Common Single Guy Mistakes

[withmemakes3]

Hi

I am new here and want to learn all about MFM threesomes.

Any couples interested in bringing another man into their bed?

Can you tell me what you do not like? Will you share what turns you on and off?

I can't wait to hear back from you all.

[TeamSoBe]

Julie has a whole write-up on this here that you should probably read. Single guys make so many common mistakes that listing them takes a lot of room.

We are a couple that really enjoys the single guy thing, and the biggest mistake that we see is single guys that are oblivious to the male half of the couple. A lot of single guys seem to think that they can zero in on a woman and hit on her as if she's single and then nail her without any regard for what's going on with her husband. In reality many times it's the woman's husband that is pushing for the single guy thing in the first place, and if you don't understand that you're fulfilling his fantasy of watching you with her as well as her fantasy of you being with her, then you're missing the whole point. Either way though, the husband is the gatekeeper to his wife's pussy. He has veto power over you, just like she has veto power over any girl that he gets. Understand that, respect him, and you'll possibly have a chance.

Couples that are eager to invite single guys that they don't know into their bed are pretty rare though. We do MFM or MFMM or MFMMM or whatever situations all the time, but always with friends. We have never even considered finding a guy through the swinger community for sex, it's just too easy to find guys that you already know and that you are comfortable with. Any guy with a wife that's at all attractive most likely has a pack of male friends that have fantasized for months or years about nailing her, it's just a matter of picking one and letting him know that he has a chance to satisfy his curiosity if he wants. In our experience most guys are pretty open-minded about that kind of thing, given the chance. If you just show up to the swinger community with no female partner and nothing to contribute other than your own horny self then you're just another fish in a very large sea and you have a very low chance of ever seeing any action.

[MrMuse]

I agree with you. Being a newly "single" guy myself, I can attribute my sucess with making friends with the male first. I'm polite to his partner, but I'm attuned to anything going on, so as to not appear to be pressing. I usually try to assure them I'm looking for friendship first, nothing more. Anything that they may wish to add would be strictly up to them. So far it has worked and not only have I been able to maintain a relationship with a couple older than myself (I'm 41), but two couples who are in their late 20's!

You are right though, men who appear over-eager tend to strike out and will continue to be frustrated. I just try to be myself, considerate, polite and witty.

[marvelousmarv]

I myself am recently divorced and understand the single males concerns. Mr Muse said it very correctly when he said that it's your ball game at the initial meeting. It's attitude. I don't have a problem being single meeting couples. Some would say that batting 60/40 would be a great percentage. Mine is a lot higher than that. I am 58 years old and have had no problems of any kind in regarde to swinging. Yes, there have been couples that on the initial meeting did not like me and the same goes here. Both sides have to respect NO! Am I ever nervous? Hell yes! So are the couples that are meeting you for the first time. Julie is correct. Learn to read the signs in the initial contact and you will do okay. The one statement made by the couples that comes through is be Confident! It does turn both sides off in a hurry if you are not.