Single men & Profiles (Advice)

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by CandPinSA

He thinks that because we've decided to enter the swinging arena, we must be a bunch of whores and sluts that just want to f*ck every thing that walks by.

I can certainly understand your frustration with this guy - and Mrs Spoo hates the "C" word so much that even I never use it.

You were 100% within your right to stop communication with this guy. And if it came out of nowhere - like in the middle of "so tell me what kind of car you drive" - then it does show a complete lack of tact.

But - to be fair to single guys - you might want to read some of the thoughts here. One couple's trash may be another couple's treasure. The single guy you are talking about (and I personally see no reason to post his screen name over the use of a word you don't care for) may indeed be the biggest ass in Texas - or he may simply be a guy who didn't know which word caused you to freak out - and he stepped on the wrong landmine.

A guy who asked a question to me about Mrs Spoo's c#*t would likely be off our radar - I'll agree with you there. In fact, we had an experience where a guy asked to see her "pooter" - which I assume was her genitalia - and his whole demeanor about it really pissed me off. And I can't tell you the number of times some classless someone (we've had males AND females; single AND married do this) have gone way overboard with the things they've said. But, my advice is write the guys off that you don't like without making a public example of him. Block him, flame him in a PM, whatever - but then just move on.

Spoomonkey

[CandPinSA]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

(and I personally see no reason to post his screen name over the use of a word you don't care for) may indeed be the biggest ass in Texas - or he may simply be a guy who didn't know which word caused you to freak out.....

You're right of course.... unfortunately I already put it on here... and even before I read your reply about it... *I* was already feeling like the ass for doing it... I did only post it here... so ***IF there is anyone on here from staff/a moderator who can remove that message, would you PLEASE remove that post from me that has his SLS username on it?*** I would greatly appreciate it... perhaps his experience has been that everyone he has been with thought that was acceptable and exciting, etc..... And I will offer to him my apologies for posting it.

Mr. C

[CandPinSA]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

I can certainly understand your frustration with this guy - and Mrs Spoo hates the "C" word so much that even I never use it.

You were 100% within your right to stop communication with this guy. And if it came out of nowhere - like in the middle of "so tell me what kind of car you drive" - then it does show a complete lack of tact.

Yeah... that's pretty much the way it happened... I mean, we were having a conversation somewhere between that and sex acts.... but up to that point, things had been completely tasteful and respectful, then out of no where came *that* word in a comment.... that without such a tasteless word might have been very erotic... but it put me off so much I was furious that this "stranger" would use such a word without knowing me. I mean.... I'm sure I have some words I'm capable of spewing that many would find offensive.... but I like to think I'm smart enough to know what those words are, and try to have enough class and respect for others to not use them in a conversation with or around someone I don't know... no matter what we're discussing. ...And I foolishly allow myself to expect that eveyone feels the same. I say foolishly, because I'm not that naive about the world and people in it. I do, of course, *know* there are many people who *don't* think that way. Oh well... that's probably enough about that. Probably more than enough. :-)

Mr. C.

[CandPinSA]

Originally Posted by Amanda69

There are many respectful single males out there just waiting for the right couples or singles. Sometimes all that is needed is a little guidance and patience. I have found most accept constructive criticism, if they don't they weren't worth the time in the first place.

Well, there is at least one relatively near us. Yesterday, Mrs. P and I received an introductory first msg from one very nice guy on SLS who we will most definitely consider. I have discussed his msg with him and how pleased we were with the way he presented himself to us. As we had already been reading this thread, it immediately came to mind when reading his introduction. I asked him if I could have his permission to quote his msg on here as what we felt was a great example, of course removing his identification. He graciously granted that permission, so without further delay:


Hello, I just found your profile and found it an interesting read. The two of you are def. going about this the right way by taking you time and making sure the water is right before just jumping in. I used to swing with my wife, now divorced; I swing as a single bi-curious guy. I have been with a few couples and singles, but no one recently. I am disease free, and intend to stay that way, no I don't believe in bed hopping, or notching my post. I would love to talk with either one or both of you if you are interested. I know that I am in the *his town* area and you are in San Antonio, but that problem is solved due to my love of traveling, road trips and photography. I have found San Antonio offers some of the best places to shoot photos and love to visit. Well, that's it for me; I hope you find me interesting or that at least my beginning words helped a little. Until I hear back from you... Bye, *His Name*

Yes, I left at least our town in the quote, because it's on our profile anyway, so it would be rediculous to remove it here. :-)

We we're both quite pleased with the way he addressed BOTH of us right away, didn't speak in any sort of disrespectful way, seemed like someone who is ginuinely complimentary and sincerely understanding of our 'newness', and included enough about himself to give at least a little insight into him. He came across as a person who knows how to introduce himself to people who may consider inviting him to share their personal bedroom fantasies, and realizes that it is not a guarantee, but one that is a priviledge. Our reply to him included that he certainly, through his demeanor, has captured our attention. I wish all the msgs we have received already had been like this.

CandP

[chaddd]

thank you julie..im new an its been a lot of help,for a single male...i cant seem to upload my pic...

[bachlob8]

thanks bart, sounds like you'll go a long way in your quest for fun. bachlob8

[jojo_man_7353]

Im just curious how many (not really asking just wonder if any ) swinging ladies would be willing to help a shy single guy? Help him beome more comfortable around women and boost his confidence.

In my case, one of the reasons Im shy is because Ive had a prostate problem for years. Its kept me low energy and nervous over the years so Im just not very energetic and confident. I don't think my problem is like a contagious STD ( I would get a med report from my doctor about that) but its just chronic. I don't think Im ever going to get better unless I get some regular prostate massages while I cum to help keep things drained out. You just can't get that treatment from a doctor. It needs to be a sweet lady that likes helping people and who is open minded about sexual activity.

So im just curious do any of you swinging ladies ever think that you would like to help a shy guy or help a guy maybe that has problems? Just curious for now.

[twoforone100]

We are not looking for the single guys either and we do try to help the ones who we think might be able use it. Don't write couples who are not looking for it. We are in the md va chat room. When we are there we don't mind being asked what we are looking for in a partner or partners. How ever if you read our profile and still email us you responce won't be what you are looking to get. We actually read this whole thread. Did you? There is lots of advice for you in it. In short Write a real profile. No dick pic's. Don't offend the male. Don't ask who you are talking to. Talk to both of us. In chat rooms we often are asked "is this the m or the f". And you know what we know what happens if we say the fem. Duh. We have seen it before. Good luck Patrick Pattie

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

It doesn't happen often, but occasionally when reviewing ads I run into an ad that just pops out at me.

I am puzzled by the reaction that JoAnn sometimes has to a single man's profile. I look and my reaction is, "What a creep." She looks and says, "he's interesting." One of the benefits of getting into this "Lifestyle" is what I learn about my spouse and her reactions. Of course, it has also worked that other way. Sometimes she has said to me, "Do you really think that 'that' is attractive?" Oh well.

But to the point. Women react to words. One man sent her a draft of his erotic novel and she went into orbit. Men react to visual stimuation (big boobs and round butts). Oh well.

Michael

[Tom4Fun]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I think a lot of guys kill there chances early on by the way they post their ad. It's all about "hey buddy you wanna see me fuck your wife?" or something along those lines. A classy ad can go a long way to making a good first impression.

It doesn't happen often, but occasionally when reviewing ads I run into an ad that just pops out at me. More often than not it's because I can't believe someone wrote that and actually thinks people will contact them because of it. Occasionally tho, it's because the ad is so well written that it makes me want to contact the person myself.

I wish I could link directly to individual ads in the personal ads area, but I can't, so I'm just going to copy and paste. I found this ad today when I was approving flagged ads and I was quite impressed with the way it was written. Even the picture that was included was very nice (an upper body/head shot - no shirt - no dick).

Here's the ad:

quote:

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Hello, Im Bart. Just your average everyday Joe. Seeking Friendly Ladies and Couples.I am not out to impress anyone with false attributes, Just my smile and baby blue eyes. LOL. The only thing I can guarantee is having fun. I am an athletic person with an outgoing personality, witty, relaxed, and curtious. I travel a lot with my job . To me its not about just getting into bed or being intimate, that is just an added perk. Lets chat and see if were compatible

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In case anyone is interested after reading this, you can find the ad in the FL ads (352 area code).

So how is Bart doing so far?

[Tom4Fun]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I think a lot of guys kill there chances early on by the way they post their ad. It's all about "hey buddy you wanna see me fuck your wife?" or something along those lines. A classy ad can go a long way to making a good first impression.

It doesn't happen often, but occasionally when reviewing ads I run into an ad that just pops out at me. More often than not it's because I can't believe someone wrote that and actually thinks people will contact them because of it. Occasionally tho, it's because the ad is so well written that it makes me want to contact the person myself.

I wish I could link directly to individual ads in the personal ads area, but I can't, so I'm just going to copy and paste. I found this ad today when I was approving flagged ads and I was quite impressed with the way it was written. Even the picture that was included was very nice (an upper body/head shot - no shirt - no dick).

Here's the ad:

quote:

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Hello, Im Bart. Just your average everyday Joe. Seeking Friendly Ladies and Couples.I am not out to impress anyone with false attributes, Just my smile and baby blue eyes. LOL. The only thing I can guarantee is having fun. I am an athletic person with an outgoing personality, witty, relaxed, and curtious. I travel a lot with my job . To me its not about just getting into bed or being intimate, that is just an added perk. Lets chat and see if were compatible

---

In case anyone is interested after reading this, you can find the ad in the FL ads (352 area code).

Or, if that doesnt work for you - add some humor. "Hello, Im Bart. I may produce one too many farts.. My belly may wiggle like jello, but I'm just an ordinary fellow. I can still see my penis when I pee, and you will enjoy me with glee. I am not out to impress anyone, i just want to cum and have some fun. I know it's scary, but I'm really not married, I'm Just a guy with baby blue eyes and in no disguise. The only thing I can guarantee is having fun, and you will cum. I am an athletic person with an outgoing personality, witty, relaxed, and curtious and somewhat flirtatious. I travel a lot with my job, that's why I jerk my knob in the absence of your slob. To me its not about just getting into bed or being intimate, its because I'm not having sex or being sexually consistent. Swinging is an added perk, I swear - I'm not a jerk. Lets chat and see if were compatible because I'm tired of the inflatable.

[LOL_OMG]

Originally Posted by jojo_man_7353

Im just curious how many (not really asking just wonder if any ) swinging ladies would be willing to help a shy single guy? Help him beome more comfortable around women and boost his confidence.

In my case, one of the reasons Im shy is because Ive had a prostate problem for years. Its kept me low energy and nervous over the years so Im just not very energetic and confident. I don't think my problem is like a contagious STD ( I would get a med report from my doctor about that) but its just chronic. I don't think Im ever going to get better unless I get some regular prostate massages while I cum to help keep things drained out. You just can't get that treatment from a doctor. It needs to be a sweet lady that likes helping people and who is open minded about sexual activity.

So im just curious do any of you swinging ladies ever think that you would like to help a shy guy or help a guy maybe that has problems? Just curious for now.

In the middle of a post for single guy advice this fellow has the...balls? to put something like this. Is it just me or is he adding to the single guys problems by trying to hit on women here. I'm very up on medical problems with men but cmon, your third post and your fishing for women?

Back to the original post, if your really single, make sure that is stated, if your married state that also, there are couples that will take you regardless so be open about it. Lying is the main thing that drives us bonkers.

Mr.