"will consider well endowed fit single male" what?

[curious24]

Here's something I don't understand and maybe you all can help me out with. Every now and then when I go out and I look at swinger personal ads say on SLS or SDC I've come to notice something. Everyone knows that most people are looking for either other couples or single women. However, I have found that a lot of people sneek in the always, "will consider well endowed fit single male."

I really just don't get why people almost 99% of the time say that. First of all what exactly is well endowed? Anyone have a measurement that says "if you are X size you are well endowed so it's okay to contact these people." Also, what exactly is fit? I mean I run several times a day and keep myself in shape, but by no means do I have washboard abs or 27 inch biceps.

IMO I just find it completely rediculous the people say this stuff without really being clear on what they want. Obviously being vague doesn't really help me as much as it confuses me

[JustAskJulie]

I think that mostly it is a way of narrowing the field, for those who will accept "select single males". "Select Single Males" is a pretty broad category and doesn't really say much at all about what you will accept... which leaves the couples looking recieving emails from every single male on the planet hoping he is what they are looking for.

Granted well-endowed and fit are relative terms, but at least they provide something to narrow things down with a bit. I would think that most guys (single or not) have an idea of where they fit on the endowment scale. You've stood next to more than a few guys in the restroom I'm sure and have had a chance to compare. So if you consider yourself fit and if you consider yourself well-endowed then I guess you have enough to go on to bother answering that particular ad.

Of course, since well-endowed (and fit) are relative terms, couples are still going to be left wondering why they get messages from the guys with a few extra pounds to lose, or the guys who are an inch or two shy on the endowment scale and just haven't realized it.

[DBL D]

Quote from JustAskJulie

"I would think that most guys (single or not) have an idea of where they fit on the endowment scale."

I get a little tired of hearing how well endowed I am because I don't think I am all that large. Perfect is the word I like!

Male D

[HeAndDblD]

It really doesn't matter what you say in the ads. Our ad says 40-50, tall, must have hair on head and none on face. Yesterday, we received a response from a 68 year old bald man with a mustache and he was 5'8" tall. He was sure we were looking for someone exactly like him.

Everything is relative, so I suppose some guys with 2" and still breathing would consider themselves well endowed and fit.

[DBL D]

Who knows how to read anymore?

We have all kinds of stuff in our ad that no-one reads. Gives us an out later if needed.

"BTW, did you read the part about...? Down at the end there!"

Male D

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by curious24

Everyone knows that most people are looking for either other couples or single women. However, I have found that a lot of people sneek in the always, "will consider well endowed fit single male." Also, what exactly is fit? I mean I run several times a day and keep myself in shape, but by no means do I have washboard abs or 27 inch biceps.

Ya know, that's one nice thing about having a "big dick." Even when you stop working out, you still have....a BIG dick.

[dave110256]

I like to say that I am "perfectly endowed"............my wife told me to say that.

[good times]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Ya know, that's one nice thing about having a "big dick." Even when you stop working out, you still have....a BIG dick.

True, but the more out of shape you get, the less of it you see when you look down.

[SexhoundDog]

The well-endowed thing is such a tired and overworked phrase, often laden with disappointment for the ladies. I'd consider myself average length at between 6 to 6 1/2, perhaps a bit thicker than average, but I think I know how to use it pretty well, in addition to having other skilled appendages, so I never worry about competing with big dicks, it's just not that important. I'm sure any lady likes the eye candy, but a true read only exists when it's hard, so unless they're looking at hard-ons constantly, you can't necessarily tell what a guy will look like until it's time to use it, c'mon now.

Don't you think these women would learn to put in their ads "will consider well endowed single male . . . IF he knows how to use his endowment."

[Denver2some]

How to assess if someone is well-endowed ...

We just compare them to the 1000-page photo album we've created from all the unsolicited "cock shots" we've received. It's categorized by size.



I'm totally kidding, of course. (I agree with Julie: the phrase isn't very helpful, but it's better than "select single males.")

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by good times

True, but the more out of shape you get, the less of it you see when you look down.

But even when you don't see it...when you can't see it...it's still a BIG dick...

[DBL D]

Denver2Some?

What was the outcum of your compilation?

Male D

[curiousagain]

Originally Posted by Denver2some

How to assess if someone is well-endowed ...

We just compare them to the 1000-page photo album we've created from all the unsolicited "cock shots" we've received. It's categorized by size.



I'm totally kidding, of course. (I agree with Julie: the phrase isn't very helpful, but it's better than "select single males.")

That has to be one of the funniest things I have ever seen on here.

All joking aside though. It is pretty vague. I have a friend that is about average length, but he's about as thick as a coke can (sorry, it's a tired reference, but I"m sick and very tired). Anyway, when he reads an ad saying must be well hung to contact, he just says "oh well". I told him he ought to go for it, but he thinks well hung means 8.5 inches or better irregardless of anything else. So, somebody's missing out due to wording.

I use to have HWP wanted in my ad, then was contacted by someone who said she was interested, but she was a BBW and I was looking for HWP. A few emails, some common interest, she sent a pic, I almost fell out of my chair. I asked her how old the pic was, she said a few days. I said, you're no BBW, she said I am, argued back and forth. Short of the long story. She is built like a stripper. But, she looks at her height and scales and thinks BBW. I think most women would kill to have her body. I took HWP wanted out of my profile and it shall never return.

Be careful of the terms you use, perception is in the eye of the beholder.

[DBL D]

It does seem true that we (as men) concentrate on length when the women themselves say that girth is more important. Perhaps we men should re-think the idea of "well-hung" and be happier.

Ideally, "well-hung" should mean you are a man of great knowledge!

In other words...There Are Things You Just Know!

Male D

[Denver2some]

Originally Posted by DBL D

Denver2Some?

What was the outcum of your compilation?

Male D

Actually, DBL_D, it's more of a matrix: with columns for Length, Width, General Asthetics, and (if we've met them) ... Ability. There is also a special column titled "Attached to someone who's got a nice personality."

Again, totally kidding. But agreeing with the above posts, I would say the width category is as important as length, if not more so. So curiousagain, I would recommend you tell your friend to go for it. If he sends a nice note, which includes saying something to the effect of "I am average in length, but my girth is X" he may be surprised at the positive response he gets. (And thanks, I'm glad you enjoyed my joke! )

I might also add that often the husbands write the profiles, and they are the ones with the "well hung" phrase (and the fantasy.) So "well hung" might simply mean for them, "bigger than I am." Though somehow, I doubt hubby would be willing to send you a photo for comparison purposes.