First time at a club

[RBrooksC]

Ok, our last time we tried something like this was at a house party. It was "fun" but we never could really close the deal with any couples because we weren't really sure exactly what we were doing. Also, it did seem everybody there knew each other so it made it feel a little more difficult.

So, this time we are going to try a club around Baltimore. It is on-premesis. It is also my friend's birthday. We are going there with another couple which will help but we are just curious from those who go to these clubs a few things.

• What should we expect at the club?
• How do we actually close the deal? Is it as easy as saying, "do you want to go downstairs with us?
• My friend wants to try to find a few couples at the club so she can experience both a bunch of girls and a bunch of guys for her birthday. Is that is in the relm of possibilities?
• I heard Saturday is National Swingers Day or something. Would that make a diffence in what happens at the club?

Yes, we are going there with NO expectations. After the House Party resultes, we know that is the best way. But how should we approach this so we can get the best experience out of it for her birthday?

Thank you all for your help! It is very much appreciated.

[twistedpretzels]

* don't expect anything. every place is different and every night can be different.
* the few clubs we've been to we have found groups tend to hang out with already known groups, so look for other 'newcomers'
*we've gone to parties where there was very little fn, and others lots-- all depends
*i am not sure how Nat'l Swingers Day fits into all of this-- i guess if a party is listed acknowledging then that might be cool
*not sure, but if you want something to happen, why not try the group room where others can join in? or if you want to warm up and chat first that might be a different beast

best wishes and happy birthday to your friend!

[km34]

So, this time we are going to try a club around Baltimore. It is on-premesis. It is also my friend's birthday. We are going there with another couple which will help but we are just curious from those who go to these clubs a few things.

I think going with friends is always helpful. It's easier to be bold in a small group than on your own.

What should we expect at the club?

Visit their website or talk to some locals who have been there, if possible. The most you can really expect is a certain type of dress, and you can usually get an idea of the usual age range/music preferences/atmosphere in advance. The "action" really depends night by night.

How do we actually close the deal? Is it as easy as saying, "do you want to go downstairs with us?

Usually. lol Or setting up in one of the open play areas to see who joins in.

My friend wants to try to find a few couples at the club so she can experience both a bunch of girls and a bunch of guys for her birthday. Is that is in the relm of possibilities?

In the realm of possibilities, sure, but maybe not in the realm of what you should expect. Since it's her birthday, though, people are usually pretty eager to make it a fun one (in my experience).

I heard Saturday is National Swingers Day or something. Would that make a diffence in what happens at the club?

Never heard of it. The club may do something in recognition, but I doubt it'll affect much (if anything).

Yes, we are going there with NO expectations. After the House Party resultes, we know that is the best way. But how should we approach this so we can get the best experience out of it for her birthday?

I think just going in knowing you're with friends and are going to have fun no matter what is the way to go. If she goes in expecting to get attention because it's her birthday, then she could be disappointed if there's no one she's (or you're) interested in there or nobody seems interested in what she (or you) want to have happen.

Be ready to mingle, jump in conversations, and just be flirty and outgoing. Most importantly, though, relax and just enjoy the atmosphere.

[Desdemona1980]

What should we expect at the club? Have no expectations, other than to have fun and go home and have wild passionate sex with each other!
How do we actually close the deal? Is it as easy as saying, "do you want to go downstairs with us? Let the conversation flow freely and if you get "signals" from the other people/person, politely ask if they'd like to join you in a room.
My friend wants to try to find a few couples at the club so she can experience both a bunch of girls and a bunch of guys for her birthday. Is that is in the relm of possibilities? It could be, especially in a group room. Just remember you need permission to touch even in a group room.
I heard Saturday is National Swingers Day or something. Would that make a diffence in what happens at the club? I didn't know there was a National Swinger's Day.

[VegasLee]

You have been given very good advise here. Don't expect anything except for you to have some fun. It is all up to you. You are the party.

As far as National Swinger's Day, that is something that someone made up at some point. Clubs don't do anything for made up holidays that I am aware of.

Go with the idea you are going to have fun because you are going to make it fun. Don't expect anyone else to make your night for you.

[JustAskJulie]

[*]What should we expect at the club?
Nothing. You may just go and have fun with each other and not meet anyone you want to play with, or you might meet a dozen couples and fulfill every fantasy you have.
[*]How do we actually close the deal? Is it as easy as saying, "do you want to go downstairs with us?
Yes, it is that easy.
[*]My friend wants to try to find a few couples at the club so she can experience both a bunch of girls and a bunch of guys for her birthday. Is that is in the relm of possibilities?
It's in the realm, but unlikely. Start small, but who knows. If you want lots of action find the group play rooms and start playing.
[*]I heard Saturday is National Swingers Day or something. Would that make a diffence in what happens at the club?
Nope, it won't affect things at all. It's just another day.