Single Men: How did you get started?

[TNT]

In another thread, which you can find here, someone asked if your first MFM threesome was with a friend or not. The majority was with a friend.

Well I got to thinking about single men in the lifestyle and was wondering if those who are successful (meaning single men) were introduced to it by friends.

Most of the single men we have played with were introduced to swinging by a couple that they were friends with at the time and continued on from there.

My question to the men here on the board is...How did you come about getting into swinging? Did friends introduce it to you or did you get involved through other means?

Teresa

[TNT]

I didn't mean for this question to just be asked to the single men, single females the question also goes to you as well.

Teresa

[EternallySingle]

I was in a relationship with a woman who had been swinging for two years before we met. A few months after I started living with her parttime we had a 3some with her best friend, then a full swap with her best friend and her husband, then a trip to a swing club. Never thought of swinging as a single man until I got tricked into joining a club in Germany. Should have saw it coming, though. The seven people (two couples, my best buddy, and two single women) all related similar stories to mine about their sexual exploits and suggested I join a club they belong to. Serious 'DUH' moment for someone with a verified IQ of 140+ LOL

[Divemaster]

Well,

I was in the Army, stationed at Ft Caron CO. I had a party one night at my house, and all the guys in my section and their wives came over to my house.
After the party died down, there was a few people left, and one of the guys wives started being realy friendly with me. We were all drinking, so I dodn;t put alot of thought into it. We flirted back and forth for aover an hour. Then they went home.
Well, a few hours later I get a phone call from the guy says ..hey....Roxy wants you....come over to our house. I must have made it 3 mintues flat...LOL....then was almost too nervous to keep an erection. Well, we played several other times, before i was transfered away. Whew......let the good times roll!

Joe

[FunCalifCple]

Summer night weekend party, everyone vanilla, our best friend still waiting for his g/f to arrive from Europe, sits down next to me at the patio bar with a drink in hand and comments about how hot my wife looks tonight in her skimpy, tight-fitting outfit. Several more drinks and the conversation turns to sex and threesomes, and he pops the question to me whether we would be interested in having him join us? Stunned but still composed, only thing I could think of replying with, I said I’ll check with the wife. Me and my wife have always been sex crazy, we love watching well-made porno (not easy to come by, don’t judge the tape by the box cover) and have fantasized many times about threesomes and group sex. On the way home I tell her about the proposition from our dearest, lonely, sex starved friend. Stunned but still composed, replies to me, do you want to wait until next weekend or pick a weeknight?

Wednesday night was history, so was Thursday and the weekend….. that was 15+ years ago when we were in our mid 30’s. His g/f did arrive, and they did get married shortly thereafter and things stopped for a change, until another party and both showed up at the patio bar with drinks in hand next to wife and me….

[curiousagain]

Well, when younger, I was invited to a few threesomes and declined due to shyness. Later, I was involved in a little soft swapping with other couples. Usually, wife and wife's friend and hubby or boyfriend. I had heard many things about swinging and when I found myself divorced and way past shy a few years ago, I decided now was a good time to try it. Put up an ad on the internet and here I am.

[ksgbfan]

I got started into the LS as a way to keep the fire burning with my husband. Now 3 years later, he has decided that he is happier as a single guy, so he has left. So now that I am a single female for the first time in 18 years, I am staying right here in the LS. I have a few playmates who are aware of the situation and are willing to keep me, hehehe!

I was introduced into the LS (3 years ago) by the same friends who also happened to be my first FMF experience in Sept 2004. I hope that I have many more with them, hehehe.

[JustAskJulie]

[strathmore]

Contacted several women and couples on a few dating/swinger sites. Also had some inquiries re my profile. Struck up chats with a few of those, and after a while, I enjoyed my first encounter with one of the couples. It was a soft swap fulfillment of their fantasy.

I was approached by a couple on one of the sites to help fulfill a fantasy. He wanted to see his wife stripped down and massaged by a stranger while he voyeured. Having received many compliments about my sensual massage techniques in the past, I agreed with the proviso that I get to voyeur the two of them completing the session. We emailed back and forth re the scenario and then met at their place. It went as we had discussed and was real hot for all. I even got a little unanticipated bonus from the missus at the end. Three very happy people. That's what it's all about.

That was a very safe way to enter the mfm scene and things have progressed from there with other couples (and single f), but contact method has remained the same.

[SecretAsianMan]

I got started thru a friend of mine who had already established herself in the lifestyle... she was a swinger, her husband was not (which I originally found odd... but after talking to him - I learned it was truly okay with him - so ((shrug))).

She invited me to meet her at various swinger-parties as her guest... and I went, not sure what to expect (this was after I had played with her one-on-one on several occassions) ... and I learned that it was something I enjoyed.

I later got involved in various local groups ... attending parties with them... got to know most of the hosts/hostesses in the area and once they learned I was an "okay-guy" who would attend as a single male - I was always welcome when they had room for me.

[Rockon]

I was in my early 20's in a hotel bar alone and a lady hit on me as her husband watched. The first evening we went to their room, the next evening we went to a local swing club

[Mr.Essex]

I was led into the lifestyle by a woman with an incredibly small vagina and an incredibly varied (pre-Essex) sex life. If I were a bit smaller or if she were a bit larger (for the first year that we dated, I could barely fit a pinky inside of her pussy), I wouldn't have even considered the idea of swinging, never mind allowing her to watch. And the idea of allowing her to enjoy the attentions of a more compatible man would have been the death knell of our relationship. But, she insisted that a man couldn't be satisfied with blowjobs and handjobs (I most definitely was), and she knew that some of her friends were interested in black men. So, I started with enjoying a few of her friends. Then, a couple of months later, we moved on to full partner swaps with other couples. 6 months after we started swinging, we had PIV sex (to completion, without blood or pain) for the first time. So, I guess that I was a partner in a relationship saved by swinging.

I gotta sign out. Some memories are a bit too raw to process.

[Pl00r]

Started out as part of a couple and it fell apart for other reasons. When we started officially swinging it was fun and interesting and lasted for a couple years. We had had some fun with friends prior to deciding to call it what it was. Just recently ended the relationship and don't know where I will take things from here. As ya said Mr. Essex, some things are just too raw. Hey she and I are still fairly close friends so things aren't really that bad.

[CntrySngr]

I got started while stationed in San Diego. I had heard rumors of a swingers club, then saw an advertisement for it. After finally screwing up the courage, I tried it out one night. That was 14 years ago, and I've been at it ever since, usually as a single, but with intermissions when I was in a relationships with women who were not interested. Currently single, I attend the local clubs when my schedule permits...with a little luck one day I'll be back to swinging as a couple!

[ENCRYPTEDTX]

When I started in the lifestyle, I kept that part of my life apart from my daily life. I still do to this day.

It may have been easier if friends of mine had taken me under a wing and showed me the fun side. My luck was not so.

I was young, maybe 20 or so and the newest craze was Super Soakers...wait wrong board...the newest craze was threesomes. Everyone who was anyone was sleeping with two women at the same time. And the women were super-models. I swear! because I saw it that way on tv.

I was not on the internet much yet and placed a few ads on the phone meeting boards...yes they still exist and I was said village idiot buying credits to check my ad for looking for 2 bisexual women.

You wouldnt believe it, I got zero responses. I thought every bisexual woman on the planet wanted to bring a friend and meet me.

Fast forward a few months and I discover the internet. What a medium to find new exciting things. I was still at a loss for Dallas Cowgirls knocking my door down to sleep with me but was taken by the idea of a MFM threesome. I either placed an ad or answered an ad on an Alt Lifestyle site and made contact with a nice couple.

The rest is posted here.......First time Experience



Kyle