Help: Where does a SM find a SF interested in swinging

[lovepipe2]

Hi!
I am a recently divorced 40 year old male. I have had a little experience swinging when I was younger but haven't done it now for quite some time. I live in the Ottawa area and am interested in meeting a woman or women who are into the lifestyle. Someone who can talk intellegently about it and help me understand what to expect or who can point me in the right direction. I am not a jealous person, nor am I an introvert. I am a good looking male who is intellegent and nice, professionally employed and outgoing. My question is this, Where do I meet such women? How or where, as a single guy do you meet someone that is interested in exploring this lifestyle.

[LeggzDiamond]

Hi There!
I'm Mr. LeggzDiamond. We were married 06-20-06. I met her on an adult website where she was looking for single guys. Over a period of 2-3 years, she actually met (and had brief affairs with) a couple of 'm, emailed with a number of others, would get pissed-off and vow never to do any of it again, come back, etc.
Single women actually do this now.
I was looking for married women whose husbands could join along or not. I'm bi and somewhat dominant and like to play more dom than I probably really am. I never thought in the years and months before we met that I had enough heart left to fall in love -I thought the case was hopeless and that was o.k. with me. How we discovered each other on the site is a bit of a mystery, but what it finally came down to was: She took a chance and I took a chance. One thing she said and we agreed on early-on is that when you can understand someone's true sexual needs/interests from the get-go, you're way ahead in knowing that person.
I hope this encourages you; there is no magic formula, but it's a strange world and magic can happen for anyone.
Clem

[JustAskJulie]

They are out there. Oddly I would say don't look for them on swinger sites. Most of the single women who put themselves on swinger sites (and I say this from having been one) aren't looking for relationships with men. There are plenty of open-minded women out on regular dating sites (and in the world in general) you just have to learn to talk to them and be honest enough to open up about your desires so that they will open up about theirs. Sh emay not even be interested in swinging NOW, or know that it exists, she might just be open minded enough that when you present the idea to her she lets it roll around in her mind a bit.

[absingleman]

Originally Posted by lovepipe2

Hi!
I am a recently divorced 40 year old male. I have had a little experience swinging when I was younger but haven't done it now for quite some time. I live in the Ottawa area and am interested in meeting a woman or women who are into the lifestyle. Someone who can talk intellegently about it and help me understand what to expect or who can point me in the right direction. I am not a jealous person, nor am I an introvert. I am a good looking male who is intellegent and nice, professionally employed and outgoing. My question is this, Where do I meet such women? How or where, as a single guy do you meet someone that is interested in exploring this lifestyle.

Single women find single men to swing with. Single men are introduced to single women by couples the single woman knows and has told she is looking for a single man to swing with. Single men rarely find single women solely for swinging on their own unless its just dumb luck. Even then, its because he was lucky enough to meet a single woman who was looking for a single man to swing with or was ... you get the idea.

Its been said over and over again, but single women do not swing to find single men. They swing because they want to be the center of a group situation or to be with a couple or maybe even just a woman without getting into an exclusive situation. A single woman, swinger or not, who wants to have sex with a man just has to let several men know and one of them will catch the hint and "make the first move". She will not look for single men to swing with unless she specifically wants to go somewhere that is only available to couples and she can't find a couple where the wife will let the husband go with her. It does happen, so just put yourself out there and get in the good graces of the local couples. Eventually you will meet one where the wife decides she wants to play match maker. Even in the swinging world, married women eventually catch the match making bug, so if you are a good man who participates with couples that also participate with single women, you will get set up at least once every four or five years. Maybe more if you let them know what you are really looking for.