Critique our (wife and I) rationale for looking into swinging.

[M1F2KTJ]

You sound like someone that might be hard to please. You pointed out that you were being "comedic" and I didn't get that until the end of your post when I read it. You are looking for a critique so here is mine ... I get the impression that you are very nervous about doing "it". I'm lucky I think in that our first experience was awesome and exceeded all of my expectations but from reading the posts here it is not that way for everybody. You should expect that your experience might not go as you have seen in your fantasies. I wish you luck. When everything goes right it is truly a most memorable lifetime experience

[cupl4fun]

"I totally derailed my own thread..."

The power of humor, comes with great responsibility

[Frzrbrn]

You sound like someone that might be hard to please. You pointed out that you were being "comedic" and I didn't get that until the end of your post when I read it. You are looking for a critique so here is mine ... I get the impression that you are very nervous about doing "it". I'm lucky I think in that our first experience was awesome and exceeded all of my expectations but from reading the posts here it is not that way for everybody. You should expect that your experience might not go as you have seen in your fantasies. I wish you luck. When everything goes right it is truly a most memorable lifetime experience

We haven't gotten far enough along to be nervous about anything.

But I imagine some type of anxiety exist for everybody. I do imagine butterflies or being nervous as just part of the whole experience. I'd even go out on a limb and say "seasoned veterans" still experience some type of anxiety.

[cupl4fun]

We haven't gotten far enough along to be nervous about anything.

But I imagine some type of anxiety exist for everybody. I do imagine butterflies or being nervous as just part of the whole experience. I'd even go out on a limb and say "seasoned veterans" still experience some type of anxiety.

We were so nervous that we were basically numb the entire time during our first play time. It was like excitement/sensory overload through the whole time we played. We had amazingly hot sex after though, kinda like a delayed reaction. It was exciting enough to think about our playtime afterwards that we still wanted to try again. Each time got better after that (except for a few mismatches). But, we both still get butterflies every time we go out. Nervous (especially the first time) is par for the course at least in our experience.

[Jim_N_Tink]

Wowzers.
Looks like ya hit a nerve, bud.

I think that you're on the right track. When Tink and I met our first couple (it's been almost 8 months now, and they've become dear friends, believe it or not- yeah, big surprise) we were so nervous; and we had a lot of discussion about situations and how we would deal with them.

For example: "Would you kiss him?" How would you feel if I kissed her?" How would you feel if during our first meet (at a local pool hall/dance hall ) if I or you slow danced with one of them?

So yeah, I think that talking about it is a good thing.

Now, here's something- I only glanced at all the posts on this thread, and I didn't see anything about the idea of you guys going to a club together, just to sort of stick your toes in, see what's happening, and then either getting down w/ each other or going home and having wild monkey sex.

Going to a club doesn't mean that you have to do anything with other people- you're on a recon mission sort of. That's how Tink & I tried the lifestyle for the first time. We didn't do anything w/ any-body's body other than each other.

But it was HOT!

Maybe that would be a good way to start.

Otherwise you're doing good- and yeah, you do write funny!