* don't expect anything. every place is different and every night can be different.
* the few clubs we've been to we have found groups tend to hang out with already known groups, so look for other 'newcomers'
*we've gone to parties where there was very little fn, and others lots-- all depends
*i am not sure how Nat'l Swingers Day fits into all of this-- i guess if a party is listed acknowledging then that might be cool
*not sure, but if you want something to happen, why not try the group room where others can join in? or if you want to warm up and chat first that might be a different beast
best wishes and happy birthday to your friend!