married going alone

LOL_OMG · 01-30-2006, 12:11 AM

HEY!

Didn't we shoot this horse like a week ago?

Someone plz plz start a cheatersboard.com website so they can beat on this horse for a year or so....

Mrs LOL

Paphian · 01-30-2006, 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

HEY!

Didn't we shoot this horse like a week ago?

Someone plz plz start a cheatersboard.com website so they can beat on this horse for a year or so....

Mrs LOL

Good point, Mrs LOL. Maybe in the future we should just place single-answer links to threads like this one for all the new, similar questions.

**Alura** · 01-30-2006, 11:07 AM

We've shot this horse many, many times, always with the same result. A new horse jumps over the fence into the corral.

I can't imagine this discussion going away any time soon. We will continue to have men and women whose sex life is not to their liking who like the stability of marriage but just want to have some exciting sex.

In the beginning, they seem to think we have no standards, will fuck anybody. We always set them straight. Some get it and hang around to post. We even had one lady several years ago, as I recall, who decided to include her husband and was very pleased with the results both in the new experiences and the improvement of her love-making with her husband.

Others go away thinking we don't know what we're missing. That's a good thing.

Mr. Alura

JnCC · 01-30-2006, 02:20 PM

Responding to this topic is like playing "Whack-a-Mole." It's OK as an exercise, something to sharpen our logic or debate skills or whatever, but the likelyhood that anything is going to change because we've "beaten it into somebody's head" is pretty small. Eventually, the moles stop jumping up, and we think we've "won." But along comes some new person with a quarter, and it starts all over again.

That doesn't mean that participating in these debates is a waste of time. I honestly believe that every person who takes the time to post here takes on a role somewhat like that of a "teacher," and anybody who takes the time to read these posts is somethng of a "student." In that context, the teachers first job is not to browbeat the student, but to share knowledge and get them thinking objectively about the subject. I think that happens here. Maybe not for all, but for some. The rest? Fuck 'em...I got more important things to worry about.

There are people who think I'm just a contrary person...a curmudgeon...and I wouldn't totally disagree with that. But it might also surprise them to know how often I've come to agree with them as a result of what I've read here. As they were 2,000 years ago, a forum can be a form of "crucible" in which truths are tested. Some pass muster, some don't.

I'm not the only curmudgeon on here by the way. But I have an excuse, since I'm older than most. The rest of you stand naked and alone before the God of Curmudgeonness.

Back to the OP. Remember the OP? He was the guy who wanted to have a threesome and his wife seemed intrigued by the idea. But he couldn't get her to take the first step, so he was thinking about doing it outside his marriage.

This guy just seems so close. Assuming everything else in his marriage is going OK, he's putting a lot on the line for the sake of something he might do once or twice a month at most. I don't even know if he checks into this thread or not anymore. But if he does, maybe some of you people can get off his ass for what he's thinking about doing, and offer some constructive advice on how you've overcome your own spouses hesitation to get into this.

intuition897 · 01-30-2006, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by JnCC

maybe some of you people can get off his ass for what he's thinking about doing, and offer some constructive advice on how you've overcome your own spouses hesitation to get into this.

Better to have someone on his ass now while it's still in the thinking-about-it stage than later after he's already done the deed, and has to deal with all those new demons. Tough enough to deal with without heaping guilt and fear of consequences on his head. Don't you think? At least, I'd prefer it if it was me in his situation.

VegasLee · 01-30-2006, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by mywildside

I have decided to try to go it alone. I have female freinds that would like to join me. My question to the experienced swingers, is how do you feel with married people swinging without their spouse.

The way I read his statement is he has DECIDED what he is going to do and he asked us how we felt about it.

We told him.

So what the problem is?

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01-30-2006, 12:11 AM	#61 (permalink)
LOL_OMG Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 936 Location: where we're at Status: Couple SLS Name:LOL_OMG	Re: married going alone HEY! Didn't we shoot this horse like a week ago? Someone plz plz start a cheatersboard.com website so they can beat on this horse for a year or so.... Mrs LOL __________________ Somebody better go back and get a shitload of dimes!!!

01-30-2006, 11:07 AM	#63 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,114 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	Re: married going alone We've shot this horse many, many times, always with the same result. A new horse jumps over the fence into the corral. I can't imagine this discussion going away any time soon. We will continue to have men and women whose sex life is not to their liking who like the stability of marriage but just want to have some exciting sex. In the beginning, they seem to think we have no standards, will fuck anybody. We always set them straight. Some get it and hang around to post. We even had one lady several years ago, as I recall, who decided to include her husband and was very pleased with the results both in the new experiences and the improvement of her love-making with her husband. Others go away thinking we don't know what we're missing. That's a good thing. Mr. Alura __________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers

01-30-2006, 02:20 PM	#64 (permalink)
JnCC Has Left the Building Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 817 Location: Mulletsville, USA	Re: married going alone Responding to this topic is like playing "Whack-a-Mole." It's OK as an exercise, something to sharpen our logic or debate skills or whatever, but the likelyhood that anything is going to change because we've "beaten it into somebody's head" is pretty small. Eventually, the moles stop jumping up, and we think we've "won." But along comes some new person with a quarter, and it starts all over again. That doesn't mean that participating in these debates is a waste of time. I honestly believe that every person who takes the time to post here takes on a role somewhat like that of a "teacher," and anybody who takes the time to read these posts is somethng of a "student." In that context, the teachers first job is not to browbeat the student, but to share knowledge and get them thinking objectively about the subject. I think that happens here. Maybe not for all, but for some. The rest? Fuck 'em...I got more important things to worry about. There are people who think I'm just a contrary person...a curmudgeon...and I wouldn't totally disagree with that. But it might also surprise them to know how often I've come to agree with them as a result of what I've read here. As they were 2,000 years ago, a forum can be a form of "crucible" in which truths are tested. Some pass muster, some don't. I'm not the only curmudgeon on here by the way. But I have an excuse, since I'm older than most. The rest of you stand naked and alone before the God of Curmudgeonness. Back to the OP. Remember the OP? He was the guy who wanted to have a threesome and his wife seemed intrigued by the idea. But he couldn't get her to take the first step, so he was thinking about doing it outside his marriage. This guy just seems so close. Assuming everything else in his marriage is going OK, he's putting a lot on the line for the sake of something he might do once or twice a month at most. I don't even know if he checks into this thread or not anymore. But if he does, maybe some of you people can get off his ass for what he's thinking about doing, and offer some constructive advice on how you've overcome your own spouses hesitation to get into this. Last edited by JnCC : 01-30-2006 at 02:26 PM.

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