Rules for Single Males

[good times]

Good question, he is kind of a fixture around the club, as he has been personal friends of the managers for years. He is one of two singal males they allow into the club on couples only nights. It's kind of a small club so not having ocasional contact with him is pretty much impossible. As you would imagine though I don't go out of my way to talk to him.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

That's interesting goodtimes and I completely understand you position with this single guy. This past Friday night we went to the club and as always this one single guy was there. Everyone refers to him as 'creepy single guy' because he fits the description to a tee. Mr Spoo has talked to him very briefly a couple of times but the single guy is ususally just complaining because no one ever invites him in a room or lets him watch (but he keeps coming back). Actually there have been some who play with him but most of the regulars don't.

Sorry - all that to say that Friday night I wore a new shirt Mr Spoo bought me down at one of the ShortNorth shops we go to all the time. It's a hot pink t-shirt with black cap sleeves with a sexy nude silloutte of a woman with a devil tail and horns. Oh, and it fits really tight! Needless to say it got a lot of attention all night long. Anyway, creepy single guy drove me nuts! Usually at best I see him from across the club and Friday he followed me around everywhere and when Mr Spoo would step away he would comment on my shirt. Twice when I came out of the restroom I almost ran right into him because he'd wait for me to come out, using the excuse of helping direct me to where Mr Spoo was (as if I couldn't find him ).

Anyway, that's my rant on single guys trying to move in on the wife as soon as the husband steps away for a second.

Thanks for listening
Mrs Spoomonkey

[EternallySingle]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

I noticed that the rules indicated that the single should not just sit at the bar all night and then expect to play but rather he should move around the club and introduce himself to a couple, complimenting the wife.
Mrs Spoomonkey

Where in the midwest is this club where single guys are allowed to mingle and not just sit at the bar and try to look approachable? The only swing clubs I've been to since moving from out west all REQUIRED single men to stay at the bar. Its in their rules and the one I did get into as a single man (other than the one where I was treated like a stray dog with mange the week after my girlfriend moved) reminded me of that when I left the bar and went to the restroom. I couldn't even shoot pool unless a couple invited me.

I guess its just where I've been. Hard to get a good impression of a place when you never get in the door.

Still, I've seen the situation you're talking about. I took BW to a club once and the moment I turned to get a drink, I heard a slap and saw acting like he got caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Turns out he had played with her before and decided he could squeeze a melon. When I said "she's with me," he replied "she's just your ticket. Don't get all possessive." Good thing he was four inches shorter and about sixty pounds lighter than me. I felt too sorry for him to break his jaw.

[Mature Lover]

All good points, but very confusing. No bar at my club so I sit a table. Eventually a couple or two will join and we have a lot fun, conversation wise.

To get up and mingle with other couples is chancy. Most, I have found, don’t want to be interrupted. Stop, say hello, and it’s nose in the air look the other way. Getting a compliment in about the wife or expressing intentions is impossible.

Perhaps it’s the club I go to, it surely isn’t me. lol Anyway it seems the combinations are already set when the couples arrive. And the single females arrive with a couple. Now it’s hard enough for a man to approach these couples and say hello, and the single females are impossible.

The point I’m trying to make is that you have to know somebody, or arrive with another couple. I have never yet ‘got lucky’ with a couple or single female from a club. All sexual encounters have been with folks not associated with a club.

Please don’t misunderstand. The people at the club are great folks, pleasant, happy, fun, and most important, have a great deal of respect for each other, and me. A few I wouldn’t give you a plug nickel for, but they respect me and I in turn respect them.

Originally Posted by good times

Good question, he is kind of a fixture around the club, as he has been personal friends of the managers for years. He is one of two singal males they allow into the club on couples only nights. It's kind of a small club so not having ocasional contact with him is pretty much impossible. As you would imagine though I don't go out of my way to talk to him.

Ahhh, I see. And your right, ther's no sense in letting this guy keep you away from a good time.

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by EternallySingle

Where in the midwest is this club where single guys are allowed to mingle and not just sit at the bar and try to look approachable? The only swing clubs I've been to since moving from out west all REQUIRED single men to stay at the bar. Its in their rules and the one I did get into as a single man (other than the one where I was treated like a stray dog with mange the week after my girlfriend moved) reminded me of that when I left the bar and went to the restroom. I couldn't even shoot pool unless a couple invited me.

I guess its just where I've been. Hard to get a good impression of a place when you never get in the door.

The club we go to doesn't have any such rules. We don't think we would attend one that did. We've only seen one time where there was any trouble with a single guy who kept reaching in to touch a couple after he was told "no". He was immediately asked to leave the club. Most of the guys are very nice and fun (all of them that we've met, but we're sure there are some that we haven't met yet.). We or someone else will normally hollar at them to come sit with us, even if we have no intention of having sex with them. It's not nice to leave people sit by themselves.
We don't remember any single guys hitting on C when J wasn't around. There has however, been a woman that was extremely flirtatious, whenever C walked away but would turn away and be far more conservative when she came back. Needless to say after a few hours of that, when C came back she just leaned over and whispered "I don't like her, she only trys to flirt when I walk away. No playing with her, ok?" End of subject: She wasn't getting anywhere with the one she had set her sights on. LOL! Now the single guy that talked to both of us, and the lady that danced and flirted (and a little more, with C there) .......Well, Let's just say we all had a really good time! Singles really burn their bridges by trying to be sneeky. It's an open atmosphere: Be open about your intentions. Everyone will have a lot more fun, and you might get what you want!

[k_francis]

Most clubs/events that we've attended don't even allow single males. One event, many years ago, had an open-door policy and charged heavily for entry. We learnt that there were 100-150 single guys present and only about half a dozen couples. It was a "meat market" and we left pretty smartly... with another couple in tow.

[CABob]

A female friend and I attended a swing patry in Nor Cali recently where single males were screened carefully and only a few goodlooking males were allowed. Surprisingly, they were all gentleman and extremely well hung. Needless to say, my date had a multiple moments of extreme, orgasmic, pleasure.

[Russ]

Originally Posted by EternallySingle

Where in the midwest is this club where single guys are allowed to mingle and not just sit at the bar and try to look approachable? The only swing clubs I've been to since moving from out west all REQUIRED single men to stay at the bar. Its in their rules and the one I did get into as a single man (other than the one where I was treated like a stray dog with mange the week after my girlfriend moved) reminded me of that when I left the bar and went to the restroom. I couldn't even shoot pool unless a couple invited me.

I guess its just where I've been. Hard to get a good impression of a place when you never get in the door.

Still, I've seen the situation you're talking about. I took BW to a club once and the moment I turned to get a drink, I heard a slap and saw acting like he got caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Turns out he had played with her before and decided he could squeeze a melon. When I said "she's with me," he replied "she's just your ticket. Don't get all possessive." Good thing he was four inches shorter and about sixty pounds lighter than me. I felt too sorry for him to break his jaw.

Dittos- we must have been in the same clubs ( arn't that many that even let the single males in) I remember the screening/rules briefing ...you know the private little chat...where you supply the right answers.

No means no, "maybe later" means no... only more polite. How many times can you approach a couple or lady after the first 'no'- zero.

Where must you stay? no wondering around, no leaving this room unless escorted/invited, bar & darts....blah, blah, Enjoy your evening, thinks for the $40 donation and the $100 membership....sorry although you are a N.A.S.C.A. member...we require you purchase 'our' membership and sign this 'release from lib' form.

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by Russ

Dittos- we must have been in the same clubs ( arn't that many that even let the single males in) I remember the screening/rules briefing ...you know the private little chat...where you supply the right answers.

No means no, "maybe later" means no... only more polite. How many times can you approach a couple or lady after the first 'no'- zero.

Where must you stay? no wondering around, no leaving this room unless escorted/invited, bar & darts....blah, blah, Enjoy your evening, thinks for the $40 donation and the $100 membership....sorry although you are a N.A.S.C.A. member...we require you purchase 'our' membership and sign this 'release from lib' form.

LOL. We thought of the board and all of the discussions about single males while we were at the club this weekend and couldn't help but laugh. There was another thread that talked about couples creating the very things they complain about, and we think that these "club rules" are a prime example of that. There were two or three attractive, polite, nice single males there this weekend mingling and talking and dancing etc. and as always we had a great time. We were wondering "Why is this club so different?" "Where are all of the morons?" and it dawned on us! What self respecting man would go to a club that treated him like a subhuman, and expected him to not only like it, but feel privileged for being allowed to be in the presence of other club goers!? hmmmmm......We think only those that are less than desirable. We couldn't imagine most of the males we play with allowing themselves to be treated like that. Would you go? Can you think of anyone that would?


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[curious24]

I always thought that the rules were just common sense. If you didn't have that then you probably aren't going to go far in swinging?

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by curious24

I always thought that the rules were just common sense. If you didn't have that then you probably aren't going to go far in swinging?

hmmmm....apparently didn't explain well enough again........Meant the swing club rules where the single males have to sit at the bar and can't go mingle or talk to anyone unless they are approached etc. We wouldn't consider that "common sense".

[curious24]

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

hmmmm....apparently didn't explain well enough again........Meant the swing club rules where the single males have to sit at the bar and can't go mingle or talk to anyone unless they are approached etc. We wouldn't consider that "common sense".

Actually yes I would. I would never approach anyone at a swinger club. Then again that's just me. I figure with the way the single male is thought of that it's obvious (at least to me) that approaching couples/females at a swinger club wouldn't be accepted.

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by curious24

Actually yes I would. I would never approach anyone at a swinger club. Then again that's just me. I figure with the way the single male is thought of that it's obvious (at least to me) that approaching couples/females at a swinger club wouldn't be accepted.

Hmmmmm.....the club we attend has no such rules, and if it did, we wouldn't go. The singles that have approached us, and other couples that we know, have been polite and well mannered. Not one has walked up and said "hey, lets have sex", or "hey, can I do your wife?". Every one of them has introduced themselves, and spent a little time trying to get to know us. Honestly, if some of the single guys didn't make an effort to talk to us, we would never know they were interested. Just doesn't make sense to us to treat single males as second class citizens. How many couples would go to the clubs if they had to sit at the bar and wait until a single guy escorted them into other areas? Seems ludicrous to us. Oh well, Guess we're just wierd. This is certainly not the first time we're the minority!

[Russ]

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

Hmmmmm.....the club we attend has no such rules, and if it did, we wouldn't go. The singles that have approached us, and other couples that we know, have been polite and well mannered. Not one has walked up and said "hey, lets have sex", or "hey, can I do your wife?". Every one of them has introduced themselves, and spent a little time trying to get to know us. Honestly, if some of the single guys didn't make an effort to talk to us, we would never know they were interested. Just doesn't make sense to us to treat single males as second class citizens. How many couples would go to the clubs if they had to sit at the bar and wait until a single guy escorted them into other areas? Seems ludicrous to us. Oh well, Guess we're just wierd. This is certainly not the first time we're the minority!

Actually, Right and wrong, the club that I was refering to by the post "guess we been in the same club" were the rules of a certain club in TN, there are much nicer clubs> the best so far where I was 'approved' is in your home state..Ft. Wayne. But then again, do all the couples know the exact briefing a single male gets when he makes it past the phone interview, and the screening..or could the 'posted rules' that the couples are shown differ from what is actually told the single male(in private)? If I could get by Ft. Wayne every Friday that would be great but you got to 'settle' for the club you can make it to...that's where you're at. So the main point is just follow the rules have a good time be happy you got in. My advise is not to think you're in a pick-up bar just a really great strip club...where you might just get lucky..and if not just enjoy your BYOB, be proud that you where clean& attractive enough, passed the interview, thankful that no one was standing there with a 'dick meter' and told you to drop your pants to be approved (that last part was a joke...I hope that's not a regular requirement at any club I might plan on checking out) and just enjoy the beautiful wives in their 'evening wear'.