How do you know if they are actually single?

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by TheMiddleDoor

as doorman, one of my nightmares is the show "cheaters"

I've thought about the pissed off spouse showing up at a club, but never that show.
That would definitely be an "Oh Shit" moment.

[TheMiddleDoor]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

I've thought about the pissed off spouse showing up at a club, but never that show.
That would definitely be an "Oh Shit" moment.

I wonder, legally, what one could do about such a situation?

technically it would be trespassing, or possibly one of the various "public nuisance" laws..or do you grab the person in question, and let them know that their problems are not going to become yours, and eject them?

a disgruntled spouse could certainly make the claim that the other half was being held "against their will"...expect police to show up with warrants if the person does not want to come out....

[newlythree]

First off...out right ask. The gauge the response. If they say nope, and there is no tan line from a ring, then ask if they have a girlfriend. They will get shifty if they are trying to pull one over on you. Stuttering, won't look you in the eye, fidgiting with their hands, making excuses. We then promptly thank them for their time and move on down the line.

[Mr.Essex]

Here's a few nuggets of advice, for those of you who are looking to swing with single men.

1. Check both hands. Depending on the person's background, he may wear his wedding band on his right hand. Europeans are notorious for this practice
(engagement/wedding rings on the right hand)

2. Look for the quieter and/or shyer men. The more boisterous the man, the more likely there's an angry, confused or "frigid" SO in his life (IMO). Single men, especially the experienced ones, are more likely to survey the room beore choosing a "target" (even when we're hornier than a farmer's toenails). But, the guy who's flirting with every female who crosses his path, dancing with anyone who catches his eye or taking every opportunity to touch/grope the women in his arm's reach is usually a man who's grown accustomed to regular sex. More than likely with a wife or girlfriend.

[yogee]

Originally Posted by JnCC

My advice to you would be to inform potential play-partners that you don't have sex with a new person on the night you meet, and ask them for a last name and home phone number. (Most guys happily provide the same to any woman they meet through a vanilla site prior to sex, and the rules here should be no different) If he can't or won't provide that for you, or tells you he "doesn't have a phone number listed," take a pass, darlin'...he's married, or living with someone. Anybody who can afford $50-$60 to attend a club can damn well afford to have a phone listed in their name.

.. quite right my friend

Originally Posted by JnCC

The same thing with last names. I understand the desire for privacy and discretion, but these people are proposing to have sex with you. If they're that concerned with being "private" and "discrete" let them stay home and download porn.

Some people, it seems, don't care about the marital status of single males at swing clubs. They're just there to borrow a "stunt-dick" for a half-hour or so. Others DO care, and they're the ones who need to take a few extra steps to check out prospective partners.

.. 2 advices that everyone must note down