Question for couples that play w/single guys/females

[magnum]

Couples that play with single guy's and females.

How do you feel about the guy or girl calling you asking to get together for a play date. Does that bother you, would you rather call the single playmate?

Magnum

[JustAskJulie]

As a single, I wouldn't call the couple and having been half a couple, I wouldn't have really liked a single calling up wanting to play.

Basically, singles in swinging are a toy for the couple. That doesn't mean the single should drop everything and come running whenever the couple calls but it does mean that it should be up to the couple to decide when playtime will be.

[TNT]

Personally, we don't mind when one of our single play buddies call to see if we want to get together, as we usually tell them if you find yourself free give us a call.

We really treat our single playmates the same as we do our couple playmates, if we have given you our number then your welcome to call anytime.

TNT

[VegasLee]

We treat everyone the same.

If they contact us and we have the time, cool, lets play but they also know that due to family or business we might not be able to so don't take it personal.

Just because someone is a single does not make them less of a person and we don't treat them as such.

[Spoomonkey]

Our experience so far (and it is well documented that we are looking for a steady single friend) has been that singles only contact you when they are horny...

Couples, on the other hand, don't seem to mind going out to dinner or something "non-sexual".

It is irritating as hell to not hear from a month and then get an e-mail that says "need any help this weekend?" Screw that... If you are going to feel like you can contact us, then contact us as friends as well...

If friendship isn't your thing, then we had fun, see you later...

Spoomonkey

[EternallySingle]

I've had sort of a different experience. I've found that if I do contact someone (couple or single female) from a swing site, they aren't interested if its not sexually related. Its the big paradox of being a single man. You're expected to always be horny, blasted when you are horny and your play pals (couples and single women) aren't, and dismissed when your play pals (couples and single women) are and you aren't.

Then again, I admit I've been meeting the wrong people. Pickings are really slim around here. I've found, for that reason, its best to let them contact you. Best thing to do is to call or write and say hello every once in a while so they don't forget who you are and say little things to subtlely remind them (or suggest to them) how much fun you had the last time...then disappear for a while. Single women do that all the time to keep men interested , so it must work on some level. Surrender

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by EternallySingle

...they aren't interested if its not sexually related.

No doubt single men have a lot of stuff to deal with, trying to figure people out, but our profiles are pretty clear in that we are looking for people who can be friends over football as well as over a sexual romp...

Usually, though, they get at least one round with Mrs Spoomonkey before we find out they can't read...

Bastards...

j/k

Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

I think if we did find a single who we could be friends with, him and Mr Spoo hang out once in awhile or all three of us in non-sexual settings we probably wouldn't mind him calling to see if we wanted to get together. He would probably be calling to see us for both non-sexual and sexual 'dates'. We also like to plan ahead so we don't usually expect a single to drop everything the minute we call and race over.

So far though we have yet to find a single that wants a friendship outside of sexual encounters. Our most recent we even told him we'd like to at least have some email conversations in between getting together just to get to know each other better and he can't even do that. He just catches Mr Spoo on IM and wants to know when he can come over again because he's horny. You guessed it . . . he hasn't and won't be invited back!

Mrs Spoomonkey

[VegasLee]

Maybe that hot Monkey lovin twists up their minds.

[Chemistry_0518]

We would enjoy having one of the single women that we play with call to arrange a date.

[Greg & Sheryl]

For us, it would depends on how well we knew the guy. Casual aquaintances shouldn't bother, but if it were a good friend that we liked a lot, we would appreciate having him call us. We would appreciate it even more if he suggested bringing along a single female or a couple to make it a foursome or fivesome!

[curious24]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

So far though we have yet to find a single that wants a friendship outside of sexual encounters. Our most recent we even told him we'd like to at least have some email conversations in between getting together just to get to know each other better and he can't even do that. He just catches Mr Spoo on IM and wants to know when he can come over again because he's horny. You guessed it . . . he hasn't and won't be invited back!

Mrs Spoomonkey

that's just wrong.

just my .02

[coupleinCT]

We have no problems with them giving us calls. We're only with one single male right now, and he'll call all the time, just to BS. If we or he will be in each other's area, either will call to see if we can meet up for coffee or a drink, just like we do with any other friends. It works for us, because all the calls aren't about getting laid, and we don't play with people we don't feel comfortable with just hanging out. The occasional booty call is in there too, but sometimes that can liven up a boring old night.

[curiousagain]

Couples I am friends with, I call or email as I would any friends. We only play part of the times that we meet. Couples that I am not friends, but only swing buddies with, I do not contact them. I would feel pushy.

We prefer it if we contact them (single males).

When they contact us they are a little too blunt on what they want.

We prefer a no pressure meet. If things go that way then all is good and if not all is still good. Usualy when single males we have played with contact us they want to know when we can get together again to fuck which is a total .