can have fun I see no point in it. The words swingers(wife swap) is what it is so how does a single male have anything to offer then a hard cock to me? You would not be swinging but just swung because there is only one of you. I really don't consider a threesome swinging. That is just free sex for the single male and in my honest thought one step below being a prositiute. A man whore comes to mind. From what I have seen and talked with from sls 90% of what I seen says no single males. I could be wrong but check it out. But like I stated in my thoughts single males and single women are just plain unpaid whores that really do not belong from the name swinging or swingers stand point. From all that I read swingers or the Lifestyle is a couples based action. Singles are basically unpaid tools for enjoyment as a use and lose item. From all that I heard singles should not be included in swinging. I would not recomend SLS for you in my professional opinion.

I quoted the whole thing because I wanted to make sure everyone knew what I was responding to.

Man that is just bullshit. You are soooo out there. Why is it free sex for the single male (or female) and not the couple? Prostitutes? God, attitudes like this are what makes me the maddest. You make me only want to be with single men. I would never want to be with a couple (or at least the male half) who felt this way. Why do people think anything like this? I don't care if it is called swinging for the single or not (doesn't matter). Couples, like my husband and I, invite them to play with us. It is a win-win-win situation. No one is doing the other a favor by letting them be there. Can I have the attention I get without our single friends? I don't think so. Can the single friends get what they like from it without us? No. I know that some single men can be pushy but I see far too much generalization about them. You know man, you are talking about human beings here. People aren't a tool, much less one to "use and lose".


Oh, and Thrax, dont' chose either option. But you can be my friend and come play with me anytime.

Vol

[Taylor74]

Originally Posted by gatorvol64

I quoted the whole thing because I wanted to make sure everyone knew what I was responding to.

Man that is just bullshit. You are soooo out there. Why is it free sex for the single male (or female) and not the couple? Prostitutes? God, attitudes like this are what makes me the maddest. You make me only want to be with single men. I would never want to be with a couple (or at least the male half) who felt this way. Why do people think anything like this? I don't care if it is called swinging for the single or not (doesn't matter). Couples, like my husband and I, invite them to play with us. It is a win-win-win situation. No one is doing the other a favor by letting them be there. Can I have the attention I get without our single friends? I don't think so. Can the single friends get what they like from it without us? No. I know that some single men can be pushy but I see far too much generalization about them. You know man, you are talking about human beings here. People aren't a tool, much less one to "use and lose".


Oh, and Thrax, dont' chose either option. But you can be my friend and come play with me anytime.

Vol

Amen.

[EternallySingle]

What I have found is that different sites are based in different geographic areas, and people who belong to a site that is based in the geographic area they live in will be more successful on that site. Then there are the people in Pennsylvania. They have there own little world and it seems like people from PA always do well on any swing site.

What I would do is NOT spend money on a swing site, but find out how many clubs in your area will allow unescorted single men. Then find out which of those clubs REALLY allow single men to mingle with the "real swingers" and go there and talk. JUST TALK. It is so much easier to make a connection face to face than online. Two years ago I met two couples and three single women at the beach/campground over the course of the summer. All seven people told me they recognized me from my ad on Swappernet, but when I tried to look up their ads, they had single men blocked. Even though I only fooled around with one of the single women (the rest truly were not interested in single men) I did learn that, contrary to popular belief, couples and single women do look at ads from single men. They told me they find some of the ad hilarious, and that it helps them spot when single men try to pass themselves off as couples and single women.

I almost found that was funny. They did.