What do you think about as you meet a couple for the first time?

[TNT]

I have a question for the single men on the board, couples feel free to post your opinions as well.

As a single man, what are the thoughts that run through your head when you are meeting a couple? Either for the first time or for a possible play session.

I ask because well, I'm curious .

The last single man we met for a play session was one that we had met previously at a social. We had never had the chance to sit and really get to know him, but knew that he was an extremely nice man and one that we wanted to spend more time with so we invited him to dinner and possible play. Well the night of our date, Ted and I left the house knowing that if he was in agreement we would be playing that night. We had met him before, chatted on IM and exchanged e-mails, so basically for us it was a done deal and all we were waiting on was to see if he was in agreement. Which BTW he was and we had an extremely good time. Anyways, I have wonder what his thoughts might have been on his drive to meet us for dinner, and yes, I will ask him the next time we get the chance to see him but thought I would also ask the single men here on the board to see what they are thinking.

Teresa

[akamgaxoxo]

That's such a cool question guys, I always wonder that myself about our friends! heheh..I remember asking my friend this question, and he said he was nervous to meet us, and hoped that we would think he was a fun guy to be around and I think he even worried about the outfit he was wearing that nite and whether it looked nice enough. We also did the IM chat thing and did emails, and he saw our picture, and was totally into me before hand. He told me that he thought my hubby was really cool to chat with and that I was just gorgeous, so he knew that our encounter would be a great one! And from there, we have built a wonderful friendship.

[EternallySingle]

Everything from what I'm going to talk about to whether or not I should get another box of condoms to should I have even brought the condoms in the first place to should I have shaved a second time to should I have shaved at all to is my deodorant going to hold up all night to am I wearing too much cologne to am I going to be allergic to her perfume to would it be insulting if I was allergic to her perfume if I told them why I was sneezing to what if one of them is allergic to my cologne or don't like the fragrance to do I smell like cigarettes to whether I should try the nicotine gum or patch to quit smoking to are they chain smokers or occasional smokers like me to should I light up this next cigarette since its going to be a three hour drive to meet them to if the Best Western still has my reservation and didn't "lose it" like they did the last time to if I should check in before meeting them to if they would think it presumptuous that I reserved a room before meeting them to why should I care if they misunderstand because I don't intend to drive three hours back home after meeting them to if there are any good clubs for dancing to if any of those clubs play swing (as in Glenn Miller) music to would they appreciate the joke that I got into swinging because I thought the first swing club would have a band I could play saxophone in to what other jokes could I tell them that I didn't already tell them to I hope that cop behind me doesn't decide to stop me for DWB in a rental car to I hope my credit card payment went through so I know I have enough for breakfast tomorrow to...

On second thought, lets just say we think about anything to keep us from getting nervous and acting either like desperate trolls or insensitive jerks.

[Crowded Head]

I would be a little nervous at first. Would be wondering what they were thinkign I guess

[JustAskJulie]

As a single female, my thoughts going into a first meet were always along the lines of "I hope we get along well.... that dinner isn't boring... that I can at least make some new friends out of this...".


If I've met them before and am going into a second meeting (or as in your case the first real sit down conversation), I am usually wondering what they are thinking, hoping that they are willing to take it slow and aren't expecting sex tonight.

I feel like a newbie every time i meet a new couple, wondering what to expect and how things will go. Unfortunately, it's a rarity to meet a couple that you hit it off with right away and are really hoping something more happens.

[TNT]

ES, I just love you, you crack me up and I really think you need to make a trip to Florida and keep all those thoughts out of your head on the drive down

Thanks everyone, this is so intersting. Keep the responses coming.

Teresa

[Divemaster]

Wow....so many thoughts run through my head. From erotic to "Oh my God" this is sooooo fun. Sometimes its just like the guy above said...You think ...Did I brush my teeth, did I brush them enough. Is my hair a mess???

I also tend to think deeper, especially when it is a couple I really like. I think about hey...this guy is sharing his wife with me...how cool and erotic is that.....VERY!

I think I have finally met "the" couple for me....of course there will still be the socials and playing with others....but I have really wanted to find a couple I could trust, thaqt has the same family values I have, and that are very "comfortable" to be with. I hope to be their "regular" !

Joe

[curiousagain]

Ditto to what ES said and wondering what the signal will be and if I will be sure it is the signal or will they be outspoken. What if I am ready to go again before the husband, should I wait? What if he is ready to go again before me? Will they think I'm a loser, etc. etc. etc. Busy busy minds during those drives, then sometimes I just put a CD in and crank it up. Then that causes the possiblility of getting stopped for DWF (driving while flyinging).