The Single Male who is Married

[Atilla]

ok, last night I was chatting with a guy who is married but his wife doesn't swing. I asked him if she knew what he was doing, he said yes she did and that she didn't have a problem with it as long as she knew where he was and when he would be getting home.

First off, that sounds like a Mother to me not a wife. My Mom always wanted to know where I was and what I was doing.

Secondly, is this common? I'm thinking that there can't be much of a marriage there if she's willing to let him go off on his own.

Also, gut instinct says NO, No, No to me

[disqreetcouple]

We steer clear of these and I guess it's because mainly we don't want "drama" as it's put. There are too many factors in play for us here and this goes the same with females who play separately and their husband doesn't play:

They could be cheating and we wouldn't "really" ever know unless we met the wife/husband in person.

Jealousy issues on their part

We like couples playing together because of the whole security thing. We feel secure about them and there is no ambiguity on either couples parts. He/she could tell her a bunch of lies or us and we'd never know.

Just not worth it to us There are plenty of fish in the sea!

We have run into several of those types through ads.

While we repect their honesty we still don't play with that type of situation.

Too many issues IMO.

[northindycpl]

Diot Naughty's.

Let me ask you this, if you were in this situation, would you care? I am certain I would.

[C n' D 4playin]

we would shy away from the situation for all the above reasons also.......drama is one word we try to leave out of our vocabulary. we are not judging the morals of the situation......just the dynamics.

the ONLY way we "might" consider the situation any differently would be for us to already know the couple......and hear from the wife in person that he was free to play on a particular evening, and even then we would have quite a bit of hesitancy.

[Atilla]

That's my general feeling about him too.

We only do couples too, but he was trying to convince me otherwise. I still am not really willing to go there especially with the situation he's in. That just makes me feel too uncomfortable.

I'm not desperate anyways, I have other friends that we meet regularly now and he can just go take his baggage somewhere else.

[CandTinLorainCo]

Smart move Atilla, very smart!

[turrywolez]

We are one of those types of couples. We play together and separately. I have single males that I play with without Dick and he has females he plays with without me. We are both fine with it and feel no need to always be together when playing. Don’t get me wrong - we do play with couples together but mostly we go our own way. This is because he will be attracted to a female but I will not be interested in the male counterpart or vice versa - it is not because we have problems or don’t want to play together, it is just because we don’t want to stop one another from having fun with someone they have clicked with just because the other isn’t clicking.

[Spoomonkey]

I also Dito the Naughtys... Hard to find a good reason to go there.

There may be absolutely nothing to it - but it is a situation that makes us uncomfortable enough that we just wouldn't want to go there.

Spoomonkey

[starlinn]

I agree with you all. If she does agree to let him play alone, then he has a mother, not a wife. Real drama here.

[curiousagain]

I have to ask. Would the wife be available in person to tell someone it was ok for the husband to play without her? Otherwise, how would you know??

[Atilla]

Curiousagain, to tell the truth, I'm not sure if she would be available to be able to tell me if this was ok with her. It really doesn't matter anyways cause he's not an option to us. We only play with other couples, we're not interested in a 3some.

It's just that it raised these questions in my mind. I found it extremely weird that a wife would say to her husband, "Yes honey, it's ok for you to go and screw whoever you want, just let me know where you're going to be." And that's what I wanted to know if this was common or not.

To Turrywolez, I think there's a difference between you two and this couple. You both play, either seperately or apart, but you BOTH play. This wife does not and I'm not sure if she just chooses to look the other way or if she really doesn't care if her husband is screwing around on her. KWIM??

[curiousagain]

I was just wondering. I know the times a female has told me she was married but her husband didn't mind her playing alone, I always ask if that means it's ok for me to ask him directly as that would be the only way. They have always dissappeared faster than a paycheck after that.

[DBL D]

Maybe couples who have an arrangement like that only do it on certain days. There are those things called "open relationships". Anyway that could be one explanation for her "unusual" behavior.

Male D

[toby962]

as soon as I started on this website I was found out that I was married and signed in as a single. It was no big deal finding out , I talked about my wife in my profile. A member suggested I say married but playing alone. I listed myself as single because that is how I feel single and VERY alone. MY wife lives hundreds of miles away, we never see each other, we don't have sex anymore. We are very sepparated. Not everybody lives the perfect life. I'm sorry for not having a wife with me. What else could I do? I thought swingers may have been a good idea but popular opinion is deffinitly against me.