Married male wants to swing, but everyone else considers it cheating

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by Regularguy
It is rather curious that some people in society are so quick to condemn a guy who is married who wants to experience and provide intense pleasure with/to another person or a couple, yet society at large tends to vociferously condemn couples who have sex with strangers.....

Would the swingers that society condemsn their behavior be as quick to denigrate a married women who seeks a pleasurable experience with another woman, or do only married guys warrant condemnation?

I thought swinging was about intense pleasure and fulfillment, not moral imposition......

I don't think the issue is wanting to provide intense pleasure, or whether its a guy or a gal. The issue is honesty in relationships. John.

[ThighMaster]

Originally posted by michigancouple
I don't think the issue is wanting to provide intense pleasure, or whether its a guy or a gal. The issue is honesty in relationships. John.

I would wholeheartedly agree with that statement. While pursuing sexual pleasure isn't necessarily a bad thing, the swinging lifestyle involves more than just one person. Swingers aren't substitues prostitutes. Swinging, in my opinion, isn't about using another persons body to masturbate. When my girlfreind and I would swing with another woman, the best and most intense pleasure that we could have involved emotions. That isn't to say that we "loved" the person that we invited into our bedroom, we didn't carry it into the realm of polyamory, but we did have to "like" the person that we were with.

We did care about that person, we wanted to please them and make them feel good, pleasure was a factor in the experience, but we always had to be careful not to do anything to harm the other person. An orgasm or ten isn't worth the long term hell that a couple will go through if one of the partners in that relationship has a problem with what their partner is doing. (I would use the term "extramarital" to include a sexual relationship that was outside of a relationship that included a piece of paper or not.)

Swinging isn't about conforming to what "society" thinks should or should not be practiced, it was about exploring and stretching some personal limits in a safe and supportive environment.

But that's my take on why I'd want to be in a LTR with someone in the first place, it isn't totally about what I can get out of it, it also involves what I can contribute to the relationship.

Again, this is just my opinion on this subject and we all know that opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one and most of them stink.

[Sydney Carton]

Originally posted by ArcaneReference
QUOTE]Single men are a dime a dozen

I am dying for a 3some with 2 men! Please - find me this magical land where single men are a dime a dozen and I'm off to see the Wizard!

Cheers! [/quote]


/Begin Obscure Pop-Culture Reference/

Those who remember the old King Leonardo cartoon "Mr Wizard", featuring the misadventures of Tootor The Turtle, will understand why I find the following image that flashed through my mind so amusing: A (no doubt very attractive) Ms. Arcane spinning arround in one of those Twilight Zone spiral backgrounds crying "Help Mr. Wizard, help! I don't want to play in the land of single men!", while a wise voice in the background says, "Drizzle, drazzle, druzzle, drome, time for this one to come".

/End Obscure Pop-Culture Reference/

Perhaps you had to be there.

[TeamSoBe]

Originally posted by Sydney Carton
I am dying for a 3some with 2 men! Please - find me this magical land where single men are a dime a dozen and I'm off to see the Wizard!

Ouch, be careful saying things like that online, you'll be flooded by "single" guys trying to hook up with you during the day while their, uhh... roommates are away at work. Yeah, roommates, that's the ticket.