Sorta ,almost Single Men

wildtwo4uinva · 10-01-2004, 04:09 PM

K we have run into this situation several times in the last few weeks......A male answers our Swing Lifestyle ad....tells us that he is single..or that his wife let's him play alone,or his wife is no longer in the picture (Did he do away with her)

.....and they usually say in their profile,that they are now single,but haven't had time to change their profile..(Had time to write it in the text)...

...now we haven't had this problem much before...but now it's like all the time...is this a new trend? Or whatever?..........anyone else run into this a lot lately? D&S

biblonde · 10-01-2004, 04:22 PM

We have had couples that end up being married but not to each other and did get one from a guy that states he is a couple has pics of her and the profile reads that they are a couple but once we emailed he came back with his wife is taking a break (although they just joined ) but we could still meet and he does have a friend that is willing to play....Personally I think these are single guys or guys cheating on their wives....that is when you use the block button!

**good times** · 10-01-2004, 05:14 PM

I think all of the recent television publicity on swinging has brought these type of individuals out in droves. I have noticed a large increase in this in just the last six months or so.

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-01-2004, 06:11 PM

I think the fault for this in a way lies greatly with the ad sites. Most ad sites, lately, are limiting the amount of functionality that the singles get for free... or increasing the price for singles if they pay. Also, many are building in functions to block singles from responding to those who do not want to be contacted by singles.

So... the best way for the singles to get around this? register as a couple instead. Since many sites do have to approve ads before they are posted they will post as a couple initially then go back and change the ad once it is approved.

Beyond that most sites do not even allow you to change the actual status of an ad from a couple seeking to single seeking or vice-versa... which I think is a good thing. So, if they are telling the truth and they were originally a couple and are now suddenly single, they would have to place a whole new ad (which is evidently just too hard for some people).

BradAndJanet · 10-01-2004, 06:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

... So... the best way for the singles to get around this? register as a couple instead. Since many sites do have to approve ads before they are posted they will post as a couple initially then go back and change the ad once it is approved. ...

I think you're absolutely right about that. We've been contacted by several 'couples' on Swing Lifestyle recently where the profiles say, "wife is taking a break". Ya, right!

Those we don't even respond to...

-B

OhioCouple · 10-02-2004, 06:51 AM

I believe Julie hit the nail square on the head. We belong to Swappernet and we block singles, however that doesn't stop them from creating a couples profile so that they can contact couples. I don't believe tho, (singles who are paying memebers) that they are blocked from any access other than writing the couples. I'm not sure about other sites, but if you were a couple and now single or vice-versa you can change your profile to reflect such without having to re-join and pay more money, so at least on Swappernet, there is no excuse why an up-and-up individual couldn't have their profile reflect their true status.

LikeMinds321 · 10-02-2004, 01:15 PM

Julie is right on.

We've been seeing the faux couple ads for some time.

If I had a devious mind

I would do the same thing.

***

All of you who know me know I would never do such a thing...I simply enjoy thinking naughty sometimes.

LM

WesternSwing · 10-02-2004, 01:55 PM

We've been contacted by many "couples", mostly giving access to their private pictures and wanting access to ours in exchange, but with such sketchy information filled-in on their profiles (on one the pic was lifted from a porn site - he forgot to take the site name and copyright info out of the bottom right side of the pic) you know it is single guys, or pic collectors posing as couples to either get in with a couple, or to just get-off looking at your pics.

My bride and I were leaving night club recently when we met a single guy that had been a real nuisance at a couple of parties we attended. He was nice that night and invited us to his table to buy us a round of drinks and introduce us to his girlfriend. I guess he thought now that he had an SO we would be open to playing with him.

The drink was appreciated though.

Mr. WS

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-02-2004, 05:31 PM

When you run into situations like this where it is quite obvious that people are being decietful, ALWAYS report them to the site admins. Most sites care enough that they will pull the ad. I know especially Swing Lifestyle they already go out of their way to keep couples from having to deal with single guys unless they want to that I know they wouldn't allow ads like that to stay.

talltxlady · 10-02-2004, 11:31 PM

What about ads that say they are single, but you open it and it's from the male of a married couple trying to find someone to loosen up his wife??

Also, does anyone else feel that if someone WAS truly a couple, and the g/f left, that this person isn't real steady in their relationships and maybe should be avoided??

Just some questions from a newbie.

talltxlady (married to hytril)

LikeMinds321 · 10-02-2004, 11:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by talltxlady

What about ads that say they are single, but you open it and it's from the male of a married couple trying to find someone to loosen up his wife??

Leave those alone.

Quote:

Also, does anyone else feel that if someone WAS truly a couple, and the g/f left, that this person isn't real steady in their relationships and maybe should be avoided??

Just some questions from a newbie.

talltxlady (married to hytril)

I'd avoid them.

LM

BradAndJanet · 10-03-2004, 01:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

When you run into situations like this where it is quite obvious that people are being decietful, ALWAYS report them to the site admins. Most sites care enough that they will pull the ad. I know especially<a href="http://swingersboard.swinglifestyle.com">SLS</a> they already go out of their way to keep couples from having to deal with single guys unless they want to that I know they wouldn't allow ads like that to stay.

Absolutely, in the cases where it's blatant. What do you do, though, in the case of 'wife is taking a break'? I thought about reporting it, but there was this shadow of doubt, however unlikely, that he might be telling the truth. There's no way to prove it either way.

-B

ALilOEverything · 10-03-2004, 08:27 PM

What about those that are single women but you open them and it's really a couple? I think most are really couples and just pose as a single women to get more views. I can't imagine it's all single women who later hooked up and now are couples. Or did they start solo looking for other women to explore their bi side and now their husbands want to join in. So anyhow, I think there are just as many sorta almost single women.

curiousagain · 10-03-2004, 08:43 PM

I too have found many of the single women profiles on Swing Lifestyle are actually couples and by scanning ads of single women and couples with pics you will see several "single" women who are also listed as part of a couple.

Also, some of the single women profiles are couples where the male is bi and they tell you that after communications are going back and forth.

Anyway, as I always say

Play safe and play careful, it's a big world out there
Curiousagain

EternallySingle · 10-03-2004, 09:16 PM

I've found very few single women on Swing Lifestyle or any swing site in the last four years. Most are couples and often, in the first or second sentence, she will say she's part of a couple and either that she and her husband have seperate ads or that she's looking for women just for her and he won't be/has never been involved. I've made the mistake of writing to a few of those, and been burned by emails from the guys asking why I'm hitting on his wife.

I guess I should have gone with the "I have an 8" dick and like eating pussy all night long" instead of asking about where they feel most comfortable meeting, what do they actually look for in single men, and telling them what I look for in couples.

:LOL: I love people who lead me on. Makes me feel so much better about myself.

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10-01-2004, 04:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
wildtwo4uinva Active Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 11 Location: swva Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:watchanBwatched	Sorta ,almost Single Men K we have run into this situation several times in the last few weeks......A male answers our Swing Lifestyle ad....tells us that he is single..or that his wife let's him play alone,or his wife is no longer in the picture (Did he do away with her) .....and they usually say in their profile,that they are now single,but haven't had time to change their profile..(Had time to write it in the text)... ...now we haven't had this problem much before...but now it's like all the time...is this a new trend? Or whatever?..........anyone else run into this a lot lately? D&S

10-01-2004, 04:22 PM	#2 (permalink)
biblonde Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,020 Location: sacramento Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curious1918	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men We have had couples that end up being married but not to each other and did get one from a guy that states he is a couple has pics of her and the profile reads that they are a couple but once we emailed he came back with his wife is taking a break (although they just joined ) but we could still meet and he does have a friend that is willing to play....Personally I think these are single guys or guys cheating on their wives....that is when you use the block button!

10-01-2004, 05:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men I think all of the recent television publicity on swinging has brought these type of individuals out in droves. I have noticed a large increase in this in just the last six months or so.
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10-01-2004, 06:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,291 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men I think the fault for this in a way lies greatly with the ad sites. Most ad sites, lately, are limiting the amount of functionality that the singles get for free... or increasing the price for singles if they pay. Also, many are building in functions to block singles from responding to those who do not want to be contacted by singles. So... the best way for the singles to get around this? register as a couple instead. Since many sites do have to approve ads before they are posted they will post as a couple initially then go back and change the ad once it is approved. Beyond that most sites do not even allow you to change the actual status of an ad from a couple seeking to single seeking or vice-versa... which I think is a good thing. So, if they are telling the truth and they were originally a couple and are now suddenly single, they would have to place a whole new ad (which is evidently just too hard for some people).

10-02-2004, 06:51 AM	#6 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men I believe Julie hit the nail square on the head. We belong to Swappernet and we block singles, however that doesn't stop them from creating a couples profile so that they can contact couples. I don't believe tho, (singles who are paying memebers) that they are blocked from any access other than writing the couples. I'm not sure about other sites, but if you were a couple and now single or vice-versa you can change your profile to reflect such without having to re-join and pay more money, so at least on Swappernet, there is no excuse why an up-and-up individual couldn't have their profile reflect their true status.
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10-02-2004, 01:15 PM	#7 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 I'll think about it Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 10,099 Location: With Wild Things Status: Married Female	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men Julie is right on. We've been seeing the faux couple ads for some time. If I had a devious mind I would do the same thing. *** All of you who know me know I would never do such a thing...I simply enjoy thinking naughty sometimes. LM
	Last edited by LikeMinds321; 10-02-2004 at 02:34 PM. Reason: 2nd thoughts

10-02-2004, 01:55 PM	#8 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,973 Location: Utah Status: Single Male	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men We've been contacted by many "couples", mostly giving access to their private pictures and wanting access to ours in exchange, but with such sketchy information filled-in on their profiles (on one the pic was lifted from a porn site - he forgot to take the site name and copyright info out of the bottom right side of the pic) you know it is single guys, or pic collectors posing as couples to either get in with a couple, or to just get-off looking at your pics. My bride and I were leaving night club recently when we met a single guy that had been a real nuisance at a couple of parties we attended. He was nice that night and invited us to his table to buy us a round of drinks and introduce us to his girlfriend. I guess he thought now that he had an SO we would be open to playing with him. The drink was appreciated though. Mr. WS
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10-02-2004, 05:31 PM	#9 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,291 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men When you run into situations like this where it is quite obvious that people are being decietful, ALWAYS report them to the site admins. Most sites care enough that they will pull the ad. I know especially Swing Lifestyle they already go out of their way to keep couples from having to deal with single guys unless they want to that I know they wouldn't allow ads like that to stay.

10-02-2004, 11:31 PM	#10 (permalink)
talltxlady Active Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 28 Location: Houston Status: M. Female	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men What about ads that say they are single, but you open it and it's from the male of a married couple trying to find someone to loosen up his wife?? Also, does anyone else feel that if someone WAS truly a couple, and the g/f left, that this person isn't real steady in their relationships and maybe should be avoided?? Just some questions from a newbie. talltxlady (married to hytril)

10-03-2004, 08:27 PM	#13 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,847 Location: Michigan Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:aliloeverything	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men What about those that are single women but you open them and it's really a couple? I think most are really couples and just pose as a single women to get more views. I can't imagine it's all single women who later hooked up and now are couples. Or did they start solo looking for other women to explore their bi side and now their husbands want to join in. So anyhow, I think there are just as many sorta almost single women.
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10-03-2004, 08:43 PM	#14 (permalink)
curiousagain A gentleman never tells Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 2,131 Location: Southeastern USA Status: half of a couple	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men I too have found many of the single women profiles on Swing Lifestyle are actually couples and by scanning ads of single women and couples with pics you will see several "single" women who are also listed as part of a couple. Also, some of the single women profiles are couples where the male is bi and they tell you that after communications are going back and forth. Anyway, as I always say Play safe and play careful, it's a big world out there Curiousagain

10-03-2004, 09:16 PM	#15 (permalink)
EternallySingle Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 1,035 Location: Michigan Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:ABSingleMan	Re: Sorta ,almost Single Men I've found very few single women on Swing Lifestyle or any swing site in the last four years. Most are couples and often, in the first or second sentence, she will say she's part of a couple and either that she and her husband have seperate ads or that she's looking for women just for her and he won't be/has never been involved. I've made the mistake of writing to a few of those, and been burned by emails from the guys asking why I'm hitting on his wife. I guess I should have gone with the "I have an 8" dick and like eating pussy all night long" instead of asking about where they feel most comfortable meeting, what do they actually look for in single men, and telling them what I look for in couples. :LOL: I love people who lead me on. Makes me feel so much better about myself.
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