MFM vs FMF

xray678 · 06-07-2005, 01:29 PM

My wife and I were scanning the personal adds in the local paper the other day and noticed all kinds of adds for couples searching for a male for a MFM encounter. We didn't notice any couples searching for a female for a FMF. We have noticed the same here on this forum....couples who participate in MFM exclusively or primarily far outnumber the opposite. Why is that?

BiNWAR · 06-07-2005, 01:32 PM

Thats funny, in our neck of the woods its mostly FMF. Of course we are looking for MFM or bi couples so we are having a heck of a time....

kevin&danielle · 06-07-2005, 02:03 PM

I am very surprised to hear that the majority of the ads were for MFM's. Maybe it has something to do with the publication you were scanning. I'm positive you will find just the opposite is the reality in the swinging community in Atlanta. As far as this forum goes there are couples here that prefer MFM's and are very involved on this board (Mr. and Mrs. Naughty come to mind…….thank you for sharing with us

). You may get the feeling that they out number FMF couples because they are very vocal and post alot

We are a rare couple in our area. Both straight and one that is more than willing to have MFM's. Most couples are looking for couples or females with the desire to have F/F play. As far as couples only desiring MFM’s or FMF’s the most popular hands down is FMF’s (I will bet money on it).

Kevin

kevin&danielle · 06-07-2005, 02:15 PM

Well after posting here I went to the the "Similar Threads" portion of this thread and found out that MFM's are perfered on the "Do you perfer MFM or FMF threesomes?" poll. SHOCKING! OK I retract my bet Surrender .

Just a sec

.....After thinking about the results may be skewed due to the fact that the poll is not an exclusive couples poll. It is influenced by having singles vote and single men out number single women on this board. Are single men more interested in MFM's over FMF's? I'm not sure. My gut feeling says that most of the single men voted for MFM's. OK the bets back on the table.

Kevin

EternallySingle · 06-08-2005, 01:44 AM

From the standpoint of what would be the least embarrassing and present the greatest chance of a repeat performance, most single men would prefer MFM because it means, well, uh, hmm...how to put this tactfully?

I can't. It means less work and faster recovery time for us. As far as fantasies go, what man, married or single, would not like a FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFMFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF every once in a while? But thats not going to happen until bionics are perfected (hmm...why did Jamie Summers keep going back to Steve Austin? For that matter, why couldn't she ever keep a guy more than two episodes in that little town of Ojai? Was it just bionic legs or something more?)

Mrs Spoomonkey · 06-08-2005, 07:35 AM

We prefer MFM because one, I am not that bi and two, single females are hard to come by, at least in our area. We have had the good fortune for Mr Spoo's fun and pleasure to have a FMF experience on a couple of occasions that we both enjoyed very much.

One we had to do a "wife swap" with a good couple friend of ours so both the husbands could have a FMF experience.

Mrs Spoomonkey

MariaChiara · 06-08-2005, 08:05 AM

It's possible these couples are seeking MFM encounters because male partners are so much easier to find than females. They might already have searched high and low for ladies to join them in FMF's and got frustrated by lack of success. Rather than waiting for their ideal scenario, they might be opting for a bird in the hand.

Another possibility is that these couples, like many other swingers, have already gone the FMF route to fulfill the man's fantasy and are now looking to make the woman's wet dream come true.

**two4youinswva** · 06-08-2005, 08:35 AM

That's interesting because around this area the standard Swing Lifestyle ad is "Couple looking for couple or single (bi) female for fun".

Then most of the few that are interested in MFM action have the "Single guys, don't contact us, we'll contact you" disclaimer.

txduo2000 · 06-17-2005, 12:03 PM

I agree with two4you, the ads in our area seem to be the same as in theirs. Now, I admit that our ad does have the "single male exclusionary disclaimer" on it, but that's because we insist upon single males being certified/validated. It seems that there are many who are married and cheating, and we do not tolerate, condone or encourage that at all. I LOVE MFM encounters, but to be honest, we have only shared a couple of encounters and with the same great guy, and will probably have more encounters with him.

On the other hand, it is very difficult to find straight or "mildly" bi women who are unattached for the purpose of FMF, which is something we would really like to do. I totally love the fact that my husband enjoys making me the center of attention in an MFM, and I want to return that and enjoy an encounter from his perspective. I am not bi, and don't really care for the F/F stuff. I don't mind it in the heat of the moment or even just light playing around, but I want an FMF for my husband's pleasure at the goal.

LevKamensky · 06-22-2005, 05:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xray678

My wife and I were scanning the personal adds in the local paper the other day and noticed all kinds of adds for couples searching for a male for a MFM encounter. We didn't notice any couples searching for a female for a FMF. We have noticed the same here on this forum....couples who participate in MFM exclusively or primarily far outnumber the opposite. Why is that?

i think it's because many women are too jealous to allow their hubby to screw another woman in front of them, but the men are much more flexible. so in their desire to get something kinky going they make the sacrifice. and the girls who secretly have low interest in them are all too happy to try something new.

**TNT** · 06-22-2005, 10:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xray678

My wife and I were scanning the personal adds in the local paper the other day and noticed all kinds of adds for couples searching for a male for a MFM encounter. We didn't notice any couples searching for a female for a FMF. We have noticed the same here on this forum....couples who participate in MFM exclusively or primarily far outnumber the opposite. Why is that?

I think because a single male is much easier to come by than a single female, either bi or straight.

MFM is our favorite way to play...it's just our kink.

Teresa

JimWActg · 06-22-2005, 11:45 AM

We are couple that prefers the FMF and have not found it that difficult to find the extra F. Although finding a long term female seems to be much harder.

Our preference stems from the fact that my wife is very Bi and our mutual attraction to the same type of woman is just one more thing we have in common.

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06-07-2005, 01:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
xray678 Active Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 13 Location: atlanta Status: couple	MFM vs FMF My wife and I were scanning the personal adds in the local paper the other day and noticed all kinds of adds for couples searching for a male for a MFM encounter. We didn't notice any couples searching for a female for a FMF. We have noticed the same here on this forum....couples who participate in MFM exclusively or primarily far outnumber the opposite. Why is that?

06-07-2005, 01:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
BiNWAR Active Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 30 Location: NW Arkansas Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:biNWAR	Re: MFM vs FMF Thats funny, in our neck of the woods its mostly FMF. Of course we are looking for MFM or bi couples so we are having a heck of a time....

06-07-2005, 02:03 PM	#3 (permalink)
kevin&danielle Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 66 Location: In Beautiful Idaho Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Idahocpl2005	Re: MFM vs FMF I am very surprised to hear that the majority of the ads were for MFM's. Maybe it has something to do with the publication you were scanning. I'm positive you will find just the opposite is the reality in the swinging community in Atlanta. As far as this forum goes there are couples here that prefer MFM's and are very involved on this board (Mr. and Mrs. Naughty come to mind…….thank you for sharing with us ). You may get the feeling that they out number FMF couples because they are very vocal and post alot We are a rare couple in our area. Both straight and one that is more than willing to have MFM's. Most couples are looking for couples or females with the desire to have F/F play. As far as couples only desiring MFM’s or FMF’s the most popular hands down is FMF’s (I will bet money on it). Kevin
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06-07-2005, 02:15 PM	#4 (permalink)
kevin&danielle Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 66 Location: In Beautiful Idaho Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Idahocpl2005	Re: MFM vs FMF Well after posting here I went to the the "Similar Threads" portion of this thread and found out that MFM's are perfered on the "Do you perfer MFM or FMF threesomes?" poll. SHOCKING! OK I retract my bet Surrender . Just a sec .....After thinking about the results may be skewed due to the fact that the poll is not an exclusive couples poll. It is influenced by having singles vote and single men out number single women on this board. Are single men more interested in MFM's over FMF's? I'm not sure. My gut feeling says that most of the single men voted for MFM's. OK the bets back on the table. Kevin
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06-08-2005, 01:44 AM	#5 (permalink)
EternallySingle Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 1,035 Location: Michigan Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:ABSingleMan	Re: MFM vs FMF From the standpoint of what would be the least embarrassing and present the greatest chance of a repeat performance, most single men would prefer MFM because it means, well, uh, hmm...how to put this tactfully? I can't. It means less work and faster recovery time for us. As far as fantasies go, what man, married or single, would not like a FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFMFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF every once in a while? But thats not going to happen until bionics are perfected (hmm...why did Jamie Summers keep going back to Steve Austin? For that matter, why couldn't she ever keep a guy more than two episodes in that little town of Ojai? Was it just bionic legs or something more?)
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06-08-2005, 07:35 AM	#6 (permalink)
Mrs Spoomonkey Disney!All rides are open Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 1,758 Location: Ohio Status: Married Swing Lifestyle Name:spoomonkey	Re: MFM vs FMF We prefer MFM because one, I am not that bi and two, single females are hard to come by, at least in our area. We have had the good fortune for Mr Spoo's fun and pleasure to have a FMF experience on a couple of occasions that we both enjoyed very much. One we had to do a "wife swap" with a good couple friend of ours so both the husbands could have a FMF experience. Mrs Spoomonkey
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06-08-2005, 08:05 AM	#7 (permalink)
MariaChiara Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 1 Location: NE Georgia	Re: MFM vs FMF It's possible these couples are seeking MFM encounters because male partners are so much easier to find than females. They might already have searched high and low for ladies to join them in FMF's and got frustrated by lack of success. Rather than waiting for their ideal scenario, they might be opting for a bird in the hand. Another possibility is that these couples, like many other swingers, have already gone the FMF route to fulfill the man's fantasy and are now looking to make the woman's wet dream come true.

06-08-2005, 08:35 AM	#8 (permalink)
two4youinswva Better than Ice Cream Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 6,660 Location: va Status: Couple. He posts, She reads	Re: MFM vs FMF That's interesting because around this area the standard Swing Lifestyle ad is "Couple looking for couple or single (bi) female for fun". Then most of the few that are interested in MFM action have the "Single guys, don't contact us, we'll contact you" disclaimer.

06-17-2005, 12:03 PM	#9 (permalink)
txduo2000 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 662 Location: Dallas TX Area Status: Couple	Re: MFM vs FMF I agree with two4you, the ads in our area seem to be the same as in theirs. Now, I admit that our ad does have the "single male exclusionary disclaimer" on it, but that's because we insist upon single males being certified/validated. It seems that there are many who are married and cheating, and we do not tolerate, condone or encourage that at all. I LOVE MFM encounters, but to be honest, we have only shared a couple of encounters and with the same great guy, and will probably have more encounters with him. On the other hand, it is very difficult to find straight or "mildly" bi women who are unattached for the purpose of FMF, which is something we would really like to do. I totally love the fact that my husband enjoys making me the center of attention in an MFM, and I want to return that and enjoy an encounter from his perspective. I am not bi, and don't really care for the F/F stuff. I don't mind it in the heat of the moment or even just light playing around, but I want an FMF for my husband's pleasure at the goal.

06-22-2005, 11:45 AM	#12 (permalink)
JimWActg Active Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 26 Location: South Suburbs of Chicago Status: M. Male Swing Lifestyle Name:JimAndMaryW	Re: MFM vs FMF We are couple that prefers the FMF and have not found it that difficult to find the extra F. Although finding a long term female seems to be much harder. Our preference stems from the fact that my wife is very Bi and our mutual attraction to the same type of woman is just one more thing we have in common.

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