How do I bring up swinging to women I date without getting dumped?

[Alura]

I agree with CXXC. The last of your worries should be "being dumped." If she dumps you for bringing up a subject ... ANY subject ... she's probably not a lady you want to hang your future happiness on, whether you swing or not.

On our first date, Laura and I were discussing communication. (She had a degree in it ... and psychology.) She made a remark that couples needed to be able to talk about anything without fear of the other getting angry. Somewhere in the conversation, I suggested that the "spouse-swappers" probably had that part of their relationship down pat; otherwise they wouldn't be able to swap partners without conflict. After a four-hour conversation we went back to her place and had spectacular sex. On our second date, the next evening, in another four-hour conversation, we agreed that we probably had what it takes to make a marriage work and wanted to explore that possibility. We agreed to never become angry when the other asked a question and to answer it as completely as possible. It worked for almost thirty years ... including spectacular sex.

Mr. Alura

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by Alura

We agreed to never become angry when the other asked a question and to answer it as completely as possible.
Mr. Alura

And therein I think lies the answer to solving many relationship issues (or avoiding them all together). Not always easily done, but something to continually work on and strive for. Another "no truer words ever spoken" from Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Thank you, Cplnuswing!

Mr. Alura